Page 6 | To have sex in someone else’s house?

LuluBellaBlue · 2020-08-15T23:26:55+00:00

Is this ok? Surely if you’re not seen or heard, and leave no trace then I don’t see what the problem is. Inspired by thread [grin]

AtiaoftheJulii · 16/08/2020 09:41

A lot more disrespectful as an UNinvited guest

MimiLaRue · 16/08/2020 09:42

@AgileMadness

very very true! Its weird isnt it?

ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN · 16/08/2020 09:42

Of course it’s ok if you are staying couples have sex I’m sure friends of mine have I don’t ask and neither do I care

If you are there just for an afternoon bbq and pop upstairs for a quick one erm no not so much (though friends of friends did announce this and thought it was highly amusing 🙄 )

MoreListeningLessChatting · 16/08/2020 09:47

Sex is a perfectly normal thing to do! Many on here treat it like it's something dirty ...

As long as you don't leave a mess and aren't noisy I cannot see the problem. I would always change sheets when guests left anyway, the way some people go on it is as if they want to use the sheets again (now that is grim). Obviously no-one else should have to clean up anyone's bodily fluids though!

TomNook · 16/08/2020 09:48

What if they kiss or mutually masturbate?
Where does disrespect start ?

Spaceprincess · 16/08/2020 09:48

It wouldn't occur to me that this is rude? Id make sure no one knew tho

MoreListeningLessChatting · 16/08/2020 09:48

@AgileMadness

Totally agree with you - what century are we in!

"Talking about thispuritanical MN attitude, I find it quite fascinating that posters will typically not bat an eyelid at one night stands and shagging complete strangers sometimes at an unknown location where you don't know the state of the beddings envy because that's just about expressing your individuality and freewill, but then when it comes to hosting guests, we are clutching our pearls at the thought that couples could engage in the unthinkable act of having sex."

Rosebel · 16/08/2020 09:49

I have at my parents house but I always strip the sheets before we leave. I also did at my friend's house many years ago.
I don't see what the problem is.

SonjaMorgan · 16/08/2020 09:51

There has been so much talk about sheets as if people only ever have sex in bed. If we stay over somewhere and wouldn't want anyone to know we would have a quicky in the shower.

I personally wouldn't care if a guest had sex in our house, as long as they had been respectful.

Osirus · 16/08/2020 09:53

Crikey, some of you are very prudish!

Can you imagine what it would have been like if our ancestors shared your feelings on this? They all shared living space! They had sex in front of each other! We wouldn’t be here today.

Anyway, it’s fine; there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s not like they’re asking you to watch is it? Or getting down to it at the end of your bed.

MimiLaRue · 16/08/2020 09:53

There has been so much talk about sheets as if people only ever have sex in bed. If we stay over somewhere and wouldn't want anyone to know we would have a quicky in the shower

Yes, and also- who on earth has guests overnight and doesnt wash the sheets anyway! If I had friends staying over I would wash their sheets ANYWAY, regardless if they had sex or not. I wouldn't just leave the sheets on there so the next person who stayed over slept in someone else's used sheets. Im not sure why people are freaking out about sheets when they'd be washed as a matter of course anyway. Why the sheet obsession?!

DownThePlath · 16/08/2020 09:57

I wouldn't mind as long as guests aren't noisy and disturb me. If it was loud, headboard-banging sex, then yes, I would feel pissed off and uncomfortable in my own home. If it's quiet, discreet, and cleaned up, then I wouldn't be overly bothered.

Watermelontea · 16/08/2020 09:59

I don’t see the issue myself.
If somebody is staying with me for more than a couple of days, then I pretty much expect it’s going to happen, so one of us just strip the bed when they’ve left and stick the sheets in the washing machine.
If it was just overnight I’d be a little more understanding as to why people wouldn’t like it, it’d be as if they’re just using your clean bed sheets to DTD so as not to dirty their own. 😂

We did have an incident once where our NDN (we’re a terraced) was having sex VERY loudly, and they were so loud that the guests staying with us thought it was us making the noise - the NDN’s room is on one side to ours, and the guest room on the other.
We’re used to the noise and just snigger a bit like children, but the guests we’re mortified and couldn’t look us in the eye the next morning. I realised why they were acting so strangely, and we had to explained that it was in fact not us swinging from the chandelier and screaming with pleasure, at 2am.

Alabamawhirly1 · 16/08/2020 10:01

Depends on context.

Staying at auntie Margaret's for the weekend. No.
If they've got kids in the house. No.
Staying at a friend's after an adult event, for example a party or concert or somthing - if you're quiet and don't make a mess (just a quicky) and take any condoms with you, I don't really see why it's a problem.

At you parnets house, yes fine same rules apply as above.

MoreListeningLessChatting · 16/08/2020 10:02

@TheRealHousewife

"TheRealHousewife Sun 16-Aug-20 09:38:50
Disrespectful! Especially as an invited guest in someone’s home."

How would you know if they are quiet and clean up/use condom?

