to uninvite people from our wedding?

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We sent out save the dates in January for our wedding next summer (less than a year now!).

Coronavirus exposed our venue to some pretty shady behaviour - refusal to refund any weddings, refusing contact, lots of publicity in the papers and court cases ahead. I don't know if the venue will remain viable by the time our wedding comes around and I am not wanting to deal with the stress. This wedding was also 5 hour drive from where we live (and majority of the party) and over more than one day as DP is the bridezilla in this scenario! It would have been fun but required a lot of planning and money and I don't think we will pull it off.

I started to think of alternative venues knowing at worst we'd lose our wedding deposit (£1.5k) but wanted to prepare. I found an amazing venue abroad that meets both our tastes. We visited recently and it was perfect, we love it. Overall it'll come in cheaper than the other wedding (including lost deposit) and would be more grand and in line with our tastes. We also get a planner etc so nothing it to be worried about by me!

The place is easy to access and return flights are £70, all our friends are jet setters. However, it is not a child-friendly wedding but neither was the one before.
Due to maximum capacity we can only have 30 people at our new venue, our original guestlist and save the dates were 50-60.

How would you 'uninvite' people? We were going to throw a party in the UK after for those that can't come.

I don’t want to be a Debbie Downer but if your new venue is only accessible by air the carbon footprint of getting everyone there and back is going to be ridiculous. Not to mention the Covid gamble. I think we’ll look back at the pre—Covid era of cheap flights and weekends away in Istanbul as v environmentally wasteful.

I think we’ll look back at the pre—Covid era of cheap flights and weekends away in Istanbul as v environmentally wasteful.

bluejelly Thankfully doubtful. Once it’s safe I’ll be resuming my usual abroad holidays and pretty much everyone else will too.

Travel is incredibly important to shape ones life and experiences; I’d say it’s essential to being a well rounded human being.

@heartsonacake

I think we’ll look back at the pre—Covid era of cheap flights and weekends away in Istanbul as v environmentally wasteful.

bluejelly Thankfully doubtful. Once it’s safe I’ll be resuming my usual abroad holidays and pretty much everyone else will too.

Travel is incredibly important to shape ones life and experiences; I’d say it’s essential to being a well rounded human being.

Oh dear hearts, having not left the country for 15 years I just be very maladjusted

Oh dear hearts, having not left the country for 15 years I just be very maladjusted

CrunchyNutNC If you haven’t travelled abroad and had cultural experiences in different countries then of course you’ll be sheltered, because you haven’t left your own country in so long.

Oh dear hearts, having not left the country for 15 years I just be very maladjusted

It's not about being maladjusted. It's about having smaller horizons. Which is fine. There are some people who never read a book past school. I just wouldn't choose to be one of those people.

Travel is great. I absolutely love it.
We don't need to fly 4-5 times a year. It's quite literally destroying the planet as the greenhouse gases are pumped directly into the atmosphere making them even more damaging than at ground level.
Personally I think flying should be rationed - maybe once a year or every two years. There are lots of other options for holidays inc taking the train, ferry, staying in your home country.

@heartsonacake

Oh dear hearts, having not left the country for 15 years I just be very maladjusted

CrunchyNutNC If you haven’t travelled abroad and had cultural experiences in different countries then of course you’ll be sheltered, because you haven’t left your own country in so long.

Sheltered? Are you serious?

It's a ridiculous sweeping statement.

There's a big difference between travelling abroad and experiencing culture (package holiday to a resort anyone?), nor do those of us less 'rounded' individuals necessarily skip cultural experience in the UK.

@MrsTerryPratchett

Oh dear hearts, having not left the country for 15 years I just be very maladjusted

It's not about being maladjusted. It's about having smaller horizons. Which is fine. There are some people who never read a book past school. I just wouldn't choose to be one of those people.

Ouch.

I do not have small horizons thanks. And I read very widely.

If big horizons means assuming that those who don't travel abroad every year are small minded, less cultured, or otherwise less 'rounded' then quite frankly you can keep it.

There's a big difference between travelling abroad and experiencing culture (package holiday to a resort anyone?), nor do those of us less 'rounded' individuals necessarily skip cultural experience in the UK.

CrunchNutNC Of course you can still have cultural experiences in the U.K., nobody is saying otherwise. But if you never leave the country, there are a multitude of experiences, cultures, destinations you’re missing out on that you can never have here.

So of course that makes you sheltered. You’re literally restricting yourself.

If you’re happy with that that’s fine, but don’t pretend you aren’t missing out by not going abroad, because you are.

I wouldn’t bet on those flights being £70 next year.

hearts but that isn't necessarily achieved by 'going abroad'. Many people go abroad regularly and avoid local culture.

Our own country is rich in culture - that of the nations, that of various immigrant populations. We have a multitude of languages. It is possible to travel domestically and experience horizon stretching new possibilities too.

Nothing magical happens the moment you arrive in a foreign country that makes you instantly more rounded. Travelling around India or Bolivia will give a very different experience but it is very much a minority activity.

I don't think you can legitimately claim that someone is sheltered because the haven't been abroad recently. On my last UK holiday I toured northern Ireland which was fascinating and sad and wonderful (mainly the latter) and I still think about the questions it raised for me in terms of ethnic and national identity, etc. I could have spent the week in Spain and not had such anything like that experience.

I don't think you'll have any trouble persuading guests not to go when you tell them what you're doing 😮