to suggest that half a baguette is enough?

[CoralFish]

Preparing a super-healthy (not really) lunch for me and DP of pork pie, cheddar cheese and that bread that comes part baked from the supermarket.

I comment that the bread is packaged as two small baguettes together, so I will have to freeze one once opened. DP says he "could have" a whole baguette. I ask him if he really wants a whole one - we normally share one. He says the same thing again. I read out the suggested serving and calories and say if he really wants a whole one I can freeze half of one, as I definitely don't. He goes off in a huff because I have apparently called him greedy and he only wants half. I cook one baguette.

My point is that at no point did he say he wanted a whole one just that he "could have" a whole one. I thought this was just a suggestion to make it easier wrt freezing.

Me checking the suggested portion size and calories was for myself. I concluded I did not want a whole one, so him having one would make no difference to ease of storage. Admittedly I did not explicitly state this, and I did not need to read it aloud to him, but I was labouring under the misapprehension that he was making a suggestion to try to make things easier, not that he actually wanted a whole one. I did not at any point use the word greedy or mean to imply it.

Was the whole thing just a misunderstanding on both our parts (and he should at the very least snap out of his huff), or am I being unreasonable and should apologise for 'calling him greedy'?

Who cares? With everything else you're having there's not much point checking th calories

Is this really the most important thing going on for you right now!

Let him eat what he wants unless he has asked you to help him control his portions.

I get what you were doing but you could have just said it only want half so are you happy to share one with me or shall I just cook both?

I don't, it comes across me like you were judging him and checking the calories yes I would assumed that was something against me if I was him and you were trying to imply something

Oh cmon with the faux innocence op. He said he could eat a whole one, you say fine you put it in the oven. You don’t ask him again then read out the calorie info and pretend it was for your benefit. You were clearly insinuating he was eating too much,

It was half a baguette, what’s the big bloody deal.

If you go to Subway, do you order:

A foot-long?
Or a 6-inch?

It's a non-brainer isn't it. A foot-long!

The OP is being U

My 7yr old has one of those whole baguettes for lunch. YABU. You could just keep the other half airtight for a few days and have it for breakfast or a snack. No need to freeze. They keep well. Stop controlling your DHs food consumption and just worry about your own. Unless there's a massive dripfeed

Have you been working at home too long

That's what I would have done, Shedpaint, tell him what I was having and ask him what he wanted.

My husband eats lots of white toast, I like one or two small slices of wholemeal - he gets what he wants, I have what I want. I always ask "How many x, y, z do you want?". And that's what I give him. It's how I would want to be treated.

Surely it is up to your DH to decide whether he would like a whole baguette for his lunch. You sound controlling.

Half a baguette fresh out of the oven is never enough! (Unless you are not obese like wot I am.)

Not relevant to the thread, but half of one of those is never enough when they’re fresh out the oven and dripping with butter (I could actually eat both on a good day!)

Half a baguette?? I would be full for a fortnight. An inch thick slice is more than enough.

@BigSandyBalls2015

Have you been working at home too long

Definitely!

Ffs can't he have a whole baguette if he wants one?

@CoralFish

Fair enough. I'm off to apologise.

I thought he was just suggesting it to help with the freezing issue (I did ask him twice, "do you want a whole one?") and I thought that half would be enough, but the response is resounding and I have obviously been a dick.

Glad to hear it!

(I was just about to post what others have said - you were basically policing his appetite, and I'd have been annoyed at being on the receiving end of that.)

When he said "i could have a whole one" you should have said OK. Yabu.

I still want to know why you thought it acceptable to read out the calories and serving suggestion to him?

@MintyMabel

Half a baguette?? I would be full for a fortnight. An inch thick slice is more than enough.

How could you GUZZLE down ALL THAT BREAD? A full inch? I had a crumb two weeks ago and I'm absolutely stuffed.

No wonder there's an obesity crisis! The gluttony.

cross post. See you are off to apologise. Well done.

Can only imagine the outcry of this was reversed? He would accused of being controlling etc.

Because the responses so far have suggested people think the OP is entirely sensible and not at all controlling?

How could you GUZZLE down ALL THAT BREAD? A full inch? I had a crumb two weeks ago and I'm absolutely stuffed.

Obviously my 10k run (that only counted because I posted it on SM) would have burned off some of it.

@BaronessBomburst

Hard to say. How big exactly is your partner's baguette?

Must be very hard living the food police, wait until he is an adult and can make his own choices .

Ohh wait he is an adult not a 3 year old.

@Therealjudgejudy

I second you need a hobby...

I third it.