To have sex in someone else’s house?

[LuluBellaBlue]

Is this ok?

Surely if you’re not seen or heard, and leave no trace then I don’t see what the problem is.

Inspired by thread

If you would do a poo in their house as well then I would say what’s the problem? However like doing a poo you need to clean up and leave no trace you were there so if youre so immature you really can’t DTD without getting “stuff” everywhere you might want to take a break

During one flatshare, we had a mutual friend and her new bloke crash in our living room after a night out. For context - our flat was an L shape, with a free flow design (so no doors to the kitchen and living area). Friend and new bloke proceeded to have the loudest sex I have ever heard. She was actually screaming with (quite obvs faked pleasure). The sound was amplified throughout the flat. It went for ages. The next morning, there were two scrunched up condoms BESIDE not in the bin. Grim. So no, that's put me off doing it at someone else's house although these days we probably wouldn't even consider at as we'd have our kids staying in the same room probably!

I've never been that desperate to have sex with DH at someone's home when we stayed a couple of nights. Sex isn't shameful however, book a hotel if you can't keep yourselves together. You think you can have sex secretly and quietly, trust me just because the hosts act normal the next day doesn't mean they haven't heard your heavy breathing and sheets shuffling. Have some respect ✊ it's not the end of the world if you can't have sex for a couple of nights or just book a hotel room ffs. Me and dh now book hotel rooms all the time when we even visit in-laws or friends as we like to manage are own time and we get time off to chill but not to necessarily have sex.

Having read through this thread the phrase that sticks in my mind was someone being uptight about sex. What's not to like? :)

" If we stay over somewhere and wouldn't want anyone to know we would have a quicky in the shower."

Wouldn't they guess if they saw you coming out of the shower together?

@SerenDippitty even at hotels it's annoying to hear constant thumping and screaming ffs at 3am when they walk in drunk. People have no manners and are like animals. I remember when I went with my baby son and I was shushing him away to sleep being considerate not to wake anyone up at night feeds but full grown adults think it's ok with full on head banging and shouting. Now when I check-in I tell the receptionists to give me a room surrounded by families and old people.

I think it’s fine so long as you don’t leave any evidence

It's grim.

You can spunk where you want. They wear gloves and know that guests are a bit filthy.

Sex/wanting to have sex doesn’t make a person filthy. What a worrying attitude.

Yes probably if there was enough privacy. I don't like staying in other people's houses though as there's usually not enough privacy and I like my own space.

I couldn’t care less if someone had sex in my house. It is just sex, I don't see the big deal. I have never heard anyone and they won't have heard us. As long as they don't leave lube over the wardrobe crack on.

There have been times we have spent two weeks or more at someone else's house. There is no way we could wait that long to have sex.

I see it as bad manners personally

Don’t care tbh. Long as he doesn’t wipe his knob on the curtains 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is all so strange.

Having sex in someone else's house is grim and disrespectful; especially, according to one poster, If they've got kids in the house. No.
What about your own children hearing you?

Having sex in a hotel might wake other guests and/or their DC.

Possibly you can do it in a holiday cottage - especially if you're there for a week and are such animals that you can't sublimate your disgusting urges into a healthy game of Scrabble, and assuming whoever is unlucky enough to have to remove the starched-by-semen sheets wears PPE that would make anti-corona masks, gloves, etc look like a bikini.

Sooo...

Sex may be had in your own house, when there is nobody else other than the participants at home.
The sodden sheets presumably are immediately whipped off and boil washed and the dirty, post-coital ones must shower and change immediately.

I think it was Woody Allen who replied to the question "Is sex dirty?" with "Only if it's done right", but this is ridiculous.

Are MNetters absolute prudes or do they (we?) only have sex that is incredibly noisy and spreads filth everywhere?

I thought I was a prude until this thread.

I think it's completely fine and normal, not in the least disrespectful, provided you're staying overnight. Probably not so much if you've popped round for tea.

MajesticWhine

Probably not so much if you've popped round for tea.

"The vicar's coming" said Elizabeth, pouring tea with her other hand.

I can't see how having sex is disrespectful. Sex is just part of our loving marriage and always has been (hopefully always will be) and we have mastered being quiet! I too can nip to the toilet without leaving a spunky trail, and clean myself up. There is really no mess left behind (I hate the warm trickling feeling as a doze off if I don't). This thread along with the one that inspired this one has made me feel a bit bad for all the times over the years were we've shagged in friends houses- I didn't mean any disrespect but I doubt they'd know we'd done it.

Do you mean have sex in a guest room while staying with a friend or having sex in someone's house when you are just supposed to be over there feeding the cat?

What I think the naive Grimmers in this thread don’t realise is that if the opportunity arises (and their husband’s are anything like mine) people will have sex. In the park, the back of cars, the office, in the stockroom at Waitrose, the opportunities are endless.

So staying over a few nights at a friend’s house is hardly going to be seen as a no go area.

I wouldn’t, someone had sex in my bathroom once on the toilet and honestly it made me feel really violated and uncomfortable.

I believe I was the first to clutch my pearls on the thread that inspired this one.

I can hazard a guess that half of those of you who don't have a problem with this are not as slick as you think you are and those of us who disagree are the hosts who have had to listen to your shuffling, rustling, squelching and slapping all night, but are too embarrassed/ uncomfortable/ polite to say anything

God. I bet your sex life is great. 🤨

What if theyre taking a huge dump? thats ok I suppose? despite the fact you can always tell from the stink, whereas shower sex leaves no trace.

It's not about leaving a trace, it's about being discreet and not acting like a randy teenager or treating my home like a hotel.

If you go into the bathroom to shower with your partner, I'm gonna know what your doing. Which is a weird thing to do and also disrespectful of other people that may want to use the bathroom. You don't go around shoving your sex life in other propels faces, it's weird and a bit childish.

People need to poo, you don't need to have a bonk in my bathroom.

I have never actually managed shower sex, dh and I just seem to be mismatched. If I was staying somewhere for a few days I would probably just wait until back in my own home so I can make as much noise etc as I want. If someone stays at my home them having sex would not bother me, although I would prefer to be unaware of it.