To have sex in someone else’s house?

[LuluBellaBlue]

Is this ok?

Surely if you’re not seen or heard, and leave no trace then I don’t see what the problem is.

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I've done it and would do it again. As long as you don't make a) noise or b) a mess I don't see the problem with it. Not sure what you all are doing that makes the sheets wet... that basically never happens with us. Get up and go straight to the loo, then put my knickers and pyjama bottoms back on....

I don't see anything wrong with it. And it doesn't bother me when people stay and hear them loving life in the spare room.

So long as no one stands in the kitchen butt ass naked after, making a coffee and breakfast.

Of course it's fine. This is a MN thing. Sex is fine. Do you all really leak body fluids? Do you not know about tissues and clean up? Be quiet and respectful but I expect all guests to be bonking like bunnies.

Also always offer to strip the sheets and remake the bed. It's good manners.

It's just bad manners!

@Shesapunkpunk

I would not really want to leave semeny sheets in someone else’s bed. If you use condoms or shag on the floor I don’t see a problem really.

What about stains and so on on the carpet?

I wouldn't and thi k it's abit grim. How long are you visiting for yiu can't wait until you get home?

Remind me what a penis beaker is please

We never have sex when we stay at MIL’s house as I would hate for her to overhear any noises and make her feel uncomfortable (my DH doesn’t have a problem with it so it’s just me). For me it would feel disrespectful.

If I was staying as a guest at a friend’s house (or vice versa) for an extended period of time – a few days or more – then it seems fine to me, as long as it’s discreet.

Would not like anyone having sex in the bathroom. Communal areas of the house is intrusive and just unnecessary. 🤮

Staying in a hotel with my long term partner.
At the time I was on the pill & my withdrawal bleeds started on a Thursday - had done so for years.
So anyway the withdrawal bleed started on the Wednesday evening. I didn't notice, otherwise occupied, we weren't using condoms & the sheets looked like the Texas Chainsaw Massacre the next morning.
I was mortified...
As for someone's house? Depends on length of stay & my feelings for my partner. Can often get away with oral sex - far less noise!

@Mommabear20 How is it bad manners?

Could never do it in another house and especially my father's house !!

This thread has put me in mind of a sketch, Smith and Jones I think. S and J sitting at a kitchen table. Sound of a couple loudly and ecstatically having sex upstairs. “This is awful we’ll have to ask them to leave”. “ You mean you’ll have to ask them to leave, they’re your parents!”

No! No way! Only because when I was away a few years ago. My step dd decided to dtd in my bed with her bf!!!
Now my feelings have changed on the matter!
No way would I do it in someone else house or want them doing it in mine!

Does it not depend on situation though

House sitting for weeks? Homeowners not in - of course it's not unreasonable

Friend and their partner over for one night and goes at it? Of course it's unreasonable - they can wait one night

Life is a series of grey areas stitched together

That is it you aren't coming in my house for pizza again @LuluBellaBlue 🤣

No it’s tacky and gross ! I have a separate accommodation at my house so I wouldn’t care if guests had sex in there as we can’t hear them and we don’t stay in there plus it has a washer/dryer and we ask our guests to strip the bed and stick it in there when they leave ! X

I mean I've done it at DP parents house... but for many years that was where he lived. Couldn't be helped

Surely you would always change the sheets anyway if someone had slept over, so it wouldn't bother me if my friends had sex in my house, as others have said as long as they are quiet doing it and we don't all have to listen, then carry on shagging

No. Like another poster already said, people always think they're being quiet but they're not.

I despair at the puritanical indeed prissy attitudes to sex in this thread

I don't care what people do, as long as they don't force me to be an unwilling third party by making me listen. That includes in my house and my old neighbours who clearly forgot they were in a mid terrace house with all their windows open when they let our their literal screams.

@THEDEACON

I despair at the puritanical indeed prissy attitudes to sex in this thread

I def don't have a prissy attitude to sex. I'm really open to people having preferences and really try not to kink shame etc. I just think it's a bit gross to expect a friend or family member to change cummy sheets. Soz if that makes me a prude.

Myself and DH have a couple of times when trying for DD’s and my peak fertility happened to land when staying at others. @GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou - Yes we brought a clean (sex) towel with us. Would be pretty grim leaving a mess on their sheets. We were also as quiet as possible. Wouldn’t do it just for fun though, I cringed at every bed creak.

Mr and Mrs Blair had sex at Balmoral, which surely made it OK.