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Husband invited work colleague and son to stay

768 replies

Delatron · 14/08/2020 20:41

Just got back from holiday. Am knackered and have a mountain of washing to do. I’m working in the morning. DH has said his work colleague and son are flying back from a local airport and she’s asked if they can see us for dinner and stay over tomorrow. So one day’s notice. Then get up bloody early on Sunday to get their flight, wake us all up on the only day I get a lie in.

I mean how cheeky is this? DH has said yes. I’ve told him he can do all the beds/towels and cooking but I’m furious my chilled weekend has been taken away. He says he is just being kind and I’m so ‘hostile’.

Also the coronavirus risk? I’ve only had my parents overnight. Nobody else. We have no idea where they’ve been and whether they have been social distancing. They are not even close friends!

So am I being unfriendly and hostile?

OP posts:
InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 15/08/2020 22:53

@Delatron

Well they’re still here. He did all the cooking.

I’ve behaved and been polite. Not sensing any flirting but a bit too much work chat.

Would quite like them to go soon!!

So say so! Well, it's getting on now. Time you were off to your hotel, seeing as you have an early start tomorrow. DH, how about ringing that taxi?
2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney · 15/08/2020 22:54

I suggest you swan off to the spare room soon OP , then there will be no chance of a room offer. Have they actually got a hotel room booked . Have they said?

Leeds2 · 15/08/2020 23:02

What is the son doing? Isn't he bored by now?

Tistheseason17 · 15/08/2020 23:02

Offer coffee - polite way of saying this is your last drink, bugger off

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 15/08/2020 23:06

Probably not leaving because he told them they could stay. You said their flight was leaving early, they'll have to get there at least 2 hours before as well.

backseatcookers · 15/08/2020 23:10

Ask them what time late check in finishes at their hotel as you don't want them to miss it Grin

murasaki · 15/08/2020 23:10

He;d better do all the washing up too.

HouchinBawbags · 15/08/2020 23:11

Watching the thread now waiting for the update where your DH says how it's getting too late to bother with the hotel now. No point going there!

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 15/08/2020 23:13

Just say something. 'It's getting on now. Time you were off to your hotel as you have an early start. DH will ring you a taxi.'

Eddielzzard · 15/08/2020 23:14

Yup. I think she has no intention of going to the hotel. Is it actually booked? Sure she's not expecting to stay with you? Tbh I'd just fuck off to bed and leave them to it.

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 15/08/2020 23:14

@Eddielzzard

Yup. I think she has no intention of going to the hotel. Is it actually booked? Sure she's not expecting to stay with you? Tbh I'd just fuck off to bed and leave them to it.
Probably not. He never cancelled. Wouldn't just fuck off to bed, either. That's what they're counting on.
murasaki · 15/08/2020 23:16

I reckon the son is in be upstairs, so it will be impossible for them to leave. I'd be fuming

Today my parents requested to come down and visit, I think because I have been in hospital and they are concerned for my well being. I a) discussed it with DP as to dates, b) checked whether they were actually staying, c) checked that my sis would be coming as per, and d) said I'd do all the work re cooking as they are my parents. he does it for his. All he has to do is smile and make small talk.

but the point is we
discussed it fully in advance

mmgirish · 15/08/2020 23:17

Oh my goodness! I'm so invested! Get rid of her. Yawn, repeatedly.

Shizzlestix · 15/08/2020 23:22

Waiting for the yawn, stretch, I’ll call you a taxi thing from the OP!

Original poster
Delatron · 15/08/2020 23:23

Still here. Poor kids still awake.

We’ve run out of wine. Send help.

OP posts:
ArabellaScott · 15/08/2020 23:23

Tell them to fuck off!

ArabellaScott · 15/08/2020 23:24

Sorry, that was intemperate. Tell them it's late and time to go.

Notverybright · 15/08/2020 23:25

“Would you like a coffee before you go?”

Notverybright · 15/08/2020 23:26

Or “do you want any leftovers to take with you?”

BronwenFrideswide · 15/08/2020 23:28

Just be direct OP:

"It's been nice seeing you but it's late now and you do have an early start tomorrow so time to say our goodbyes"

I wish we could have the custom they had when I was in Hong Kong, the signal for the end of the evening was when a bowl of oranges was put on the table you took an orange and left immediately!

PicsInRed · 15/08/2020 23:28

Look at your phone and exclaim, "oh I'm sorry, it's awfully late and we're keeping you! Would you like a cuppa for the road?"

Everyone knows what "the road" means. It means "hit it". Grin

Alwaysinpain · 15/08/2020 23:30

Ask your DH for a word....

BronwenFrideswide · 15/08/2020 23:30

No, don't extend it by offering coffee or tea. Remember this person had no qualms about directly inviting herself and son to dinner at yours so have no qualms about directly telling her the evening is over.

Alwaysinpain · 15/08/2020 23:32

She's purposely staying as late as she can, in the hope that you think "sod it" and offer them to stay. I bet there is NO Hotel booked

backseatcookers · 15/08/2020 23:33

If they have to be up early, the kid is twelve and they aren't on the road yet that it seems increasingly unlikely they'll be going of their own (or spineless husband's) accord...! Her poor son I bet he's exhausted and embarrassed. Do you have emergency gin for yourself OP?!

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