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AIBU?

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to suggest that half a baguette is enough?

333 replies

CoralFish · 18/08/2020 15:29

Preparing a super-healthy (not really) lunch for me and DP of pork pie, cheddar cheese and that bread that comes part baked from the supermarket.

I comment that the bread is packaged as two small baguettes together, so I will have to freeze one once opened. DP says he "could have" a whole baguette. I ask him if he really wants a whole one - we normally share one. He says the same thing again. I read out the suggested serving and calories and say if he really wants a whole one I can freeze half of one, as I definitely don't. He goes off in a huff because I have apparently called him greedy and he only wants half. I cook one baguette.

My point is that at no point did he say he wanted a whole one just that he "could have" a whole one. I thought this was just a suggestion to make it easier wrt freezing.

Me checking the suggested portion size and calories was for myself. I concluded I did not want a whole one, so him having one would make no difference to ease of storage. Admittedly I did not explicitly state this, and I did not need to read it aloud to him, but I was labouring under the misapprehension that he was making a suggestion to try to make things easier, not that he actually wanted a whole one. I did not at any point use the word greedy or mean to imply it.

Was the whole thing just a misunderstanding on both our parts (and he should at the very least snap out of his huff), or am I being unreasonable and should apologise for 'calling him greedy'?

OP posts:
Nosuchluck · 18/08/2020 16:24

I always have a whole one for a lunch, I wouldn't even think of having half.

Keeva2017 · 18/08/2020 16:25

I don’t buy your casual “I was just musing” crap op. You know what you were doing. Judgey food shaming!

Bluntness100 · 18/08/2020 16:26

Something like: "The packet says half is a serving and it is X calories [I can't even remember!]. No, I'm just going to have half. Do you want a whole one and I will just freeze half of one?"

And what he and we All think you meant was:

“You want two portions then you fat bastard? “

I particularly like the way you still only determinedly cooked one to share between you. Even though you knew he wished more. 🤣

TwentyViginti · 18/08/2020 16:26

@craggymaggie

Pork pie and cheese and a baguette - or half a baguette - is a shit ton of calories regardless. All those carbs and all that fat. Where's the salad?
Grin
butterpuffed · 18/08/2020 16:27

How awful that you've only apologised to your DH because of the view of strangers.

AllWeHaveIsNow · 18/08/2020 16:28

@craggymaggie

Pork pie and cheese and a baguette - or half a baguette - is a shit ton of calories regardless. All those carbs and all that fat. Where's the salad?
Haaaahahahaha - this really tickled me for some reason.

The CALORIES though, disGUSting gluttony. Everyone always stuffing their faces (people don't eat in MN land - unless they are dangerously underweight, they all stuff their faces. It is fact).

GrinWink

Wife2b · 18/08/2020 16:28

I think it was unnecessary to read out the calories and suggested portion size, clearly you thought he was being greedy. He said he ‘could’ eat a whole one, he was saying that he’s hungry and would like a whole one. A whole load of drama over nothing, it wouldn’t even cross my mind to look at the recommended portion, he was probably embarrassed.

Starbuggy · 18/08/2020 16:31

Reading the calories out to him was very passive aggressive!

He said he wanted a whole baguette. You went on about it and how he should only have half of one. YABU

Mrsjayy · 18/08/2020 16:32

They are the size of a sub roll so hardkr you checked calories made a fuss where you could have just stuck them both in the oven and. Let the husband enjoy his lunch .

Nosuchluck · 18/08/2020 16:32

It seems odd that you're looking at baguette calories but eating a pork pie.

Buttercup77 · 18/08/2020 16:32

Your thread title is even “AIBU to suggest half a baguette is enough?” which suggests this is about you policing his intake because you were adamant half a baguette was more than enough for him. It’s not up to you. He was clearly hungry and wanted a whole one. He’s a grown man. And those things are tiny anyway. A whole baguette is a reasonable intake. Most normal-sized healthy guys I know could wolf down two of those easily anyway. If you want to be neurotic about your own food intake, leave your husband out of it. I would have left you to your two baguettes and gone out and got a subway.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 18/08/2020 16:35

OP has admitted she made a mistake.
It might be nice if we could get off her case now.

silverbubbles · 18/08/2020 16:36

What on earth is the point of calorie counting when you are eating pork pies, cheese and bread!!!

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 18/08/2020 16:36

If I said I wanted a whole baguette and do started rhyming of calories and fat to me I would probably stick his baguette up his arse.

TrickyD · 18/08/2020 16:37

He is cruel, selfish and greedy.
You need to LTB.

FGS 🙄

DogInATent · 18/08/2020 16:38

I read out the suggested serving and calories
YABU.

Are you always this controlling?

icedbun5 · 18/08/2020 16:38

You knew he meant he wanted a whole baguette. 🙄

Bluntness100 · 18/08/2020 16:42

@silverbubbles

What on earth is the point of calorie counting when you are eating pork pies, cheese and bread!!!
I was chuckling over this too, when you’re eating enough fat and calories to feed a sumo in training for lunch why worry about the extra half baguette,,🤣🤣
BadLad · 18/08/2020 16:42

OP, is this a thread of yours?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3309833-AIBU-wasteful-husband-in-holiday

RainyMonday · 18/08/2020 16:45

I think maybe the OP presumed that her husband was offering to eat a whole baguette so they could both have a whole baguette each and save them the bother of having to freeze the leftovers. Then she reassured him that she only wanted half implying that it made no difference if he had a whole one or half one as she would still have leftovers to freeze. I think OP was coming from the viewpoint that he was only offering to eat a whole one to save the hassle of freezing leftovers rather than actually being hungry and wanting a full baguette to eat.

I think it was just a simple misunderstanding.

Sunrise234 · 18/08/2020 16:46

He's an adult if he wants a whole one give him a whole one!!

Is this a normal thing for you it sounds so draining!

I'm the type to check serving sizes and calories but if my partner was being nit-picky with me over a baguette I would be out of that relationship asap and going to subway every day

premiumshoes · 18/08/2020 16:47

I read out the suggested serving and calories

Hmm
Inertia · 18/08/2020 16:47

Those baguettes are not that big- let him have a whole one! Even my size 4/6 teen eats a whole ready-bake baguette.

TBH half a baguette is probably neither here nor there once you've added in pork pies and cheese ...

MitziK · 18/08/2020 16:47

For the sake of 218 kcal, yes, YABU.

Stannisbaratheonsboxofmatches · 18/08/2020 16:48

I think he was being U for not just saying he wanted a whole one!

I think you were doing your best to work out what on earth he was hinting at.