Husband invited work colleague and son to stay

[Delatron]

Just got back from holiday. Am knackered and have a mountain of washing to do. I’m working in the morning. DH has said his work colleague and son are flying back from a local airport and she’s asked if they can see us for dinner and stay over tomorrow. So one day’s notice. Then get up bloody early on Sunday to get their flight, wake us all up on the only day I get a lie in.

I mean how cheeky is this? DH has said yes. I’ve told him he can do all the beds/towels and cooking but I’m furious my chilled weekend has been taken away. He says he is just being kind and I’m so ‘hostile’.

Also the coronavirus risk? I’ve only had my parents overnight. Nobody else. We have no idea where they’ve been and whether they have been social distancing. They are not even close friends!

So am I being unfriendly and hostile?

Be the epitome of grace and beauty delatron and get rid asap.

I do not trust her intentions who would? I don't think I would be happy to welcome her into my home anytime soon - but you can do this

I hope you have a nice evening despite your DH, at least you can relax and let him wait on you for a change.

I doubt it is an affair type thing. More a CF trying to stay with people to save money.

Good Luck

Delatron, please report back in the morning?

You've not been seeing friends during these Covid times & you've only guested your parents. You have no idea where these people have been or who they've seen. They should be in a hotel. Your husband is a prat.....

A work colleague? What sort of oddball invites work colleagues to bring their kids for weird family sleepovers?

She surely has her own family and friends to help. Who thinks "Oh, I'll ring that nice bloke from work"?

Dodgy af.

Thanks all, I’ll report back.

What I will say is that it looks like we’re having loads of people over. Music is on, the bbq is lit, festoon lights out. For one person plus kid. I have commented on this.

Op, just to say, that I understand why you feel the way you do. I sympathise
Dh did something similar. He invited a friend and his family ( a wife and three kids) to stay at our house for three days .Dh gave me two hours notice. Dd1 was a week old.
I didn’t even bother to argue. I just packed a suitcase and went to stay with Dd1 in a nice hotel.
Dh then cancelled the visit, as he realised that he would have to do all the preparation, cleaning and cooking.
He has never done this again.

Ah @areyoubeingserviced how awful for you, there seems to be lots of DHs with form for this. Leaving them to all the work is a good solution!

On the plus side, if it is now a BBQ, the transmission risk is reduced as you’ll be outside.

I absolutely sympathise as DH invites people over/to stay and never does any of the prep or tidying up. I’m hoping that his “staff summer BBQ” which is always held in my garden won’t be held this year.

I have had to deal with his staff asleep on my sofa, knocking drinks over (in my lounge) and having to clear the mess up most years.

Last year one of the staff brought everything in, stacked the dishwasher. I could have kissed her!

I am off in a minute but @AuditAngel DH held his staff work party in our garden last year 😱. I was cross and went out. Thought I’d be safe coming back at 11.30 but no all still here. They stayed until 2.30 am!!!

Music is on, the bbq is lit, festoon lights out Low key then

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I'd put money on her staying over.

CF has invited herself to dinner angling to stay over. She'll be throwing all the hints tonight. CF's have no shame.

Do just sit there and do not lift a finger.
Let dh run around after everyone and tidy up afterwards, and you can enjoy a glass of wine and the music.

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@Friendsoftheearth

Music is on, the bbq is lit, festoon lights out Low key then

Erm there might be a bit of a dampner on it as thunderstorms and torrential rain in the South .

Good reason for her to bugger off back to the hotel then style and op gets her evening back!

We used to have a relative who would call DH from the airport and say he was on his way. Would stay for a week then leave his suitcases and go off visiting around the country and come back for another few days before leaving.
Never any notice. I would cook breakfast on the 2nd day and then bugger off the rest of the time and leave them too it. Thankfully he has a wife and kids now and doesn't do it anymore. Good luck op.

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Erm there might be a bit of a dampner on it as thunderstorms and torrential rain in the South

Karma

@areyoubeingserviced your story is horrendous! Did you and DD1 get as far as the hotel, or did your DH back down before you left?

The OP’s DH sounds a bit insecure to me - desperate to please other people, despite the consequences elsewhere

I hate having people in my home. I inherited this from my mother. I feel like everything has to be spotless and they are judging!
You have my sympathies OP.
Fingers crossed your DH doesn’t do the ‘oh well they may as well stay now then’ act.

The OP’s DH sounds a bit insecure to me - desperate to please other people, despite the consequences elsewhere

Really? And what might the consequences be do you imagine? That the woman stops pestering her dh and they get to have a relaxed weekend after a holiday possibly? Not to mention late night texts annoying them both. Massive loss that will be to op I am sure!

@ErinBrockovich - that's me exactly. I'd be fuming OP, especially given all your circumstances and returning from holiday, just no! My STBEXH used to invite people back from the pub. One memorable time it was summer/hot, I was heavily pregnant, came down in the nude around 12 to find we had guests! Boy did I kick off. They left!
My home is my sanctuary.

byron I spat out my G&T reading that post!!!!!!! Hee hee!