To have sex in someone else’s house?

[LuluBellaBlue]

Is this ok?

Surely if you’re not seen or heard, and leave no trace then I don’t see what the problem is.

Inspired by thread

@NameChangedInCaseImGrim

Yay!

I wish I had something witty and math-y to say regarding Glenda and Pi(e) but I can't think of anything. :o

I was discussing what you do after sex once with a friend and she was surprised that I always go to the loo for a wee and a clean up after and I said "but I don't want to get a uti". This was a revelation for her as she gets them all the time and never thought to go for a wee after sex

Guests can have sex and keep the sheets clean. Guests can have sex and keep quiet.

I’d hate to stay in one of these houses where the host is sticking their head round the guest bedroom door throughout the night to check their guests aren’t touching.

What puzzles me the most is how often do people have overnight guests to stay? We hardly ever do. And does everyone on here have guest bedrooms?

I wouldn’t though I’m sure in my younger years I did.

No, no and never.
It shows a total lack of awareness and disrespect for whose home you’re in.

@Franklyfrost

Guests can have sex and keep the sheets clean. Guests can have sex and keep quiet.

I’d hate to stay in one of these houses where the host is sticking their head round the guest bedroom door throughout the night to check their guests aren’t touching.

Your friends do this? You need new friends.

I can’t see how it’s an issue at all, as long as I can’t hear it and the evidence is cleared up then do whatever you like. I’m more shocked that people don’t immediately leap up and head to the toilet, I don’t think I’ve ever just laid and had a cuddle after😂

I also don’t understand the prurience about sex and the idea that it’s intrinsically disrespectful. I think that’s very puritanical.

Doing it audibly or making a huge amount of mess is a bit gross. A quiet discreet shag which no one notices needn’t hurt anyone.

@Shesapunkpunk

I don’t know if my guests are having sex. It’s none of my business. I cannot see what the problem is if they are having sex quietly in their bedroom. I don’t think about my guests sex lives at all.

Period blood is surely far more of an issue as harder to wash out

What about the other way round? Is it ok to have sex in your own home if you have guests staying?

I was staying with friend whose partner was also staying (they didn’t live together) and woke up in the morning to hear them having sex. Felt a little uncomfortable tbh.

You said you hated staying where the hosts stick their head around the door to check if you are touching. No one else on this thread complained about this. You are right to hate your friends doing this.

Bad manners. Hotels and self catering holiday accommodation is different.

I also don’t understand the prurience about sex and the idea that it’s intrinsically disrespectful. I think that’s very puritanical

I agree. MN has a very puritanical attitude to sex in general I find.
Anything except missionary with the lights out and anything more than once a month and you are considered some kind of depraved pervert/nymphomanic. Ive seen women express dissatisfaction with their sex lives and asking advice on how to improve it (a perfectly legit question) only to be screamed at that "sex isnt everything you know!"
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Our spare room is discreetly away from ours, we'd never know if they were having sex unless they decided to rope the poor dog into it as well.

It never occurred to me not to, if that was what we wanted. We have also traveled overseas & stayed with family for several days at a time.

Try having young adult DD's at it every time their boyfriends stay over, they are loud!!! Then dd1 had the cheek to say to me that she heard me when dp was over. I told her tough, my house! It's natural, why worry

Real MNers leave a beaker beside the guest bed, it's just good manners
I can never un-read that thread!

I don't understand why people get uptight about sex. If you feel comfortable, are quiet, and don't leave a mess nobody will know or care.

I’ve never really even thought about whether our guests are having sex or not! I’ve honestly got no idea, nor do I care. I just strip the sheets quickly and through them in the machine.

We don’t have sex in anyone else’s house though. But staying at my mums I always strip the bed and make it up again as she quite often has people staying over.

@formerbabe. Pre lockdown we would have someone stay over at least monthly (mostly my mum on her own though). We have two spare rooms because of this because I live a while away from family and best friends, so they stay over often.

@LolaSmiles

Real MNers leave a beaker beside the guest bed, it's just good manners I can never un-read that thread!

I don't understand why people get uptight about sex. If you feel comfortable, are quiet, and don't leave a mess nobody will know or care.

Yes, but the “Grimmers” on here can’t bear the thought of anyone doing different to themselves and their uptight ways. God forbid that guests have discreet sex in a bedroom that they might hear while dusting the barometer.

I'm pretty sure I have when I was married, obviously would be a bit discreet about it.

It wouldn't particularly bother me if guests felt the need while staying with me, although when my best mate cat sat for me a couple of years ago I did ask that she and her bf refrained from doing it in my bed, purely as I hadn't 'christened it' myself !

What went on on floors or sofas I've no idea!

Semeny carpets? Crusty sex puddles? Sheet stains? Not a lot of condom wearing going on round here, then! It's like the thought doesn't even cross many minds.
Not that I would ever shag in someone else's house. I wouldn't want to hear other people's fucking noises in mine I'd feel a bit sick.

Disrespectful! Especially as an invited guest in someone’s home.

@MimiLaRue

I also don’t understand the prurience about sex and the idea that it’s intrinsically disrespectful. I think that’s very puritanical

I agree. MN has a very puritanical attitude to sex in general I find.
Anything except missionary with the lights out and anything more than once a month and you are considered some kind of depraved pervert/nymphomanic. Ive seen women express dissatisfaction with their sex lives and asking advice on how to improve it (a perfectly legit question) only to be screamed at that "sex isnt everything you know!"
😂

Talking about this puritanical MN attitude, I find it quite fascinating that posters will typically not bat an eyelid at one night stands and shagging complete strangers sometimes at an unknown location where you don't know the state of the beddings because that's just about expressing your individuality and freewill, but then when it comes to hosting guests, we are clutching our pearls at the thought that couples could engage in the unthinkable act of having sex.

I know MN isn't one homogenous group of people who all think alike, but generally you get a trend in opinions