Req money as wedding present

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I'm getting married next year and we are now thinking about sending invites out, a few people including my DP have suggested putting a nice poem/note on the invitation about how we don't expect a present but if people would like to they can contribute to our honeymoon.
Honestly, if someone put it on the invite to me I wouldn't think twice but now that it's me sending the invite I worry that it's cheeky!
I honestly don't expect presents but I understand that people like to give presents. I just worry that people that maybe wouldn't have got us a present will now feel like they have to? But the again I personally wouldn't attempt a wedding without a present so who knows!
What would your thoughts be if you got a money request as a present if it was formatted nicely?

[quote WouldBeGood]@SchrodingersImmigrant that was my answer to the dinner party question. Or should I bring money for my hosts?[/quote]
Oh sorry! I got turned around somewhere trying to catch up on the thread. Apologies😂

Rum is better

@SchrodingersImmigrant hapoy to bring rum to yours 😃

What many have said they dislike is being asked for it

It is exactly this. I always give money, but if I'm asked for it in the invitation I reduce the amount by half.

The whole “asking for gifts” is just tacky

It isn't asking for gifts, it's acknowledging that gifts are often given at weddings and making that process as easy for your guests as it can be.

Noone says 'please give us money'. They say if you want to give a gift, here is our list or we would prefer monetary contributions for x.

And people who call others tacky lack class. It's embarrassing.

[quote WouldBeGood]@SchrodingersImmigrant hapoy to bring rum to yours 😃[/quote]
Deal. I shall create some rum snacks. Maybe pirate themed.

Damn. If I was getting married again I would have it pirate themed bash😂

Damn. If I was getting married again I would have it pirate themed bash

You could ask for pieces of eight in the invitation.

@ClickandForget

Damn. If I was getting married again I would have it pirate themed bash

You could ask for pieces of eight in the invitation.

Would that silver count as asking for money or as asking for a present😂

whatever you do, don't put a poem

@angelfishrock

whatever you do, don't put a poem

Arrr

We 'ave happy news we needs t' tell! We be gettin' married 'n wants ye thar as Davy Jones' locker.

If ye be joinin' us don't brin' us treasures too big , an envelope wit' silver will do

It rhymed before translation.

Also. There is a pirate speak translator😂

I'll never understand how much people on here seem to hate everyone in their life

It's so odd isn't it. One poster said they'd never speak to someone ever again who asked for money 😂😂

@ClickandForget

What many have said they dislike is being asked for it

It is exactly this. I always give money, but if I'm asked for it in the invitation I reduce the amount by half.

Christ I bet you're a really good friend

It's a shame you're anonymous you'd probably do any future couples a favour so they could invite you.

Imagine judging and making a decision like that over a bloody sodding wedding invite.

*uninvite

I always give money, but if I'm asked for it in the invitation I reduce the amount by half

How utterly pathetic and mean to 'punish' your guests for not making you ask. I'm so pleased I don't have such weirdos in my life I have to say.

@GlummyMcGlummerson

I always give money, but if I'm asked for it in the invitation I reduce the amount by half

How utterly pathetic and mean to 'punish' your guests for not making you ask. I'm so pleased I don't have such weirdos in my life I have to say.

You don't know.

They'd hardly announce it.

@Nanny0gg I do think I'm good at sniffing out tight arses at 20 paces though and I'd avoid anyone with weird upper-class-wannabe-etiquette-nonsense like the plague

How utterly pathetic and mean to 'punish' your guests for not making you ask*.

I wouldn't need to ask. I'd just give them cash. I always do. Just less if they're cheeky buggers and ask for cash up front.

We didn't put anything on our invites as it's cringe worthy, got a few presents, but mostly money anyways.

@ClickandForget

How utterly pathetic and mean to 'punish' your guests for not making you ask*.

I wouldn't need to ask. I'd just give them cash. I always do. Just less if they're cheeky buggers and ask for cash up front.

You give cash based on invite wording and you're calling them cheeky buggers..... Hmmm.

But why @ClickandForget - if you're gonna do it anyway why is it "cheeky" for them to anticipate it. What if it was a Greek or Irish wedding?

No one has actually explained why asking for cash is rude yet, just lots and lots of "it's rude".

I hate this attitude on mumsnet of not asking for money or being called grabby for doing so. As we know you should wear a bin bag and get married in your registery office only and no gifts/money.

99% of People won’t attend a wedding empty handed, and most people would rather they give money to avoid going shopping and buying something that is of no use to couples who most probably have already got a living space and all the things they need. No one needs 3 toasters or 10 bread makers. We didnt say anything about gifts and out of 100 guests 3 gave us actual presents ( we got champagne flutes from
All of them, we now have 18!!!) the rest gave money, which probably cost them less than having to buy a present.

Its not grabby to have a wedding registry or asking for money or honeymoon experiences.

By all means request money and include a cheesy poem if you must. However don't send said poem/request to people only invited to your evening reception as I think it's beyond cheeky when people do that.

I'm loving the idea of stapling a toaster to someone's veil!

You slip people an envelope of cash when you go over for a meal or a birthday party?
For my tweens birthday parties it is the norm to give cash in cards.
I don't care either way, it saves me having to shop.

You give cash based on invite wording and you're calling them cheeky buggers..... Hmmm

Eeeerm . . . it's 'my' money. I earned it. I can choose how to spend it.