Are you the one that others have talked about with the glass against the wall checking for signs that others are having perfectly normal sex. Shock horror some of us love sex and can be perfectly discrete and clean up so you would never know.

akitamiss · 16/08/2020 10:02

I'd certainly be conscious of hosts, cleaning, etc. As a result hands/fingers and BJ works well. Can be fun to do those things nice and quiet :)

Alabamawhirly1 · 16/08/2020 10:07

There has been so much talk about sheets as if people only ever have sex in bed. If we stay over somewhere and wouldn't want anyone to know we would have a quicky in the shower

I wouldn't have an issue with someone shagging in my spare room. But fucking in my bathroom where I bath my kids, while I'm waiting to go in and brush my teeth - I would have a problem with, and think your a couple of weirdos. Who fucks in someone else's bathroom. Not very discrete either. Do you not think people will know what you've been up to when you shower together.

Rebelwithallthecause · 16/08/2020 10:11

I shower with my husband without having to shag him

It’s a big shower and saves time and water

MimiLaRue · 16/08/2020 10:16

I wouldn't have an issue with someone shagging in my spare room. But fucking in my bathroom where I bath my kids, while I'm waiting to go in and brush my teeth - I would have a problem with, and think your a couple of weirdos

What a bizarre attitude. Presumably then you never bathe your kids or brush your teeth EVER when staying in hotel then? Because thousands of couples have probably had sex in the bathrooms there!

MargieMo · 16/08/2020 10:23

This topic has arisen in a reverse context for me in the past. I lived in the US few several years with ex-DP, and we had a lot of visitors over the time there. I mean a lot. Many of them for weeks at a time, family, friends, etc.

My experience as a host was that our visitors were considerate, and it was never had an issue. Of course it also meant we had to have sex without a lot of sound too. I got really good at oral and being quiet.

LouisBalfour · 16/08/2020 10:25

I can manage to get from my bed to the loo without leaving a pool of semen in the bed, and do the same in other people's houses. I will add that all my friend's guest bedrooms have en-suites which is a big help.

Alabamawhirly1 · 16/08/2020 10:27

I shower with my husband without having to shag him

At other people's houses? If a couple stayed at my house and had showers together I'd think they were weird and shagging.

What a bizarre attitude. Presumably then you never bathe your kids or brush your teeth EVER when staying in hotel then? Because thousands of couples have probably had sex in the bathrooms there!

But last weeks guest arnt in the shower shagging while I wait to have a pee.

There's a big difference between an unknown entity possibly having had sex in a hotel at some point in the past, and it having since been cleaned by someone else. And your friends getting jiggy in your shower while you're downstairs eating your cornflakes. It's weird. What are you teenagers, do it discreetly at night in the bed or wait until you get home.

And Fwiw, I don't ever really feel completely comftable in hotels because you don't know who's been doing what there before you.

MimiLaRue · 16/08/2020 10:29

But last weeks guest arnt in the shower shagging while I wait to have a pee

What if theyre taking a huge dump? thats ok I suppose? despite the fact you can always tell from the stink, whereas shower sex leaves no trace.

As I said, a bizarre attitude.

HazelWong · 16/08/2020 10:34

Staying in self catering with a friend and her husband, they announced they were off for a shower and both went off to the bathroom together. That was awkward enough but their 5 year old kept knocking on the bathroom door and asking why she couldn't go in.

They otherwise seem fairly normal!

AllieCat26 · 16/08/2020 10:34

One of my so called ‘friends’ was meant to come to stay with me for a girls weekend for my birthday last year. When her controlling boyfriend (guy is an arse) heard how nice my apartment was, he decided that he would come as well - get a free holiday without hotel fees. They turned up at 3:30am on a workday (they were barely delayed), They then spent the whole time snogging passionately and whispering sweet nothings in each other’s ears (when they were in my house) mostly blanking me, and spent the rest of the time visiting other friends. 😡 In the times they were there they made a big show of sharing showers together (without asking), and he got butt naked in my living room as he ‘couldn’t be bothered to walk to the bathroom’.😱

The highlight (among many things) was that I went out for HALF AN HOUR, and when I got back their pillows were in MY BED, And my sheets were all messed up in a way that can only be caused by sex! 🤮 When I asked why they were in my bed when I was out, he gave me a creepy smile (making sure my ex-friend didn’t see) and said that they fancied a lie down (such bullshit). I then proceeded to ask why they didn’t take a lie down in the spare bedroom on the bed they were on and he said ‘I wanted to know what your bed was like.’ Such a bloody creepy.

Luckily they were leaving soon after, otherwise I would have thrown them out. As an aside the bitch didn’t even wish me happy birthday. 😱🤣

After this terribly disrespectful experience, I would personally never have sex in someone else’s house unless I was going to be there for a number of weeks/months, I think if you want to have sex on a short visit with a friend, then you should book a hotel, rather than have a couple’s trip on someone else’s expense (obviously if it’s your parents/ very close family a little different as it could be your old bedroom).

I think if you do decide to have sex in someone else’s house be respectful. Use a condom, who wants to sleep on something where someone’s semen was, even after it’s been washed? 🤔 Be VERY quiet about it. Make sure the room is appropriate - e.g. if someone is kind enough to put you up on the sofa/ kids room then just don’t even go there! Stick with your allotted bed - and just don’t be rude or disrespectful.