To wonder how common it is for siblings not to like it other

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My older two really don’t get on and have said they dislike each other. I spoke to the lady who lives next door who mentioned her children also don’t like each other. My two are young adults as are hers. I would have thought my two were in the minority.

Yes, I hate two of the humans with whom I share parents. Utterly repulsive and abusive to me in all the god awful ways you can imagine.
My excuse for a mother thought thought the sun shone out of their behinds and my kind and wise father was dead and couldn't help a little girl.

My father did a very good job of training my brother to be a selfish, self-centred misogynistic nasty carbon copy of himself. My brother would not piss on me if I were on fire. I shall never see him again for the rest of my life.

I have 5 siblings,
I can't stand my older brother he is a nasty piece of work, I will tolerate him at family events but that's it, one of my sisters feels the same about him too but the others all get on with him.

I have gotten on with my other sisters and we argued over the years but yesterday we went out for one of my sisters birthday and the other sister threatened to punch me in the face for no apparent reason. My sisters friends were so shocked as was i and I am very hurt by it so I have blocked her for the time being, I really don't feel like I should be treated like that by anyone let alone a sister that is meant to care for me.

She gets very aggressive when she's had a drink and my mother feels that this excuses her behaviour and said she's 'family' so I should suck it up, I'm not doing it anymore though it's hurtful so I'm not engaging anymore.

I'm not close to my sibling, we don't dislike each other but we are very different. We haven't lived together since I, the eldest, left for university at 18 and didn't move home again, so we never built a relationship as adults. I live in a different country now, so it's harder to see each other. I think we'd both make more of an effort if I got on better with his wife, but frankly I just don't like her much.

DH is fairly close to his siblings, he likes them all and enjoys their company (as do I) but they don't live in each others' pockets.

My three adult sons are close at the moment, share friends and see a lot of each other. I hope it lasts.

My mum hates that my sister and I aren't friends and will always try to engineer closeness or guilt us into spending time with one and other. As children that forced intimacy led to a lot pf arguments, and adult I just resent the intrusion. Dad understands we're just different people, and isnt bothered as long we're both making time for him!

I actually think you have to be amazingly lucky to be close to your siblings. You're two different people who happened to grow up in the same household, you wont necessarily have anything in common. My sister is a perfect nice person, but we're really different and have always been at different life stages so we see each other at Christmas, but I doubt we'll ever be friends. What I find amazing is the optimism of my own friends who dont really get on with their own siblings but are insistent on having second children because "I dont want to deny them a brother/sister!"

I have one younger sister. I love her very much because of the shared experiences of our early lives together and nothing can change that.
I just say that had we not been sisters we would have been unlikely to have been friends with each other, we're too different.

My sister and I have always been quite chalk and cheese on the outside, but I feel like underneath the facade she puts across, we’re more similar than either of us would like to admit. When we were younger, I used to be incredibly jealous of her but now that we’re adults I think she’s a dick and realise that I actually don’t like the person she’s grown up to be.

My sisters in law cant stand each other. There is so much childhood resentment I dont think it can be fixed long term. It's very sad to be honest because they are both wonderful women. My husband gets along better with one of them compared to the other - it's quite superficial with the latter. So I guess it's not uncommon..

DM was never close to her sister, and they didn't speak for several years before my aunt died. DF hasn't spoken to his brother for 45 years and counting. I don't think I know anyone who really gets on with their sibling, yet us onlies are pitied

I get on with my sibling perfectly fine and we help each other out and chat/ have a laugh when around each other etc like you would probably expect from siblings but if it wasn't for the fact we are related we wouldn't be friends. We are very different people.

DH has 2 siblings. 1 he fell out with and hasn't spoken to on years, the other exchanges messages every now and then, they don't not get along but again are very different people so wouldn't ever choose to be friends.

I get on well with my siblings but not sure what will happen in the future so can't guarantee. A lot of problems arise through jealousy, fighting for attention, one sibling not pulling enough weight when it comes to caring for parents and of course inheritance. My mum stopped speaking to her sister as she had enough of dealing with her sisters narcissistic traits and jealously that was making her life miserable. It's sad and I would really would love my dc to have a sibling but this scares me.

OP, the reason why you did not realise it is common for siblings to not get along or hate each other is because most people don't want to admit that they do not have the perfect family life that most aspire to. If they do not speak to siblings for many years, they will not talk about it.

I haven't spoken to one of my siblings for many years. I don't broadcast the fact.

I'm very close to my sisters, sometimes too close I see them most days.
We see Dbro at least once a month, our DC like each other.
Our personalities hit heads at times we're all different but love each other.

Mainly good now but a sick parent put major stress on us. Few fallouts etc. Most friends I speak to are not close to siblings!!!