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to suggest that half a baguette is enough?

333 replies

CoralFish · 18/08/2020 15:29

Preparing a super-healthy (not really) lunch for me and DP of pork pie, cheddar cheese and that bread that comes part baked from the supermarket.

I comment that the bread is packaged as two small baguettes together, so I will have to freeze one once opened. DP says he "could have" a whole baguette. I ask him if he really wants a whole one - we normally share one. He says the same thing again. I read out the suggested serving and calories and say if he really wants a whole one I can freeze half of one, as I definitely don't. He goes off in a huff because I have apparently called him greedy and he only wants half. I cook one baguette.

My point is that at no point did he say he wanted a whole one just that he "could have" a whole one. I thought this was just a suggestion to make it easier wrt freezing.

Me checking the suggested portion size and calories was for myself. I concluded I did not want a whole one, so him having one would make no difference to ease of storage. Admittedly I did not explicitly state this, and I did not need to read it aloud to him, but I was labouring under the misapprehension that he was making a suggestion to try to make things easier, not that he actually wanted a whole one. I did not at any point use the word greedy or mean to imply it.

Was the whole thing just a misunderstanding on both our parts (and he should at the very least snap out of his huff), or am I being unreasonable and should apologise for 'calling him greedy'?

OP posts:
Angelina82 · 18/08/2020 16:01

Did he have to write his request for a whole one in blood ffs? You worry about the calories you take in if you like, but don’t make your poor husband feel bad for being hungry.

DishingOutDone · 18/08/2020 16:02

Penis portions!! If your hubs is hungry you are held responsible OP. It’s the MN law!!

AllWeHaveIsNow · 18/08/2020 16:02

@MintyMabel

How could you GUZZLE down ALL THAT BREAD? A full inch? I had a crumb two weeks ago and I'm absolutely stuffed.

Obviously my 10k run (that only counted because I posted it on SM) would have burned off some of it.

Grin
CloudsCanLookLikeSheep · 18/08/2020 16:02

I wish this was all I had to worry about in my life!

ReceptacleForTheRespectable · 18/08/2020 16:05

@DishingOutDone

Penis portions!! If your hubs is hungry you are held responsible OP. It’s the MN law!!
Er... no.

If anyone at all says they'd like a certain portion, and there is sufficient food to give them that portion, you give it to them. You don't start reading out calories and telling them to eat less, regardless of who they are.

Buttercup77 · 18/08/2020 16:06

Do you frequently control or police what he wants to eat? Sounds like a miserable life for him. I couldn’t be with someone who if I declared I wanted to eat something would respond by reading out the calories and macronutrients. He’s an adult ffs and men often need larger portions anyway.

ElizabethMainwaring · 18/08/2020 16:07

@QueenOfPain

You need a hobby.
So true
Summersnearlyover · 18/08/2020 16:07

I think your DP may be old enough to decide whether he could eat a whole baguette or half of one. If your dieting police your own food not anybody else’s.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 18/08/2020 16:08

@DishingOutDone

Penis portions!! If your hubs is hungry you are held responsible OP. It’s the MN law!!
Well yes. You are responsible if your husband is hungry because you forced him into smaller portion.
CoralFish · 18/08/2020 16:08

@heartsonacake

I still want to know why you thought it acceptable to read out the calories and serving suggestion to him?
It was more out-loud musing as I worked out whether I wanted a whole one. Something like: "The packet says half is a serving and it is X calories [I can't even remember!]. No, I'm just going to have half. Do you want a whole one and I will just freeze half of one?" Cue (now established to be understandable) huff.

I've said sorry now. He's still annoyed but it's clear he is right to be!

OP posts:
rosesandcashmere · 18/08/2020 16:08

The greedy husband thing is just weird. I don't get why these threads are so prevalent, let him eat what he wants ffs

Noneformethanks · 18/08/2020 16:12

Yeah he just was hungry. Sure it’s no odds if you eat half and freeze half? What’s the difference? Why is it a big deal?

Inthemuckheap · 18/08/2020 16:13

Christ you sound hard work. My DH and I always have one each. I take out all the inside of mine for the dogs and just eat the crust where as he eats all his.

TeaInMyStoneCup · 18/08/2020 16:16

The competitive under eating on MN is hilarious.

Jenasaurus · 18/08/2020 16:16

If its this size baguette I could eat a whole one and have done

to suggest that half a baguette is enough?
HollowTalk · 18/08/2020 16:18

@QueenOfPain

You need a hobby.
That's exactly what I thought. FFS, OP, stop micromanaging your husband!
AryaStarkWolf · 18/08/2020 16:18

Meh, bit of misunderstanding, not worth getting upset over really is it?

Bluntness100 · 18/08/2020 16:19

Can only imagine the outcry of this was reversed

Agree, if it was a bloke reading out the calorie info and serving suggestion then bullshitting it was out loud musings there would be bloodshed,

Op, give over. We all know what you were doing, as does he. 🤣

minnieok · 18/08/2020 16:19

Straight out of the oven 1/2 is not enough! I know they are junk but delicious junk.

craggymaggie · 18/08/2020 16:20

Pork pie and cheese and a baguette - or half a baguette - is a shit ton of calories regardless. All those carbs and all that fat. Where's the salad?

phoenixrosehere · 18/08/2020 16:20

I can see how it could be misconstrued but it seems childish to get in a huff about it. It was a misunderstanding, not exactly world-ending and sounds like he has a personal problem if he’s assuming you called him greedy unless you have form for it.

My husband knows I’m one of those who muses out loud and can’t make a decision when it comes to food. He also knows I hate food waste so he knows most of my musings is about me, not him even though he drives me crazy with the amount of food he’ll get or make and then decides he doesn’t want to eat it because it’s over a day old and of course it’s things I wouldn’t eat. 🙄

Nice that you apologised but still a massive overreaction on his part.

Justmuddlingalong · 18/08/2020 16:21

I take it the pork pie and cheddar cheese were the low calorie varieties? 😉 You apologised which is fine, but be aware of comments about what he eats in future. You're his partner not his mother.

Krampusasbabysitter · 18/08/2020 16:22

WTF! If this was the other way round, it would immediately be labelled as abusive and controlling. And those pre-baked baguette thingies aren't actually that huge and could be classed as one portion. Many sandwhich shops offer them as one serving. You come across as really pathetic.

TeaInMyStoneCup · 18/08/2020 16:23

Have any of the low carbers been on yet to say that you don't need all those carbs and if you ate a bit of protein you'd be full?

Pikachubaby · 18/08/2020 16:23

Those baguettes are tiny

We always have one each

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