To want and expect an apology

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So Monday night as I'm putting our 1 year old to bed my partner comes back from the shop shouting about why is their a glass in the car. I had been at work all day and the car had been on the car park. I was completely baffled as to what he was on about. As I went down stairs asking just that he was stood with a pint glass in his hand. So now he's shouting for all the neighbours to hear asking who have I had in the car and how "he'd suspected something for a couple of weeks now" and so was going to his brothers. I'm not really one to get into arguments so after denying any knowledge (I really don't have a clue) I went to walk away at which point he SPAT in my face! I was really shocked he did that and went upstairs to see to our son. I was really angry and at that point wouldn't of minded if he left but he didn't. I completely ignored him the rest of the night even when he started being really nice and trying to talk to me. The next day he was back to normal and Iv been off with him ever since. I want some remorse from him, at least an apology. Surely that's not unreasonable???

That would make me leave. No way of coming back from that one.

Fuck an apology, get him flung out.

Honestly, if my partner ever spat in my face, I'd probably end up in the jail myself as I'd have knocked the shite out of him 🙈

He spat in your face and all you want is an apology

Jesus OP. Wow.

I would want and expect for him to move out.

I'm sorry OP but if my dh spat in my face the only apology I'd accept is with his balls on a silver platter. Bin him quick!

Awful behaviour, how dare he do that to you, utterly revolting and serious scum bag territory. You do not need to put up with that, get rid of him. I hope you're ok.

You realise that any apology he makes will be meaningless. He spat in your face. Get out now before spitting (which is bad enough on it's own), is accompanied by a punch, or a kick.

He needs to be your ex.

If all you want is an apology then your standards are awfully low.

Wtf. I'd be out the door

LTB.

So since this happened on Monday nothing more has been said about the glass or the fact he spat on you?

To sum up
He came home shouting at you while the kids were home even the neighbours could hear.
He accused you of having a affair
He spat in your face .
The first one would be enough to be not speaking the 2nd would be enough to think my marriage was over and the 3rd my marriage would be over .
The fact he is not even kissing your arse to apologise he doesn't think he's in the wrong .
Do not be with one of those men who have no respect for their partners who will get worse and worse . At the best he'll belittle you and make you feel like shit and at worse he'll assault you next time will it be a slap ? .
Do something about it today or you will regret it for your sake and your dc .

Odd post. It's a given that he's a twat and that you should leave him, but I'd also want to know where the fecking pint glass DID appear from? All too odd.

I have a relatively high tolerance for mancrap, but no. Just no. The man spat in your face. That goes beyond all barriers of disrespect, you can’t take that and carry on, apology or not.

Leave.

You call him a partner, so hopefully you're not married. He's repulsive.

We all have to wear face masks but this man thinks it's ok to spit in your face? Hell no.
You and your child deserve way better.
Hi Get him out.

• Get him out

You could report him for assault, as spitting in someone's face (or anywhere else) is assault.

An apology is meaningless - he assaulted you, he belittled you, he shouted at you for the neighbours to hear and for what? He accused you of cheating on him, pretty much - has he retracted that? Has he worked out where the glass came from? Have you?

He's a foul bully and you shouldn't be looking for an apology, you should be looking for him to leave.

Well, FWIW I work with domestic violence victims and that is domestic violence. It is not going to get better, and I suspect there has been alot of stuff that happened before this you have minimised and told yourself is a one-off or otherwise trivial,

I am willing to bet a million pounds you know what I am talking about.

Call the police and get him out. What the hell are you on about getting an apology ... he's an abusive, untrusting prick who has assaulted you and humiliated you in front of all your neighbours over nothing.

It will happen again.

And btw, such behaviour is usually an indicator that he's cheating.

Some people post about their OH arguing and they then eat their fav biscuits to get revenge and you get people saying leave, the person is a wanker etc etc BUT wow i would honestly have packed up and walked out no way would i stay. Spitting is someone's face is disgusting. No damn excuses. No making excuses for OHs behaviour. It's nasty

Errm leave!!!! Before he harms you and your child.

Why would you want to stay with him? He doesn’t trust you and he clearly doesn’t like you.

I'm sorry to add to your unhappiness OP and HRTT but have you considered whether they might be seeing someone. IRL, most times I've seen an innocent partner accused out of the blue, it's their DP playing away and looking to either gaslight their DP, put in place a defense (you're only accusing me because I accused you) or judge their DP by their own standards.

Good luck.