to suggest that half a baguette is enough?

[CoralFish]

Preparing a super-healthy (not really) lunch for me and DP of pork pie, cheddar cheese and that bread that comes part baked from the supermarket.

I comment that the bread is packaged as two small baguettes together, so I will have to freeze one once opened. DP says he "could have" a whole baguette. I ask him if he really wants a whole one - we normally share one. He says the same thing again. I read out the suggested serving and calories and say if he really wants a whole one I can freeze half of one, as I definitely don't. He goes off in a huff because I have apparently called him greedy and he only wants half. I cook one baguette.

My point is that at no point did he say he wanted a whole one just that he "could have" a whole one. I thought this was just a suggestion to make it easier wrt freezing.

Me checking the suggested portion size and calories was for myself. I concluded I did not want a whole one, so him having one would make no difference to ease of storage. Admittedly I did not explicitly state this, and I did not need to read it aloud to him, but I was labouring under the misapprehension that he was making a suggestion to try to make things easier, not that he actually wanted a whole one. I did not at any point use the word greedy or mean to imply it.

Was the whole thing just a misunderstanding on both our parts (and he should at the very least snap out of his huff), or am I being unreasonable and should apologise for 'calling him greedy'?

I buy those part baked baguettes. They're really not that big. I have two teens. Half would not be enough for my 17 year old ds.

I second you need a hobby...

bread is packaged as two small baguettes together

I missed this. So he was only allowed to have half of one small baguette, a pork pie and a bit of cheese for his lunch.

Can I ask what you plan on having for dinner

Also your subject title says it all.

You suggest that half a baguette is enough. You want validation from others that your husband is greedy for suggesting otherwise.

And the "it comes in two halves, we must freeze the other half" suggests you're using the freezing argument as a way of coercing and suggesting that anything other than freezing that half would be greedy.

So please don't pin it on your DH's response. There's a passive aggressive agenda going on here already.

Can only imagine the outcry of this was reversed? He would accused of being controlling etc.

Fucking hell, you were eating cheese and pork pie why worry about the calories in a whole baguette.

He wanted a whole baguette, he said so twice, then you read aloud the calories and serving suggestion and made him feel like he would be greedy to do so.

I read out the suggested serving and calories and say if he really wants a whole one I can freeze half of one, as I definitely don't.

Why did you do this? What have the calories got to do with anything? If he wants a whole one who are you to police his food?

YABU. Obsess over calories for yourself if you want to but don’t go policing his.

Check the baguette for calories AND serve it with pork pie and cheese?

Dear God, give the man a bit more bread and stop trying to police his lunch.

Perhaps you didn’t mean to but most people would have felt a bit judged under the circumstances. If your dh has no weight issues and you’re not supporting him with weight loss then I can’t see why you didn’t make him one.

By reading out the calories, you were basically calling him greedy. If it had been purely for up or owl benefit I’m sure you could have read silently in your head...

Could easily wolf one of those down single handedly!!

Why read the calories out loud if you were just checking them for yourself. I'd be if dh did that to me.

You'd have been better off checking the calories on the pork pie.

I ask him if he really wants a whole one - we normally share one. He says the same thing again. I read out the suggested serving and calories and say if he really wants a whole one I can freeze half of one, as I definitely don't

Whether you meant to or not, this definitely implies he is greedy. You question whether he really wants a whole one and then read out the suggested serving size.

I know you say you were checking the portion size for yourself but this doesn’t come across in how you said it I’m afraid.

Fgs could have a whole one of course means he wants a whole one

"Do you want one or half?" would have been fine. No need for the calorie lecture.

He is an adult, he can decide how much he wants to eat for himself. What was there to misunderstand here? He said he could he eat whole one. You questioned this, made a point of reading out the suggested serving size and calories. Then you gave him half anyway. You were rude and controlling.

Fucking hell life’s too short for this sort of nonsense.

Do people really care about what their partners eat? I’d have just given him a whole one.

Agree with Annon. If you're eating cheese and pork pie then calories from bread are moot really, aren't they?

You've been busted OP but the question is, will this stop you or will you carry on behaving like this? Or, did you just want to start a greedy husband thread, sort of?

You were being passive aggressive and making out he was greedy, definitely.

Give him a whole baguette since he asked for it. It's rude to comment on other people's eating habits.

@PurdyFlower

If someone started to check calories and serving sizes after I just said ‘I could have a whole one’, I’d definitely assume they were trying to make a passive aggressive point.

You’d already decided you only wanted half. You didn’t need to check unless you were making a point.

Unless he asked, reading the calorie label was judgmental and rude. He obviously wanted a whole one and you "fat-shamed" him into having half.

You're policing his food. My partner does this to me. It's really really boring, I never listen to him but cripes it's a rubbish thing to do to someone.

Fair enough. I'm off to apologise.

I thought he was just suggesting it to help with the freezing issue (I did ask him twice, "do you want a whole one?") and I thought that half would be enough, but the response is resounding and I have obviously been a dick.