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To have sex in someone else’s house?

231 replies

LuluBellaBlue · 16/08/2020 00:26

Is this ok?

Surely if you’re not seen or heard, and leave no trace then I don’t see what the problem is.

Inspired by thread Grin

OP posts:
Shesapunkpunk · 16/08/2020 04:22

Well, I’ll change the sheets regardless. It is my home not a squat 😂. But yeah crusty sheets are grim. I personally would not leave crusty sheets.

GnomeDePlume · 16/08/2020 04:22

Do people actually look at the sheets as they are changing the bed after visitors have left? I dont. What a visitors do in bed is no business of mine.

I dont like visitors to strip beds on leaving. A pile of dirty laundry is just so dreary. Far better to leave the bed made so that I can strip it at my leisure.

Shesapunkpunk · 16/08/2020 04:22

@BitOfFun

Mind you, thinking about it, how much fluid is actually produced? Surely you'd just nip to the loo immediately afterwards?
I fall straight to sleep! Fuck getting up, I want a hug.
BitOfFun · 16/08/2020 04:23

My DH has just said "You'd keep it contained, wouldn't you? It's not like you're going to be throwing it around." Grin

Shesapunkpunk · 16/08/2020 04:26

Does he not know how a woman’s anatomy is designed? 😂

BitOfFun · 16/08/2020 04:28

Heh heh. I assure you he does. But there are ways to be discreet about having sex when it comes to noise and aftermath.

SadieContrary · 16/08/2020 04:28

@GnomeDePlume

Do people actually look at the sheets as they are changing the bed after visitors have left? I dont. What a visitors do in bed is no business of mine.

I dont like visitors to strip beds on leaving. A pile of dirty laundry is just so dreary. Far better to leave the bed made so that I can strip it at my leisure.

Totally agree - don't strip it. Usually I'm knackered when visitors leave and can't face tackling a laundry mountain straight away. Leave it and I'll strip/remake in a couple of days
BitOfFun · 16/08/2020 04:32

It's not like I'd normally need to call Mr.Wolf to clean up the crime scene. And certainly not at somebody else's house Grin.

Honeybeexo · 16/08/2020 04:37

As a female who makes a lot of mess during sex, and noise, no I would not do it in someone else’s house. But I don’t think it’s unreasonable. Especially if you live with family or are a lodger.

Nikhedonia · 16/08/2020 04:44

As a female who makes a lot of mess during sex,

I'm now wondering how one makes a lot of mess during sex Confused

Shesapunkpunk · 16/08/2020 04:47

@Nikhedonia

As a female who makes a lot of mess during sex,

I'm now wondering how one makes a lot of mess during sex Confused

Are you really? My mind boggles at how you can’t.
BitOfFun · 16/08/2020 04:48

Shall we agree not to explore that any further?

Shesapunkpunk · 16/08/2020 04:49

Bit weird to not be able to imagine how that could happen though right? But yes, you are probably right! 😂

Monty27 · 16/08/2020 04:50

Never mind the sheets I've had a broken bed before
I was not happy
That friendship came to an abrupt end
Also I had a close friend who was dating a really cool guy and I was delighted for her. Both were in bedsit land at the time so overnight visitors was difficult for them both and she asked if they could stay in my spare double room 😬
I refused because I would have been cringing

Nikhedonia · 16/08/2020 04:55

Oh I've just got it! BlushBlush

Shesapunkpunk · 16/08/2020 04:58

😂 aw bless ya. Just don’t strip the sheets!

BitOfFun · 16/08/2020 04:59
Grin
Shesapunkpunk · 16/08/2020 05:02

Or do... depending on whose house you’re in.

Candyfloss99 · 16/08/2020 05:47

I'd been offended if a couple stayed at my house and didn't have sex tbh. I'd think I'd failed on the holiday/hotel vibe of the room.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 16/08/2020 05:59

I was on the other thread and some of the attitudes towards sex were surprisingly puritan, to say the least.

"Intercourse must only take place at a certain time, place and never in the vicinity of others i.e., a small dark hut in a deserted field"

BECAUSE THEY MAY HEAR US!

Alexindiamondarmour · 16/08/2020 06:03

How about this? We went on our honeymoon and my MOH minded our pets and her boyfriend came to stay with her while we were away. She told me when we got back that they had left a “stain” and she had washed the sheets twice but couldn’t get it out.
I mean - yuk! We asked her to mind our place, I assumed she would have him over but they both had their own places - surely they could have kept it in their pants for the one week she minded our place - or go back to their own houses less than ten mins away! Gross.

TitsOutForHarambe · 16/08/2020 06:04

I think it depends. If you're staying with them for a few days in their spare room then I don't think anyone can complain. Presumably the bedsheets are getting washed when you leave so it makes no difference.

But if you mean you've gone round for a dinner party or something, then slipping off to a quiet area for a shag is incredibly rude. It's not your house and they could very easily walk in on you. I wouldn't be impressed with that.

Lowprofilename · 16/08/2020 06:09

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pigeonfarts · 16/08/2020 06:11

Its disrespectful. Just wait and do it somewhere else.

JuniperFather · 16/08/2020 06:12

I don't really get the prudishness and awkward humour us Brits have around sex.

That aside, if it's not TMI (I guess this whole thread is) when staying with friends in the past, a soft towel may have been packed in luggage to allow the avoidance of any of the sheet scenarios previously described.

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