To feel judgmental over actor Chris Pratt playing golf 4 days after his wife gave birth?

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Obviously I'm BU in the sense it's none of my business but I'm a fan of his movies and this has kind of soured how I feel about him.

If I'd just had my first baby and my husband fucked off for a day of golf (it's not a short game is it?) I'd be devastated, even with all the help she's no doubt getting from family/staff etc.

Also can you just imagine if it had been the other way round and it had been Katherine who'd left her newborn for a day at the spa? The comments on her Instagram would be brutal. Barely an eyebrow raised on his...

@ChrisPrattsFace 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

The science of early bonding is well established. The science of “round of golf at 4 days old = catastrophic break in the bonding process and/or strong indicator of shitey parenting to come”, less so. Happy to read that paper though.

Not like you to use sarcasm to make a point.

Again, we’ll have to agree to disagree. For me, not wanting to be with your tiny four day old kid because what you want (golf) is more fun is an indicator of how you see your kid.

No idea who Chris Pratt is but why does it matter?

I lived with my parents when my DS was tiny and I loved peace and quiet and time alone with him.

There are also plenty of women who don't have partners at all, let alone ones who bugger off golfing.

It's not a "one size fits all" situation, some people need the extra pair of hands, some don't. Not sure why anyone would get worked up about it in a couple they don't even know.

More pissed off that he's a hunter and kills innocent animals for fun

For me, not wanting to be with your tiny four day old kid because what you want (golf) is more fun is an indicator of how you see your kid

How odd.

@Bluntness100

For me, not wanting to be with your tiny four day old kid because what you want (golf) is more fun is an indicator of how you see your kid

How odd.

It turns out it is odd! I thought it was normal!

Not like you to use sarcasm to make a point.

It’s simply a summary of the complete hyperbole you’ve used so far.

Again, we’ll have to agree to disagree. For me, not wanting to be with your tiny four day old kid because what you want (golf) is more fun is an indicator of how you see your kid.

Fine. For me I just see it as decompressing after what has likely been a hectic, stressful time, and at a point when it will make no difference to the baby, who is likely asleep.

That pic of the chihuahua makes me sad.

It turns out it is odd! I thought it was normal!

There's a wide range of normal within good parenting. What's odd is imagining that anyone doing things differently to you is a bad neglectful parent or an inadequate father

@SnackSizeRaisin

It turns out it is odd! I thought it was normal!

There's a wide range of normal within good parenting. What's odd is imagining that anyone doing things differently to you is a bad neglectful parent or an inadequate father

No, I thought it was normal to want to be around your four day old baby.

Meh
Why shouldn’t he if she’s happy for him to
I’m sure she’s got help if she needs it
Wouldn’t have bothered me

absent, unloving, distant fathers

Only on MN could a dad who plays golf for 4 hours be described as this.

Hysterical.

The issue here is the black and white thinking, there is no shades of grey, you should wish to spend all your time with your child And if you don’t then you’re doing something wrong, by playing golf and then compounded by telling other parents who see it as fine that they too are wrong and only your view counts,

@Illegitiminoncarborundum

absent, unloving, distant fathers

Only on MN could a dad who plays golf for 4 hours be described as this.

Hysterical.

It’s pretty hysterical to lift that one part of that post. But I guess that’s because you’d have to acknowledge the truth of it otherwise.

@Bluntness100

The issue here is the black and white thinking, there is no shades of grey, you should wish to spend all your time with your child And if you don’t then you’re doing something wrong, by playing golf and then compounded by telling other parents who see it as fine that they too are wrong and only your view counts,

More minimising here though - not ‘a child’ but a four day old newborn. Which you’ve left because it’s boring (your own kid) and golf is more fun for you. Yes, I find that really weird.

And surely you’re doing the same to me? I’m wrong because you don’t see anything wrong with not wanting to be around your own four day old kid?

OP YANBU. I used to like him but all the recent things he has done has shown he fits his surname perfectly. What a pratt.

No, I thought it was normal to want to be around your four day old baby.

TBH, whilst adorable, they are fairly dull and aren't likely to be much different on Day 5. Or the other 19 hours or so of Day 4.

I wouldn’t be surprised if his wife is checked into a spa and the baby is with a team of nannies. People like this don’t actually care for their own kids.

By the way for people who don't know who he is film wise- he's in the Guardians of the galaxy franchise from Marvel, and he's the lead in the last two(?) Jurassic films (now Jurassic world). I enjoy all but yes, this is an interesting thread

Crisp rat.

I haven’t really read most of this thread, but the day we brought DS home from the hospital, DP went climbing for four hours and I couldn’t have given a shit. Neither did 2 day old DS, by the way. That was a Tuesday. Friday night I took DP to a stag do half an hour away and went and collected him at midnight. Again, neither of us cared. The following Monday DP was back at work as he’s self employed and his busy season... I loved it. DS probably couldn’t have given a shit.

I think, barring neglect or abuse, it’s very poor form to judge what works for a family.

Up to the couple and the relationship surely?

My husband went to a car show three days after our last son was born. He had the tickets, our son came early. He offered countless times to cancel but I knew I’d be fine, and I was happy for him to go.

So? You really don’t know the set up they have. They probably have an army of nannies. She probably didn’t mind if he left for a few hours. My husband lady me for 2 weeks 2 days after I gave birth. I coped - alone. Women can do it, you know?

No, I thought it was normal to want to be around your four day old baby

I thought it was normal to want a small break every now and then. Newborns sleep most of the time anyway and you don’t get much interaction with them. When my kids were born I relished having a break to rest and recharge. I think that’s far healthier than pressuring people to be “on duty” 24/7 and never allowing them to have a break. That’s how PPD starts......

The point of this thread isn’t whether or not the woman minds. Unless any of you seriously think the mother is the chief parent and the father is more of a nanny type figure in his own children’s lives.