Page 5 | To feel judgmental over actor Chris Pratt playing golf 4 days after his wife gave birth?

QuarantineDream · 2020-08-15T07:38:13+00:00

Obviously I'm BU in the sense it's none of my business but I'm a fan of his movies and this has kind of soured how I feel about him. If I'd just had my first baby and my husband fucked off for a day of golf (it's not a short game is it?) I'd be devastated, even with all the help she's no doubt getting from family/staff etc. Also can you just imagine if it had been the other way round and it had been Katherine who'd left her newborn for a day at the spa? The comments on her Instagram would be brutal. Barely an eyebrow raised on his...

SnackSizeRaisin · 15/08/2020 10:53

Really? It doesn't need 2 people 24 hours a day to look after one baby who's mostly asleep! As long as he has made sure the house is tidy and there's food in before going, I would be perfectly happy with husband going out for a few hours.

Pumperthepumper · 15/08/2020 10:54

95% of people on this thread seem to think it’s his wife’s baby and he doesn’t have to hang around if she doesn’t need ‘help’ - why does he not want to be around his four day old baby? What kind of father is that?

BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze · 15/08/2020 10:56

You have no idea what my personal circumstances were.

And yet you judge someone else when you have no idea of what their circumstances are. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Weird.

Butchyrestingface · 15/08/2020 10:57

95% of people on this thread seem to think it’s his wife’s baby and he doesn’t have to hang around if she doesn’t need ‘help’ - why does he not want to be around his four day old baby? What kind of father is that?

Presumably you would judge the mother equally harshly if she'd popped out for a pedicure/couple of hours fresh air, etc?

I wouldn't.

Pumperthepumper · 15/08/2020 10:58

@Butchyrestingface

95% of people on this thread seem to think it’s his wife’s baby and he doesn’t have to hang around if she doesn’t need ‘help’ - why does he not want to be around his four day old baby? What kind of father is that?

Presumably you would judge the mother equally harshly if she'd popped out for a pedicure/couple of hours fresh air, etc?

I wouldn't.

No - she’s just had an actual human leave her body, I’d say she deserves a pedicure.

Oh wait - you’re one of those ‘equality means EXACTLY THE SAME regardless of previous circumstance’ types, aren’t you?

SnackSizeRaisin · 15/08/2020 10:59

Not wanting to spend every minute with someone doesn't mean you don't like them. It's different for the mother of course. Newborns need to be with their mother and hormones kick in to ensure most mothers feel the need to stay with them. But there is no reason a father needs to be with the baby all the time.

NoGinNotComingIn · 15/08/2020 10:59

She’s had a baby not lost her arms and legs, I don’t get this whole the husband needs to be there 24/7, if my husband fancied a round I would barely notice him missing. He’d be up and out before 7, back at 11. Some people are so dramatic over having a baby, unless something terrible happened during labour the chances are you feel fine, I went for a 4 mile walk the day after I gave birth, felt fine, just slightly tired.

Pumperthepumper · 15/08/2020 11:01

@NoGinNotComingIn

She’s had a baby not lost her arms and legs, I don’t get this whole the husband needs to be there 24/7, if my husband fancied a round I would barely notice him missing. He’d be up and out before 7, back at 11. Some people are so dramatic over having a baby, unless something terrible happened during labour the chances are you feel fine, I went for a 4 mile walk the day after I gave birth, felt fine, just slightly tired.

You barely noticing your husband and father of your children not being there doesn’t exactly paint him in a brilliant light.

CouldBeOuting · 15/08/2020 11:01

My DH went off for a weekend away to watch motor racing when our firstborn was three days old!

Booked before I even knew I was pregnant. Not an issue. DD still has the souvenir t-shirt he brought back with him.

Having a baby is supposed to ADD to your life not spoil it!

SnackSizeRaisin · 15/08/2020 11:02

No - she’s just had an actual human leave her body, I’d say she deserves a pedicure.

Eh? Giving birth doesn't affect your toenails.

DopamineHits · 15/08/2020 11:02

It's a baby. Women worldwide have them every second of every day.
They really arent that hard

Ugh.

Pumperthepumper · 15/08/2020 11:05

@DopamineHits

It's a baby. Women worldwide have them every second of every day. They really arent that hard

Ugh.

