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Husband invited work colleague and son to stay

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Delatron · 14/08/2020 20:41

Just got back from holiday. Am knackered and have a mountain of washing to do. I’m working in the morning. DH has said his work colleague and son are flying back from a local airport and she’s asked if they can see us for dinner and stay over tomorrow. So one day’s notice. Then get up bloody early on Sunday to get their flight, wake us all up on the only day I get a lie in.

I mean how cheeky is this? DH has said yes. I’ve told him he can do all the beds/towels and cooking but I’m furious my chilled weekend has been taken away. He says he is just being kind and I’m so ‘hostile’.

Also the coronavirus risk? I’ve only had my parents overnight. Nobody else. We have no idea where they’ve been and whether they have been social distancing. They are not even close friends!

So am I being unfriendly and hostile?

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PicsInRed · 15/08/2020 23:33

@Alwaysinpain

She's purposely staying as late as she can, in the hope that you think "sod it" and offer them to stay. I bet there is NO Hotel booked
She better book one fast then because she's going.
Shizzlestix · 15/08/2020 23:34

Tell them it’s time for you to go to bed,, you have stuff to do tomorrow, call a taxi!!

frazzledasarock · 15/08/2020 23:35

Bet your H has not told her she can’t stay and by the time they let you know it will be (is) too late to send her to find a hotel.

Start googling holiday inns near Heathrow and be ready to give her the number so she can book herself in.

Alwaysinpain · 15/08/2020 23:35

@PicsInRed I bet she ends up staying Sad

violetbunny · 15/08/2020 23:37

Just yawn and say that you're off to bed. Seeya!

hastingsmua1 · 15/08/2020 23:37

Jesus, look at the time

It’s obvious they’re not going anywhere at this hour

Honestly I’d be so annoyed at my husband by forcing me into this situation. He knows you’re unhappy but carried on as he initially planned

PicsInRed · 15/08/2020 23:39

[quote Alwaysinpain]@PicsInRed I bet she ends up staying Sad[/quote]
Only if the OP doesn't put her foot down, which she must.

PicsInRed · 15/08/2020 23:39

@frazzledasarock

Bet your H has not told her she can’t stay and by the time they let you know it will be (is) too late to send her to find a hotel.

Start googling holiday inns near Heathrow and be ready to give her the number so she can book herself in.

And this.
Skysblue · 15/08/2020 23:42

I think there are at least three issues here...
(1) it’s really weird/disrespectful to invite guests to stay overnight without first checking with your partner.
(2) It’s a deadly pandemic just starting second wave and having guests is a bad idea especially overnight
(3) he said he’d cancel but doesn’t look like he did which is dishonest. It is not hard to send a text saying “Sorry I’m afraid overnight isn’t possible after all, as we’re in post-holiday chaos here, so if you could sort the hotel that’d be great and we’d still love to see you for dinner if possible, perhaps at your hotel?”

I find his behaviour rather bullying. Sorry OP 😔

Kipperandarthur · 15/08/2020 23:43

I’m rather over invested in this thread! Blimey it’s late now and the poor bored, tired son. She really should have said her thanks and left by now.

Original poster
Delatron · 15/08/2020 23:47

Still here. I’ve been polite. About to get rude.

No suggestion of a taxi.

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PicsInRed · 15/08/2020 23:49

"It's getting quite late, you must need to get to your hotel, would you like us to call you a taxi or are you using Uber?"

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 15/08/2020 23:50

@Delatron

Still here. I’ve been polite. About to get rude.

No suggestion of a taxi.

He's done a number on you. He hasn't told her she isn't staying. There's nothing rude about not allowing your family to be put at risk. 'It's time for you to get to your hotel.' I can't believe all this time and they haven't been in your house to use the loo? What is her son doing? Mine would be bored shitless at this. Let me guess . . .

Your husband is a fucking arsehole.

Original poster
Delatron · 15/08/2020 23:50

Taxi has been ordered 😓

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PicsInRed · 15/08/2020 23:50

"Now let's help you get your bags to the door for when your uber arrives..." you walk off and start moving bags.

Namechange2020onceagain · 15/08/2020 23:51

Hurrah Did you have to suggest it?

PicsInRed · 15/08/2020 23:51

@Delatron

Taxi has been ordered 😓
See her out and wave it off to make sure she's gone. 😂
InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 15/08/2020 23:51

Your h is still an arsehole.

I like having guests and entertaining. Our house is set up for it. We always run by the other one first because we both live here. It's courtesy.

2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney · 15/08/2020 23:52

And have you told them that?

Kipperandarthur · 15/08/2020 23:54

I think you are perfectly entitled to now say “it’s been lovely to see you but I know you’ve got a flight tomorrow so let’s order you a taxi/Uber”
Any normal person really would have left over an hour ago. This is now all really rude.

Kipperandarthur · 15/08/2020 23:55

Just seen update. Thank goodness for that

ThrawnCow · 15/08/2020 23:55

Bloody hell, OP. Someone's got a crush.

DimidDavilby · 15/08/2020 23:58

Fkn hell who would stay that late with a plane to catch! Maybe she was hoping that you would go to bed.

RUOKHon · 16/08/2020 00:01

I can’t believe they’re still there. There’s something really weird about all of this. And apart from anything else I feel sorry for the poor boy. What has he been doing while all this work chat has been going on until midnight? He must be bored senseless and knackered. As must you, OP!

Original poster
Delatron · 16/08/2020 00:04

Bloody hell. They’ve finally gone.

My thoughts: she was angling to stay and a bit pissed off not to be invited.
No hosting present; not even a bottle of wine.

I behaved but am pretty pissed they kept me and my kids up so late. She didn’t take any yawning hints or we’ve run out of wine hints.

So basically brass neck.

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