To feel judgmental over actor Chris Pratt playing golf 4 days after his wife gave birth?

[QuarantineDream]

Obviously I'm BU in the sense it's none of my business but I'm a fan of his movies and this has kind of soured how I feel about him.

If I'd just had my first baby and my husband fucked off for a day of golf (it's not a short game is it?) I'd be devastated, even with all the help she's no doubt getting from family/staff etc.

Also can you just imagine if it had been the other way round and it had been Katherine who'd left her newborn for a day at the spa? The comments on her Instagram would be brutal. Barely an eyebrow raised on his...

This wouldn’t bother me at all, in fact, as I’ve posted before, I was in hospital for a month after my daughter, they did release me half way through, on the second day home I heammoraghed and my husband was playing golf and returned just as I was being rushed back to hospital.

I was more than happy for him to play golf.i don’t think you can put your own personal issues or needs on someone else’s relationship.

Didn't he divorce his first wife with affairs rumours swirling and before that -when he met his first wife she was already married?

Jurassic World really annoyed me as well with the redhead running round in heels and a perfect bob for most of the film

Eh what now?

Wow, nothing wrong at all with this. I had my 3rd baby on the day that a play was on that my DH and his friend had booked for ages and really looking forward to going, I told him to go that night!

How do you know that:
She didn’t want time alone.
She was spending time with her family.
She was put somewhere for the day with the baby (I remember leaving the house on day 3) on her own/with friends or family.
She was with friends.
She’s still in hospital and therefore being cared for already.
You can’t judge because, no, you don’t know the circumstances.

This though:

Also can you just imagine if it had been the other way round and it had been Katherine who'd left her newborn for a day at the spa?

I can get on board with and is accurate. There is a shameful inequality when it comes to what fathers to vs what mothers do. Personally, if she was out having a glass of Prosecco whilst having a baby free afternoon I wouldn’t bat an eye lid but I know most people would.

My husband went back to work on day 4.

@NotYourHolidayDick

Are you kidding?

I loved being alone with my newborns. Having DH sod off and leave me alone for a day would have been heaven!

It's a baby. Women worldwide have them every second of every day. They really arent that hard

Lucky you. Shame about the thousands of women who it isn't that easy for!

@Namechangr9000 don't be a dick.

@NotYourHolidayDick

Are you kidding?

I loved being alone with my newborns. Having DH sod off and leave me alone for a day would have been heaven!

It's a baby. Women worldwide have them every second of every day. They really arent that hard

Speak for yourself only please. You didn’t find them hard. Many, many women do. This ‘man up’ narrative to women who are often heavily stitched up, bleeding, with engorged breasts, highly hormonal, shattered from sleep deprivation... well it’s fucked up.

He and his ex wife also abandoned a dog that was found emaciated. He is a horrible man, a member of a homophobic fundamentalist church. Awful.

Definitely not a golf widow (thank fuck)

I had no family help and my husband did everything for the first 24 hours because I was so out of it after my CS and he was extremely hands on thereafter which maybe colours my perspective. I found the first year incredibly hard. (Good for you if you didn't but that really isn't everyone's experience).

I still stand by the fact if it had been Katherine heading off for a girls' day out on Day 4 there would be way more judgment than Pratt is getting.

@QuarantineDream

Yeah the way it ended with Anna Farris didn't seem great. I've given him the benefit of the doubt before but he certainly comes across as regressive.

Jurassic World really annoyed me as well with the redhead running round in heels and a perfect bob for most of the film.

You’re too invested in this OP.

Babies are at their easiest in the first few days! I’d judge him more for going to gold when the baby is in the four month sleep regression and hasn’t slept for weeks!

OP I was still in hospital for a while after a couple of mine too.

Still feel the same. It's just a baby 🤷‍♀️

Someone else up there ^^ summed it up. Dont put your own personal issues onto someone else. Theres literally nothing to judge here.

@NotYourHolidayDick

Are you kidding?

I loved being alone with my newborns. Having DH sod off and leave me alone for a day would have been heaven!

It's a baby. Women worldwide have them every second of every day. They really arent that hard

They really are!!

@NotYourHolidayDick

OP I was still in hospital for a while after a couple of mine too.

Still feel the same. It's just a baby 🤷‍♀️

Someone else up there ^^ summed it up. Dont put your own personal issues onto someone else. Theres literally nothing to judge here.

It's not a pissing contest. I found it hard; you didn't. You have no idea what my personal circumstances were. I'm glad yours didn't impact your enjoyment of a newborn and mental health. Mine did.

Speak for yourself only please. You didn’t find them hard. Many, many women do. This ‘man up’ narrative to women who are often heavily stitched up, bleeding, with engorged breasts, highly hormonal, shattered from sleep deprivation... well it’s fucked up.

True dat

I don't think it's a big deal if his wife was happy with it.

I encouraged my DH to head out for a few hours in first few days, as long as he was back to let me have a couple of hours sleep and help with any visitors etc. Although this time round I think he'll be back to work by then unfortunately

I agree there would probably be judgement the other way round though

And he gave away the family pet - an old incontinent cat - on Twitter. I forgot that. He’s horrible. I don’t think the golf is necessarily a big deal thou. I doubt His wife, daughter of Hollywood Royalty was left alone with a screaming newborn and sore tits.

I find it bizarre that people make judgments about people they've never met and don't know, based on a snippet of information with no context. Chris Pratt's wife may be completely fine with him playing golf 4 days after she's given birth. She might be glad to get him out of the house. She might have her mum staying with her. Who knows?

Parent has a life away from a baby.

When one of mine was less than a week old I fucked off to a wedding.
This was before paternal leave and he fucked off back to work the day. after for all 3.

@Bluntness100

Jurassic World really annoyed me as well with the redhead running round in heels and a perfect bob for most of the film

Eh what now?

https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/heat-vision/bryce-dallas-howard-defends-high-833910

Far less bothering than Rod Stewart who took Penny Lancaster out for dinner from the Portland hospital (leaving baby there) the day she gave birth. Squashed her into a pretty dress and went for dinner within hours of having her first. She made comments at the time about keeping her man happy, but it seems pretty abusive

You have no idea what my personal circumstances were.

Woman complains about being judged on personal circumstances someone else doesn’t know, whilst judging man on personal circumstances she doesn’t know. The irony

I had DS1 in the early hours of the Wednesday morning and DH went to his works Christmas lunch on the Thursday. I'd had an awful birth and was still in hospital. I was totally overwhelmed with visitors on the Wednesday, was expecting more on the Thursday evening, so took the opportunity to have a rest and sleep while he wasn't there. I didn't need him there 24/7 holding my hand.

When I had DS2 things were very different because I'd been in a wheelchair/bed for more than 10weeks with severe SPD and couldn't walk (still can't) so he didn't go anywhere.

It's an "each to their own situation". One size doesn't fit all.

If you insist on investing in people you don’t know, you’re bound to be disappointed...