It’s mad isn’t it? That coupled with all the ‘men don’t even have to love their babies enough to be with them when they’re four days old’ and ‘my husband left for a weekend when our baby was still wet because that’s what was more important to him’ - these people have such a warped idea of what being a parent is. It’s really sad.

Cakestandkitchen · 15/08/2020 11:05

Devastated? A bit extreme. What about single mums or husbands who can’t take time off the instant a baby is born. Boris Johnson girlfriend seemed to have managed when he nearly died and was running the country.

Thateverlastingyes77 · 15/08/2020 11:05

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SnackSizeRaisin · 15/08/2020 11:06

You barely noticing your husband and father of your children not being there doesn’t exactly paint him in a brilliant light.

Not every woman needs constant moral support with every little thing - some of us are perfectly capable of getting on with it for a few hours, and are able to support our husbands in their interests as well. Partners in healthy marriages support each other rather than trying to control and restrict one another.

namechangetheworld · 15/08/2020 11:09

I can't stand him, but they're minted - they will have an army of nannies, cleaners and chefs at their disposal. Doubt she's stuck at home scrubbing the bog whilst trying to feed the baby.

Pumperthepumper · 15/08/2020 11:10

‘Managed’ ‘helped’ ‘moral support’ - for their own child. Imagine seeing your own child as something you have to ‘help out’ with.

SnackSizeRaisin · 15/08/2020 11:11

these people have such a warped idea of what being a parent is.

Some people seem to use a baby as a reason to stop their husband doing anything he wants

Butchyrestingface · 15/08/2020 11:12

Oh wait - you’re one of those ‘equality means EXACTLY THE SAME regardless of previous circumstance’ types, aren’t you?

Why would the circumstances be any different here? You're castigating a man for leaving their child after 4 days for a few hours, and casting aspersions on what kind of parent they are for doing so.

It doesn't follow that the mother doing the same would be any better/worse. I wouldn't judge either. I don't know their personal circumstances. She may have been glad of a few hours to herself with the baby (and staff).

VinylDetective · 15/08/2020 11:13

She was probably glad to see the back of him for the day. My husband was back at work when I had a four day old.

Pumperthepumper · 15/08/2020 11:13

@SnackSizeRaisin

these people have such a warped idea of what being a parent is.

Some people seem to use a baby as a reason to stop their husband doing anything he wants

‘Anything he wants’ - not being with his own newborn. He chooses something he wants more than being with his own tiny baby and you see that as the fault of the mother? Warped.

Crinkle77 · 15/08/2020 11:14

[quote OntheWaves40]@Namechangr9000 you do realise now that he was having an affair don’t you?[/quote]
Spiteful much?

Possibly he took up golf as an excuse to get out of the house so he could skive off but to suggest it was because he was having an affair is just plain nasty.

SnackSizeRaisin · 15/08/2020 11:14

‘Managed’ ‘helped’ ‘moral support’ - for their own child. Imagine seeing your own child as something you have to ‘help out’ with.

My husband can also manage fine on his own and doesn't need my moral support whilst I go out for a morning. (Sometimes I come back in the afternoon to help out, if he has something he needs to do). Is that ok, or do both parents need to be there at all times?

mrsBtheparker · 15/08/2020 11:15

I recall being in hospital after daughter 1 was born, we had to spend a week in then, OH came in during the afternoon visiting slot wearing his speedos with an old vest top and with his flippers strung round his neck, he'd been down to the beach. Didn't bother me one jot, I was more taken with the looks of horror on the faces of the staff!

Why on earth do so many people think they can be 'judgemental' about total strangers' lives? Concentrate on your own, you'll feel better!

Pumperthepumper · 15/08/2020 11:15

@Butchyrestingface

Oh wait - you’re one of those ‘equality means EXACTLY THE SAME regardless of previous circumstance’ types, aren’t you?

Why would the circumstances be any different here? You're castigating a man for leaving their child after 4 days for a few hours, and casting aspersions on what kind of parent they are for doing so.

It doesn't follow that the mother doing the same would be any better/worse. I wouldn't judge either. I don't know their personal circumstances. She may have been glad of a few hours to herself with the baby (and staff).

He left his four day old baby to play golf. She has either had something leave her vagina four days ago, or had an operation four days ago.

You can’t possibly see those situations as the same so don’t pretend.