To have sex in someone else’s house?

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Is this ok?

Surely if you’re not seen or heard, and leave no trace then I don’t see what the problem is.

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Having sex in someone else's house is grim and disrespectful; especially, according to one poster, If they've got kids in the house. No.
What about your own children hearing you?

The only reason I said I wouldn't do it if the host had kids is because you don't know how they will feel about it. Some people many be mortified, especially if the kids hear.

Its about being respectful to other people, not being a prude about having sex. You might not mind your kids hearing you have sex, but your host might or they may have light sleepers.

If couples were staying and they were in their own room I would expect them to😂 I am 50% Nordic so it wouldn’t bother me.

We have friends who although being in their 30s aren’t allowed to live together until marriage for religious reasons.
If they want any private time together they have to secretly book a hotel room. Whenever we go away I wonder if we should invite them to stay at our house while we’re gone but never do because I find it a bit weird that we’d essentially be inviting them to have sex in our bed

For me it would depend on the person. Super close friends (you know the ones where it’s basically a second home, you serve yourself, let yourself in and even do the odd bit of housework if you spot some that needs doing) then I probably would have sex (quietly) because I usually put the sheets in the wash before I leave anyway.

Other friends and family that don’t fall into this I wouldn’t.

It depends really doesn’t it. I mean if you’re staying with a happy loved up couple who are shagging like rabbits themselves knock yourself out. If OTOH you’re staying with someone who has been through a break up and feeling lonely, is there any need to rub salt in their wounds. Surely you can wait a few days.

Erm I’ve never thought about it but I have definitely done it and definitely wouldn’t care if friend’s did it at my house 🤷‍♀️

does that include swinging on the chandelier and diving off the wardrobe

Erm I’ve never thought about it but I have definitely done it and definitely wouldn’t care if friend’s did it at my house 🤷‍♀️

Same

Of all the guests we have had, over the years, I have yet to hear anyone doing anything other than sleeping (not that we heard that either). Either they have all complied with the "no sex please we're visiting" rule or are being considerately quiet.

Not sure if some of the pearl clutchers on here either don't realise it is possible to adjust your volume or that they have incredibly thin walls. If you can hear "slapping" and "squelching" that would suggest the latter.

I wouldn't care about someone having sex in my house so long as they weren't being loud. I'm pretty sure I have. I don't get the whole "its disrespectful to have sex in someone elses house" it makes it sound like theres something dirty or wrong with having sex.

I've far more of an issue with people coming to my house and coughing without covering their mouths or putting their fork in their mouth then the communal food.

We had sex in a Cambridge lecturer's office once when he stupidly gave his son the keys to his room for a quiet place for revision. Almost got busted by the cleaner. We have sex at least once every vacation, and a lot of those are staying with relatives.
If the bed creaks we use the floor and we remember to clean the condoms tot he outside bin so no evidence.

@Mothership4two

Of all the guests we have had, over the years, I have yet to hear anyone doing anything other than sleeping (not that we heard that either). Either they have all complied with the "no sex please we're visiting" rule or are being considerately quiet.

Not sure if some of the pearl clutchers on here either don't realise it is possible to adjust your volume or that they have incredibly thin walls. If you can hear "slapping" and "squelching" that would suggest the latter.

What Mumsnet has taught me is it’s the pearl clutching prudes that are clearly the most noisy and messy when it comes to sex

Based on the responses here I can only assume they are all full on porn style squirters and crack on with anal at a moments notice

Yes agreed with PP, I always take the condom with me.

When I have guests I just scoop the sheets up and stick them in the wash.
I don't inspect them for semen stains.

Yes, I stay at my parents often and as it’s just me and DH staying mostly she doesn’t change the sheets after each time but will before anyone else stays

Sometimes if she’s forgotten if it’s been a few times I’ve stayed over she will ask me if the sheets need changing

Which they generally don’t as I’m usually too pissed after a night with them to bother with sex

When I have guests it’s a rare occasion

It doesn’t occur to me they may or may not have shagged

Either way everything gets washed and put away

I don’t go hunting

Mmm I guess it depends on the circumstances!

If we were staying a night with someone as like a one off or something we probably wouldn't! But we did stay with another couple for a couple of months this summer and so obviously did then.. And i'm sure they knew that we did and that wasn't an issue! We're both female though so obviously the issue of mess isn't the same as with some couples..

Would never disrespectfully shag loudly or anything in someone elses home though!

Of I had a couple stay over I would completely expect them
To have sex as long as they weren’t loud. I can t understand show so many people in here have a problem with this or wotupd never.
When me and ex hubby were young we had sex everywhere.

I think my friends would expect it of me and my husband.... do it. Enjoy and spread love.
Honestly nothing shameful and this thread really shouldn’t shame others either.
I am pretty sure as two consenting adults in another adult household there will be no issue, maybe leave the vibes/sex swing at home?!? 😉

So disappointing how few fellow Mumsnetters follow the good old tradition of the penis beaker by the bedside.

Anyway, I am usually no prude but was a bit freaked out by my parents having sex when they came to visit. No matter how wild I might have been, I would like to think they stopped shagging the moment I was conceived.

** How do these enormously huge and crusty patches occur? Male ejaculate varies between 0.1 to 10mls (isn't that where 10CC got their name?) averaging about 3.5mls. Less than a teaspoon on average, then.
Is this some weird stealth boast about the absolute load some posters' DPs produce and/or the utter tidal wave produced by some very well lubricated females?
That's grim, imo.

Hmm well I’m pretty sure that’s one of those urban myths/fake news, like they used to say only losing an egg cup full of period blood! yeah sure per tampon ! also used a moon cup which backs this up even more....I digress I’m sure it’s more than 10mls would definitely leave ‘a mess’ without a condom and if you say I must be well lubricated to add to it then maybe 🤷🏽‍♀️

I do remember staying at the ex in-laws when me and him were not that long together.. there might have been a T-shirt used for that purpose
If I had overnight guests, especially for more than a few nights, it wouldn’t bother me. At a party or whatever is just a bit weird unless you’re a teen / student.

Pff, as always people are projecting their own imagined circumstances onto this, obviously there are a number of fairly extreme cases possible, e.g.:

A - Your houseguests are a couple staying for a fortnight [relatives who now live overseas]; they're in their mid 30s, you suspect probably 'trying for a baby'. Your house is huge, they're staying several metres from your room.

B - Your're recovering from a messy breakup [ex DH cheated on you with a friend]. A night out has been arranged to 'cheer you up'. Houseguest is a friend who lives a few miles away but planned to stay over after a night out because it'd have been hard to get a taxi or similar. Your house is rather small and creaky. The guest room is directly above yours, with a rickety old bed. At short notice she's invited along some fairly random bloke as a +1 of some kind.

@NameChangedInCaseImGrim the 10cc story sadly isn't true.... it was Jonathan King (🤮) who named them .
It wouldn't bother me if they weren't keeping me awake.
Im sure I must have had sex in other people's homes in the distant past but as its such a rare occasion in my own home these days it's not likely to be an issue these days 🤣

Honestly wouldn't bother me