To be angry at DH for hurting me?

[blanche85]

My DH completely lost it a few days ago and smashed my toddler's table to pieces (not in front of him) and dug his nails so hard in to my skin he drew blood and left a mark/bruise. He grabbed me and threw me out the front door so forcefully that I have a bruise on my thigh.

He then completely ignored what had happened,just carrying on as normal. I was/still am angry and upset and sent him a message when I was at working telling him that he had hurt and scared me and asked if he was sorry and he replied with 'Sorry that I lost it and you got hurt'.

Then,nothing else. He is pestering me for sex,which I don't want,and he also told me not to sit next to him this morning because I was 'giving off bad vibes'.

I just hate how nonchalant he is about the whole thing. Any advice? Thanks.

Photos police. Why put up with this?

Do you want your child seeing this while they grow up? Thinking that it's normal for someone to be abused and to stay?

Leave. Contact the police. Be the parent your child needs you to be.

My advice. Make plans to leave asap. Dont waste a moment more of your life than you have to with this animal.

I hope she’s okay.

hes nonchalent? youre telling tis like its a story youre reading from a book

you dont need him to apologise you need to leave

Leave before throws you through a window.

Sorry but I’ve not read all the posts before replying.
Once a person has crossed the line and hit out it is so so much easier for them to do it again.
Please look after yourself and your family.

This can't be real surely, can it? And if it is, why haven't you called the police already?

Please start making plans to leave.

It can be true, but even if not, there will be other women reading whose partners are doing violent and controlling things.

The message must always be - YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS, DO NOT ACCEPT THIS, BE SAFE AND KEEP YOUR KIDS SAFE.

sorry for shouting!

Please leave op, next time he may kill you and who would look after your ds??
Yes it really is that bad, l am so sorry, sending lots of virtual support.

Leave or kick him out.

Please leave, as soon as you can. My ex did this, I’m currently in a refuge with my 8 month old DS.

You want them to be remorseful because at least then you’ll feel some affection and care. He won’t be sorry because he’s an abuser.

Please get out of there before he seriously injures you, because he will. Make sure it’s safe to do so before you leave. Honestly it won’t get better, just worse. If you need any advice please PM me xxxx

LTB and take photos of where he hurt you & the broken table.
I wonder if op will be back.

Leave

You say he didn’t smash the toy in front of DS. Was DS home with you? Because the noise would have been enough for him to have come in to see what happened next. And even if he couldn’t see it as he was in another room, he heard it.

I’m honestly not trying to upset you. I just want you to understand the denial that often happens in these situations. Please don’t think that DS is unaware of what’s happening. And also please realise that your husband is volatile and irrational. Whatever you did ‘wrong’, if DS pisses him off next it will be him. Please find a safe place and leave xx

Well, if this is for real, then you were BU to sit next to him the following morning, I mean why weren't you several miles away from him by then?

Get the fuck out!

“I lost it and you got hurt.”
He intentionally hurt you. You don’t accidentally squeeze and dig into someone’s arm. This isn’t normal behaviour and abusers pretend things didn’t happen.

Do you have a friend or family member nearby? Leave before you are trapped. He’s already physically AND emotionally abusing you.

To those doubting her story, asking why she hasn’t gone to the police... maybe she’s emotionally and economically abused, as well as physically. Maybe she feels alone.

Please reach out to someone

Are you OK Blanche?.

Please let us all know!

Advice? Police and leave him

Surely this isn’t real? Too eerily similar to the spitting in the face thread.

Anyway, if it is PLEASE leave this absolute dickhead.

He’s physically abused you.

I would have thought the physical violence was preceded by a long period of emotional abuse schooling her into accepting whatever he wanted to dish out.

Blanche you know you're not safe and your child is not safe.

We can give you loads of advice (you'll get a few opinions too) so please use this thread in whatever way you like, to vent, to find other women who experienced what you are experiencing, a place of quiet, a pl,ace of safety .... whatever you need.

I would start by ringing Women's Aid. They'll advise you in real life and you could do with some real life, knowledgeable support. We can only help you virtually.