Husband invited work colleague and son to stay

[Delatron]

Just got back from holiday. Am knackered and have a mountain of washing to do. I’m working in the morning. DH has said his work colleague and son are flying back from a local airport and she’s asked if they can see us for dinner and stay over tomorrow. So one day’s notice. Then get up bloody early on Sunday to get their flight, wake us all up on the only day I get a lie in.

I mean how cheeky is this? DH has said yes. I’ve told him he can do all the beds/towels and cooking but I’m furious my chilled weekend has been taken away. He says he is just being kind and I’m so ‘hostile’.

Also the coronavirus risk? I’ve only had my parents overnight. Nobody else. We have no idea where they’ve been and whether they have been social distancing. They are not even close friends!

So am I being unfriendly and hostile?

YADNBU OP. In fact by allowing the dinner in pandemic you are being too reasonable.

I hope it goes swiftly!

Hope DH makes you a good dinner any way!

I agree with PPs. He seems unduly attached to her, for a married man.

I've had the day from hell and need some escapism so I'm massively over invested in this thread so OP - many of us are here in your corner baffled by the fanfare your DH has given a colleague and her son (who bless him is probably going. To be embarrassed walking into a garden that looks like something off a love island coupling night 😂) and the lack of giving a shit he's directed at you!

😂 It does look like Love Island.

They are here. I’ve not even filled my own wine glass. Not lifting a finger.

Luckily we are outside so feel current risk is low.

Oooooh you need to be all lovey dovey with your dh, that would confuse him (and maybe her!!)

I wonder if he'd have gone all out for another man and his kid. I'll hazard a guess . . . I'd fucking leave the key in the backdoor and he'd have to knock to get in or out. She's breaking the law and he's complicit in it. On top of the fact he's really gone over and above.

As for these 'D'H's inviting people over and doing nothing, again, more fool you anyone who enables that. My h tried that a few times. I promptly swept up the kids and fucked off out. 'Oh, hi, there! H just loves entertaining, I'm sure you'll have a fab meal. I so love coming back to a clean kitchen. Well, we're off out to Frankie and Benny's. Have a lovely evening!' Did that a couple of times and he stopped doing it expecting the host fairies to appear. 'Thought you could whip us up something whilst we go over some business?' 'Oh, sorry, no, thought wrong. I'm sure you'll work something out. Bye!'

I'm not running a fecking restaurant. I like having visitors, but I'm not a drop in hotel.

Does he do the same with male colleagues and friends, OP, clean the place, make sure all the washing is in, shop especially for the occasion, light lights and a BBQ and put on music and chill wine? You said you're the one who does all the prep usually, so I'm guessing no. Actions speak louder than words.

Yep - keep it outside.
If it rains, say , "oh, dear time for you to go - bye!"

Did you check the spare room? Does it look like the hideaway visitor ready?

Totally on your side op. I, personally, like having people over. Even at short notice. But Dh and I would never invite someone over without consulting each other in private first.

But why should you be exactly the same as me or anyone else on this thread?

And there's a law about this at the moment. But obviously that counts for nothing with some posters.

@Coffeepot72-
I stayed in the hotel for a night and went back the next day .

OMG areyoubeingserviced that is beyond belief! You handled it brilliantly.

Holy shit @areyoubeingserviced that’s insane 😱 what was he thinking?

So how many hints were dropped then OP? I expect you were put on the spot...

@Delatron

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😂 It does look like Love Island.

They are here. I’ve not even filled my own wine glass. Not lifting a finger.

Luckily we are outside so feel current risk is low.

Have you decided if you're going to choose him at the recoupling yet OP?!

.... and I can normally sense when he fancies someone"

My heart goes out to you @Delatron your DH isn't very kind is he (and he shouldn't be "fancying" anyone other than you, that's creepy).

I do hope he can stop being selfish and pigheaded and starting placing you and your DC top of his priority list health wise, not dig his heels in and refuse to budge.

I also find putting up (some) visitors stressful. Bit weird that she visits during a pandemic. Who does that?!

Hope this evening wasn’t too awful OP. Hopefully she realised she’d been an idiot and trotted off to her hotel nice and early.

Read all the OPs comments but not the whole thread. The point about your DP saying "he just wants to be kind and help out and be hospitable." is that actually he wants to get the praise and accolades for being kind and hospitable but for you to do the work. It is really great that you have done nothing this time.Continue to do nothing when he invites people over and see how long that lasts...

I need an update on this! What happened?

She's right in the middle of it Marmozet, probably currently having a stand-up row in front of them all as it's transpired that Weird Pushy Woman doesn't have a place to stay after all. If so, I hope that OP has gone absolutely batshit and locked them all in thegarden

I'd ring her and say no sorry not with the virus still being around. X

Well they’re still here. He did all the cooking.

I’ve behaved and been polite. Not sensing any flirting but a bit too much work chat.

Would quite like them to go soon!!

You need to start pointedly yawning

You need to start hugging and nuzzling your dh, embarrass her into going