To ask - how many people have you had sex with?

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I'm so intrigued to know what the average number is. I hope some of you won't mind responding.

I'll start. My number is 12

15-20, not too sure. All but onE were from 19-23. Since then only my husband of 25 years.

Around 10, over a period of 15 years being mostly single in my 20s. Been with DH 12 years since early in my 30s.

Four. One guy, three women.

I have a question for those who's number is 1 and you're married/In a LTR - do you worry that one day you'll regret not having a higher number?

I know mine's four, and I'm sexually libertarian and adventurous and it does cross my mind sometimes (I'm 40s). On another thread like this a few years ago I mentioned my best mate shagged over 50 in 14 nights in Ibiza!

I would estimate about 35. Most of those before I met my ex husband when I was 21. Since my divorce it’s 3. I had a wild late teens!

Me: 30 ish. Many more men than women sadly.
Husband: 4 (didn’t start till aged 30)

35 in a few weeks and I have slept with two men and one woman

15. I'm 30. Started at 16.

1. I'm 55. Married 2 of them. I don't equate sex with love, but I do need to feel a connection with them so never had a ONS

In my 40s. I have never kept a scoreboard in the bedroom. Well into double figures and happy. No regrets.

1. I wish I’d not bothered with 2 of those.

To add (I always think of more after l have pressed send), those asking about people with higher numbers, for me (well into double figures) it has always been about passion and need as well as being positive about your own body. Mum (now deceased) always used to say if it doesn’t feel nice, don’t do it.

I never subscribed to this “lost virginity” nonsense. That’s controlling ”manspeak”. That happened around my 15th birthday. Can’t remember whether it was before or after. No lectures please, in my 40s now. I didn’t lose anything though.

In my 30s l was beautifully and suprisingly seduced by another woman, which gave me a new perspective. The numbers for both genders will increase. Passion continues.

Probably around 40.

I've actually had very few (maybe three?) one night stands and two holiday romances.

I was polyamorous when younger so tended to have several casual relationships running concurrently at a time. All knew it wasn't exclusive, all safe sex etc. I'd date them for a few months (some a few years) before we'd part.

If I had a long term relationship it tended to last 9 months- 3 years.

I lost my virginity at 15 and met my dh at 30, so maybe a new partner every 4/5 months on average.

Do you have to include sexual abuse?

Actual PIV, just two. Intense sexual experiences, a few more. I'm about quality over quantity and I've been insanely lucky in that regard.

Somewhere between 30 and 35 , I thoroughly enjoyed my university years and my early twenties. I'm rather glad to be honest. I firmly believe there is no right or wrong and it is entirely up to each person to choose. For me I have a somewhat wild rebellious streak (which is entertaining to those people very close to me because I appear on the surface to be the poster hold for conformity , when you get close to me you realise I'm really not) and had I not had those years of doing what the hell I wanted I suspect I'd feel somewhat constrained. That is however an entirely personal personality quirk. I think some people ar happy with 1 and some happy with 1000 and anything else.

One of the last bastions of personal choice should be who and what you put into your own body.

Dp I have every intention of growing old with but should anything happen I would not have another relationship while my DC were at home but once they had left then who knows. Hopefully that's not an issue as dp is the love of my life so hoping I'm going to be whacking him with a stick because hes snoring again in our joint care home at 90

Oh and I'm 41 ,all Male partners but only because it happened that way. Wouldn't have ruled out a female partner.

2 😬 my DH included

@FaithinWashing

Those of you who have slept with lots do you just do it if you like the look of them or do you need an emotional connection? I have never had sex with anyone I wasn't in love with and dated both of them for several months before I felt I knew them well enough to be that intimate with. Is it different with someone you don't know well or is it always just mechanical? I'm not judging I'm genuinely interested.

It's not about an emotional connection vs mechanics. I just find sex a pleasant and pleasurable thing to do with another person, much like any other sociable activity.

I think it’s about 75 I stopped keeping a proper count after 50!

Combination of ONS, those you date for a couple of months and it fizzles out and LTR. I’ve been with husband for 11 years now but I was wild as a teenager and my 20’s.

I don’t regret it as such but most of the sex was crap and only about their pleasure.

I should add, there does need to be some sexual attraction there and I wouldn't have sex with someone I disliked.

4, and 3 of them were pretty terrible 😂

Around 10 i think, when I was younger in a bid to try and discover what was was "wrong" with me. Nothing is wrong I am just asexual and now just accept myself for what I am.

It does seem that I am pretty usual with my 1!

I’ve been with DH for nearly 34 years. I’m his one and only too. We are in our early 50s.

Can't even remember.. probably 50/60+ if not more, it got to the point where my friend said she wouldn't be able to be my friend if I carried on.. between the ages of 24-30/31.

I was a slag basically.

Met my husband at 31 he doesn't know exactly but knows I've not been an angel.