To feel judgmental over actor Chris Pratt playing golf 4 days after his wife gave birth?

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Obviously I'm BU in the sense it's none of my business but I'm a fan of his movies and this has kind of soured how I feel about him.

If I'd just had my first baby and my husband fucked off for a day of golf (it's not a short game is it?) I'd be devastated, even with all the help she's no doubt getting from family/staff etc.

Also can you just imagine if it had been the other way round and it had been Katherine who'd left her newborn for a day at the spa? The comments on her Instagram would be brutal. Barely an eyebrow raised on his...

It's easier for rich people to do these things. They can hire/buy as many goods and services as they want.

I think opinion of him soured well before this. Like when he dumped his wife who had been with him through thick and thin and traded her in for a younger model the second he lost weight and became more famous.

I can't stand the man. Just looking at him gives me the creeps. He's in all of my kids favourite films though 🤦‍♀️

I went off him after the way he treated his first wife. Not a pleasant man.

I think he is known for being a dick head so it would be on form for him to fuck off even if his wife did want him there.
I probably would have divorced DH if he'd left me with ds1 all day - that child did NOT sleep and I was very unwell after the birth. I would have coped fine after ds2 as he was much easier but I still wouldn't have been happy if DH had gone out for hours. I've grown an entire human, delivered said human and now have to cope with the aftermath of stitches, bleeding, pain and hormones. The least he can do is stay at home for a few days and help out!

It's up to the couple, OP. Some women find giving birth quite easy. Some newborns sleep most of the day. Lots of women choose or are have to look after the baby on their own without help from the father.
As far as Penny Lancaster goes, I know a woman who gave birth in the morning and went to a party in the evening (left the baby with the mum). It was her choice, everyone was fine.

I've never heard of him, don't recognise him from the photo. It isn't how I'd expect him to spend paternity leave but then again maybe his wife was happy to get rid of him for a day based on what people are saying about him.

Mine played golf 2 days later...no problem for me. I was up and around, breastfeeding, house was clean.....

YANBU OP. There is a world of difference between a man who has to go to work after the birth of his DC and one who chooses to fuck off for hours, to hit a ball round a field for hours with his mates.

I’m yet to meet a golfer who isn’t a selfish prick.

I was still in hospital on Day 4 but you do you.

And yet you are happy to judge what another couple are doing...

You have no idea what my personal circumstances were.

And yet you are happy to judge what another couple are doing...

You're projecting your circumstances and feelings onto somebody else.

With one of my dc I was in for 2 weeks, had a blood transfusion, pretty much stitched back together. With another I was in tesco doing my weekly shop 14 hours after giving birth. Not every birth is the same.

His family circumstances are exactly that. If his wife was in pain, struggling etc he wouldn't be out golfing.

Shaming any new parent for getting a bit of time to themselves is not on really. We all need some time away. Would you be slating the Mum of she went for a massage for a couple of hours to relax, leaving their baby with the other parent (and probably countless members of staff)?

Totally agree OP.

I had no idea about the animals he has abandoned or his first wife until now , as I don't follow celeb news much. In which case it's probably not surprising he went out!

He's fucking grim. And a homophobe.

You’re totally projecting your feelings into a situation you know nothing about. For all you know, he dropped her and the baby off at a lunch with all her girlfriends and he picked them up afterwards - you literally have ZERO idea of what their reasonings are.

I didn't realise he got chubby again

I don’t care one way or the other about the golf, but he seems like a dick. I really don’t understand what all the fuss is about him (except the usual fuss that is made over any passingly attractive and funny white man).

Also, Jurassic World was absolute balls.

Each case would be a sum of its parts isn't it. Chris Pratt, seen to be inconsiderate, selfish and judgemental going out for a five hour golf game it comes out like he probably doesn't care what his wife feels, or needs.

A different man who has been considerate thoughtful and understanding - sharing the sleep deprivation- if he went out for a golf you would imagine his partner is fine with it.

Also isn't golf usually 'a hobby' on MN for a reason?

do you know, I'm normally one of those 'stand up for them' people but yeah, at least give it two weeks. Dh went back to work 2 days after I had ds3 and now we always go 'wtf'. I drove to the school, shuffled out with the pram and collected the kids. All the staff were running to try to help and I was like 'but I'm fine!' And for the people wanting alone time from their dhs, he could go and bloody clean or something. Boo!

I’m with you OP. I changed my opinion on him when he left Anna Faris and was remarried with a baby on the way 5 minutes later.
I was also in hospital for 5 days following DS’s birth and struggled mentally for a long time after. I would have resented DH massively if he buggered off to play golf. I appreciate they may have more help than we did but that’s not the point is it? They are both the baby’s parents and the early days should be spent bonding as a family if you have that opportunity.

I didn't realise he got chubby again

Ouch! 😆

I was still in hospital on Day 4 but you do you.

“You do you” - Do you realise the irony?

Even if I knew who these people were, I still wouldn’t bat an eyelid. I was out of hospital within hours of having mine and carrying on with my life. All the baby was doing was feeding and sleeping. There was no need for DH to be next to me 24/7.

I don't think we should be telling others how they should be bonding with their babies. Personally I liked the space. A lot of women don't bond for a couple of weeks and do so when they are left in charge on their own. For Dads the bonding process differs. All this bonding stuuf didn't happen generations ago, it didn't mean that Dads didn't bond.

How well the birth went, how well breastfeeding is going and how content the baby is, makes a difference. I never needed anyone around when I had newborns. I didn't have stitches with my births and neither did my DD.

Three weeks in with my youngest and she used to sleep for three solid hours of a morning, so I used to take myself off out, leaving her with her Dad. It meant that I only had to express one bottle. My DH's work was seasonal.

You are very much projecting.

I also think Chris Pratt is pretty douchy but mainly due to his very traditional views and links with a homophobic church

But it always seems to be assumed the man cheated.

I must now confess to some heavy googling but it appears CP and AF announced their separation in August 2017 with Anna linked to her now partner a month later and Chris not dating Katherine til June 2018.

It also appears he's been deeply into Jesus since a teenager.

Goddammit we may never know the reason for their split or who was to 'blame'

But the OPs push back to others is defo laughable given her thread.

And I also pushed my DH the week of my DS being born as I wanted some along time. I don't think this is unusual. But I totally agree if I'd have left for the afternoon eyebrows would have been raised!!

"he could go and bloody clean or something"

But these people have cleaners and probably housekeepers. They can't just pop to a supermarket without attention. So to get out of the house, they have to go to do a hobby.