To feel judgmental over actor Chris Pratt playing golf 4 days after his wife gave birth?

[QuarantineDream]

Obviously I'm BU in the sense it's none of my business but I'm a fan of his movies and this has kind of soured how I feel about him.

If I'd just had my first baby and my husband fucked off for a day of golf (it's not a short game is it?) I'd be devastated, even with all the help she's no doubt getting from family/staff etc.

Also can you just imagine if it had been the other way round and it had been Katherine who'd left her newborn for a day at the spa? The comments on her Instagram would be brutal. Barely an eyebrow raised on his...

You also had to have a dig about controlling women so I’d say your feelings are pretty clear to everyone.

Not sure what this means.
Some fathers love to sit and watch their newborn 24 hours a day I'm sure. Others are happy with 20 hours and go out for the other 4. It doesn't make either a bad parent.

Your bit about ‘some women just want to stop men doing what they want to do’.

I've a bad feeling about this guy. He left his first wife (and she had thought they had a happy marriage) and their special needs child. Before too long he was involved with somebody younger from an incredibly wealthy old established family/hollywood acting family.
I cannot believe he has ''done so well'' if you know what I mean. And yet he's out playing golf.

@SnackSizeRaisin

Em, yes, being with the tiny newborn watching TV with say, skin to skin, is infinitely better than not being with the tiny newborn playing golf.

Actually screen time is detrimental to under 2's. Also if mum is doing skin to skin then what is dad doing? They can't both do skin to skin at once.

I didn’t realise you were suggesting it was the baby watching tv? Were you really or are you just stuck for an argument?

How can you “get to know” a new baby? There’s nothing to know - they eat, sleep and shit.

@AskingforaBaskin

Maybe we can attribute your posts to severe baby brain then.

Was this to me? The idea that men should want to be around their tiny four day old babies over playing golf is this alien to you?

Bearing in mind her father’s son by his mistress was born 5 days after Katherine’s youngest brother and her mother’s a Kennedy (where the women are expected to turn a blind eye to rampant cheating), she’s probably glad it’s only golf.

Newborns are boring. They feed, they wee and shit, they cry, they sleep. What’s to get to know? Everyone does things differently, as suits them. Weird to think your way is right and other people are doing it wrong.

That’s such an odd thing, two weeks getting to know your new born. As a pp said they eat sleep and shit. Parenthood is hopefully for life, not two weeks. You spend a life time getting to know your child.

@VinylDetective

How can you “get to know” a new baby? There’s nothing to know - they eat, sleep and shit.

I guess that’s why when we have babies we just ignore everything but their very basic needs until they’re old enough to have an interesting conversation with.

What an eye opener this conversation about parenting has been.

What a weird thread. It's a baby born to the uber rich. The kid won't be traumatised by the dad wandering off to play a bit of golf when they were 4 days old. The mother may well be delighted to have peace and quiet with her baby, who knows?

Also very amused by the OP bleating about "you don't know my circumstances" while she judges others whose circumstances she knows nothing about...

@Theluggage15

Newborns are boring. They feed, they wee and shit, they cry, they sleep. What’s to get to know? Everyone does things differently, as suits them. Weird to think your way is right and other people are doing it wrong.

But that’s not true either - we know, we have studies to prove, how important those early weeks are in development.

Or do we? Do people honestly not know?

I really can't get worked up about this.

A lot of people saying babies are easy at first for them as if it’s universal. Even if they are, there’s a complete change of life and responsibility, coupled with, for a lot of women, physical pain/discomfort, maybe no sleep pre labour, you don’t know how to look after a baby and are trying to establish breastfeeding etc. I can’t imagine many partners wanting to be anywhere else at that stage, if they have leave from work, than trying to help their partner and brand new baby. I would never tell a new mother to man up - I’d say you’ve gone through so much and you’re doing great, always ask for help When you need it don’t do it all.

I can’t wait to see the peer-reviewed study on the damage to bonding induced by baby’s father going off for a round of golf when it was 96 hours old.

Researchgate.net will buckle under the traffic.

@Namechangr9000you do realise now that he was having an affair don’t you?

No, he wasn't but thanks for the idea.

Well this post has brought out the best in some of you!

No clue who he is but I didn't realise having a baby was a jail sentence for either parent. It's 4 hours not 4 months!

@Butchyrestingface

I can’t wait to see the peer-reviewed study on the damage to bonding induced by baby’s father going off for a round of golf when it was 96 hours old.

Researchgate.net will buckle under the traffic.

You don’t have to wait! There’s loads and loads and loads of research out there about absent, unloving, distant fathers and the effects it has on children as the grow up. And arguably, not being arsed about your four day old because they’re not interesting enough is a solid start down one of those paths.

Such a weirdly over invested thread.

@SionnachRua

What a weird thread. It's a baby born to the uber rich. The kid won't be traumatised by the dad wandering off to play a bit of golf when they were 4 days old. The mother may well be delighted to have peace and quiet with her baby, who knows?

Also very amused by the OP bleating about "you don't know my circumstances" while she judges others whose circumstances she knows nothing about...

"Bleating"? You sounds nice.

You don’t have to wait! There’s loads and loads and loads of research out there about absent, unloving, distant fathers and the effects it has on children as the grow up. And arguably, not being arsed about your four day old because they’re not interesting enough is a solid start down one of those paths.

I’m agreed we disagree we as to what parents nipping out for a few hours when their baby is 4 days old portends for the future.

I felt the same OP.

Four days post birth I was an emotional wreck, sore, trying to BF and entertain the "just popping past" visitors. If my dh fucked off for golf I'd be gutted.

Having to return to work (and knowing in advance) is a whole different ball game.

He's a dick, he cheated on his first wife is no surprise.

My husband had two days paternity leave, we’re overseas so far from family and I was left alone - I watched box sets with a baby on my boob or sleeping next to me in the moses basket. I had loads of nice food in. It was bliss!

Really odd to insert yourself into someone else's family and make judgements without any context. Unless Pratt's wife messaged you to tell you how lost she is without him, I don't know why you assume she is affected at all by this.

I "allowed" my husband to play golf many times when we had our newborn. I didn't need him by my side every second.

But I was not an emotional or physical wreck 4 days after the birth of any of my 3 children, we have no clue if she was or wasn't so why are we thinking it's ok to judge this bloke on our experience when we have no knowledge of their circumstances. This is wierd.