to suggest that half a baguette is enough?

[CoralFish]

Preparing a super-healthy (not really) lunch for me and DP of pork pie, cheddar cheese and that bread that comes part baked from the supermarket.

I comment that the bread is packaged as two small baguettes together, so I will have to freeze one once opened. DP says he "could have" a whole baguette. I ask him if he really wants a whole one - we normally share one. He says the same thing again. I read out the suggested serving and calories and say if he really wants a whole one I can freeze half of one, as I definitely don't. He goes off in a huff because I have apparently called him greedy and he only wants half. I cook one baguette.

My point is that at no point did he say he wanted a whole one just that he "could have" a whole one. I thought this was just a suggestion to make it easier wrt freezing.

Me checking the suggested portion size and calories was for myself. I concluded I did not want a whole one, so him having one would make no difference to ease of storage. Admittedly I did not explicitly state this, and I did not need to read it aloud to him, but I was labouring under the misapprehension that he was making a suggestion to try to make things easier, not that he actually wanted a whole one. I did not at any point use the word greedy or mean to imply it.

Was the whole thing just a misunderstanding on both our parts (and he should at the very least snap out of his huff), or am I being unreasonable and should apologise for 'calling him greedy'?

He was hungry and wanted a whole bagette.

Much ado about nothing.

You could have just asked a straight forward question of " do you want a whole or half baguette " -problem solved

I agree those baguettes should be shared.

Unless it's straight out of the oven with lashings of butter, of course.

Love your healthy lunch!

Sounds like a misunderstanding.

By saying he could have a whole one he meant he wanted a whole one.

And it sounds like there's a background of you policing his food, which is why he couldn't just say, I'm hungry, I'd like a whole baguette.

He clearly wanted a whole one and felt you were judging him, so decided to just have half.

It's a whole lot of drama over nothing. If he wants a whole baguette surely he can have a whole baguette?!

You need a hobby.

Does it matter if he wanted a whole one? Your thread title suggests you wouldn’t have approved.

Do you regularly make comments about how much he eats? Do you do exaggerated exclamations of how you couldn’t possible eat anymore making him feel bad.
A relative of mine constantly comments on her own ‘tiny’ appetite and how much everyone else can eats and it makes us all feel self-conscious and ‘watched’.

He wanted a whole baguette, you were weird about it so he had half instead 🤷‍♀️

If someone started to check calories and serving sizes after I just said ‘I could have a whole one’, I’d definitely assume they were trying to make a passive aggressive point.

You’d already decided you only wanted half. You didn’t need to check unless you were making a point.

when he repeated the same answer, it would have been reasonable to assume he wanted a whole one.

I would probably be miffed too if someone read out the serving recommendations.

But sulking is juvenile

bread is packaged as two small baguettes together

So it's half a small baguette?

You seriously checked the packet for calories?!

Let the man have a whole baguette!

Ludicrous were they the small baguettes? Also depends on size of pork pie/ how much cheese etc tbh.

You sound extremely controlling about food. I would have left you to your two baguettes.

I really dislike people who try to police what other people are eating and don't even do it in a straight out way, just snidey little comments designed to jab. Urgh.

Half of one of those wouldn't be enough for my DP, he always has a full one, and I would never police his food

I'd be in a huff with you too. You read out the suggested serving and calories and want to pretend you weren't trying to call him greedy? Yeah, ok, sure, you weren't .

My point is that at no point did he say he wanted a whole one just that he "could have" a whole one

But this is wretched semantics, no?

he said "he could have" a whole one. You've very literally taken this as "I have the human potential of being able to eat one, but this doesn't signify intent".

If someone says "I could have a whole one" that to me suggests they're up for eating a whole one now.

It feels like there's a whole load of other issues here beyond food prep, freezing and communication issues.

It sounds like you wanted to catch your DH out, then control him through semantics and depriving him of the thing he wanted based on his response.

Please tell me if I'm wrong.

Sounds like he wanted a whole one. Then you could have had half the other one.
Then half left for someone for later?
Reading out suggested servings and calories sounds a bit controlling to me.
If my DH wanted a whole one that's what I'd have given him.

It sounds like he was hungry and you started reading out the nutritional info of what he wanted to eat. That's slightly weird and paternalistic, sorry.

Hard to say. How big exactly is your partner's baguette?

So twice he said he could eat a whole one then you start reeling off the calories, I'd have been pissed off.

So what's your AIBU?

AIBU to faff about instead of just putting one and half into the oven?

AIBU to suggest to him half is enough?

Because your title and the rest don't fully match up.

Is this a mistake or did you read them out loud?
I read out the suggested serving and calories