To feel judgmental over actor Chris Pratt playing golf 4 days after his wife gave birth?

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Obviously I'm BU in the sense it's none of my business but I'm a fan of his movies and this has kind of soured how I feel about him.

If I'd just had my first baby and my husband fucked off for a day of golf (it's not a short game is it?) I'd be devastated, even with all the help she's no doubt getting from family/staff etc.

Also can you just imagine if it had been the other way round and it had been Katherine who'd left her newborn for a day at the spa? The comments on her Instagram would be brutal. Barely an eyebrow raised on his...

I don't know if he was being selfish or not, as I can't know the details of their relationship or conversations. She may have wanted time alone with the baby, for all we know, or maybe he's a horrible beast of a man for leaving to play golf while she's sobbing alone in a darkened room. No way for me to say...

But I do wonder, if it's not okay for a father to leave his 4-day-old infant to play golf (under any circumstances, even if the mother's fine with it), at what age IS it okay? Is there one handy website where can one find these rules to follow to avoid being an awful parent? Would come in handy to have a place to point people if this comes up again.

Do you know that the baby was actually born 4 days before the golf post?

Lots of couples leave it days or even weeks before announcing the birth of a child on social media

Wow you really must not have a life to make a post and find and attach pictures. Do you know her personally to feel offended on her behalf?
I cant understand how you know how she feels and to even care !

Sure, you’re all about equal parenting.

I don't believe in equal parenting for a breastfed newborn, no. I believe in a happy family with 2 loving parents each supporting the other in the way that is best at the time. Not in some kind of weird martyrdom where no one can have any fun any more!

It’s not about the wife’s needs - it’s about him not wanting to be with his tiny four day old baby because he’d rather play golf.

The fact that so many of you think that’s absolutely fine so long as she didn’t need ‘help’ is really sad.

@SnackSizeRaisin

Sure, you’re all about equal parenting.

I don't believe in equal parenting for a breastfed newborn, no. I believe in a happy family with 2 loving parents each supporting the other in the way that is best at the time. Not in some kind of weird martyrdom where no one can have any fun any more!

You don’t think a father would want to spend as much time as possible with a breastfed newborn? That he’d rather be playing golf is absolutely top class parenting?

You also had to have a dig about controlling women so I’d say your feelings are pretty clear to everyone.

My DH went to a corporate rugby event when DD was less than 24 hours old. It was arranged long before and he couldn't really do anything for me and the baby as we were in hospital. It didn't bother me at all.

He proudly showed all and sundry a picture of his tiny wee baby on his phone at the event and no doubt got judged by some of them who didn't know the full story of it.

I don't think there's really any reason to judge Chris Pratt on this situation you know nothing about.

@piscean10

Wow you really must not have a life to make a post and find and attach pictures. Do you know her personally to feel offended on her behalf? I cant understand how you know how she feels and to even care !

Lol

It’s not about the wife’s needs - it’s about him not wanting to be with his tiny four day old baby because he’d rather play golf.

Maybe he really loves golf?

Do you have a baby? Did you literally sit there staring at it every waking hour? Most people I know spent the time not breastfeeding on social media or watching TV - are either inherently more worthy than golf?

@Pumperthepumper

It’s not about the wife’s needs - it’s about him not wanting to be with his tiny four day old baby because he’d rather play golf.

The fact that so many of you think that’s absolutely fine so long as she didn’t need ‘help’ is really sad.

Is it? Are you supposed to be incapable of thinking of anything else when you have a newborn?

I think without knowing how she feels about yabu. She could be quite happy having some alone time with their baby and having him from under her feet. We are ttc and one of the things I'm concerned I'll struggle with is having no time to myself while DH is off work and family are round visiting.

You don’t think a father would want to spend as much time as possible with a breastfed newborn?

Of all the stupid things 😂
I didn't want to spend every second with a baby. You're stuck with them for at least the next 18 years. They're not going anywhere.

Whoever would have thought the comings and goings of two uber rich, priviliged shlebs could inspire such frothing outrage strong opinions?

Thank goodness there aren’t more pressing concerns in the world right now.

@SnackSizeRaisin

It’s not about the wife’s needs - it’s about him not wanting to be with his tiny four day old baby because he’d rather play golf.

Maybe he really loves golf?

Do you have a baby? Did you literally sit there staring at it every waking hour? Most people I know spent the time not breastfeeding on social media or watching TV - are either inherently more worthy than golf?

Em, yes, being with the tiny newborn watching TV with say, skin to skin, is infinitely better than not being with the tiny newborn playing golf.

I’ve had loads of babies.

New babies spend most of the time asleep. Sure he did the look in delight for an hour that morning but I can’t see a problem with him doing something else fir the rest of the day.
I’d have more of an issue if the baby was a bit older.

I’ve had loads of babies

😂 Define loads.

[quote OntheWaves40]@Namechangr9000 you do realise now that he was having an affair don’t you?[/quote]
What a fucking spiteful comment. You've embarrassed yourself with that one.

Maybe we can attribute your posts to severe baby brain then.

You don’t think a father would want to spend as much time as possible with a breastfed newborn? That he’d rather be playing golf is absolutely top class parenting?

No I don't think that being a good parent means spending all of your time with the baby. It has absolutely no bearing on the quality of the parenting whether a new parent goes out for a few hours leaving the baby with their other parent.

You also had to have a dig about controlling women so I’d say your feelings are pretty clear to everyone.

Not sure what this means.
Some fathers love to sit and watch their newborn 24 hours a day I'm sure. Others are happy with 20 hours and go out for the other 4. It doesn't make either a bad parent.

But I do wonder, if it's not okay for a father to leave his 4-day-old infant to play golf (under any circumstances, even if the mother's fine with it), at what age IS it okay? Is there one handy website where can one find these rules to follow to avoid being an awful parent? Would come in handy to have a place to point people if this comes up again.

I don’t know the answer to this but I’d say paternity leave in the Uk is what, two weeks? I don’t see the big deal in wanting to spend those two weeks getting to know your own tiny little kid by spending as much time with them as possible.

But it seems a lot of fathers on here would see that as a massive inconvenience because of golf and stuff, so what do I know? And the bit about the mother having to be ok with it too, because it’s mainly her baby to a lot of people.

@Pumperthepumper are you Sue Radford? 😆

Didn't even realise he'd split up with Anna Farris??! I loved their social media!

He's just a dick in general

He’s a conservative ‘traditional values’ Christian who abandoned two pets then left his first wife and child and decided to have a ‘do-over’ family. Don’t know why you’d have high expectations of him??

Em, yes, being with the tiny newborn watching TV with say, skin to skin, is infinitely better than not being with the tiny newborn playing golf.

Actually screen time is detrimental to under 2's. Also if mum is doing skin to skin then what is dad doing? They can't both do skin to skin at once.