This obsession with blue eyes! Anyone else?

[Lelophants]

Honestly, I know it's a minor thing but it's really starting to annoy me! 🤣

Dh and I both have hazel eyes. We are white but more olivey skin (not that it matters!) Ds is the spitting image of me as a baby and his eyes are still that changeable very dark blue/brown colour, but looks dark in most lights. He has basically the same eyes I did as a baby and most of the time they look hazel, but I guess they haven't quite set yet. Mine didn't set until 1. He is 9 months. (Other babies we know with blue eyed parents have proper blue eyes - ds has never looked very blue!) Also neither DH or myself are blue!!

Pil are both blue and hazel eyed and mil is the blue eyed one and is obsessed that our baby will have blue eyes! Every time she visits (maybe 6 or 7 times now) it's "his eyes look blue! Are they blue?" Then looks disappointed when we say no. I'm not kidding. Every time she comes in! I actually have an intake of breath now. She then makes the odd comment of "well they look blue to me." as if I'm making it up.

I actually find it quite offensive. Dark eyes are attractive you know! Her son has them! And ds has my eyes!
She even made some comment about how her other son has blue eyes and how beautiful they are.

Anyone else have people like this? Blue eyes are no nicer than dark eyes. Hazel eyes are beautiful thank you very much!

I like blue eyes but not enough to make a fuss over them.I have big blue eyes and dark blonde hair basically brown and I do an internal eye roll when they are commented on. Sure it is a compliment but pretty tiresome at this point especially if it is a warm up to being chatted up. I love green or hazel eyes and marvel at them but quietly and to myself. one of my cousins that I rarely see has very green eyes to the point of freakishly green but beautiful, found it hard not to stare.

I think it is pretty common for pil to look for particular attributes for dgc. Regularly have discussion with dgm about my dd's looks.

@Chanjer

Although blue eyes and black hair

oof

Oh yeah that is a great combination, very rare though

I would suspect it is about taking after her rather than a preference for the eye colour.
I wanted a brown eyed baby, but mine are all very blue (and me and dh are both blue so the chance of getting brown eyes is very low-his aunt has brown eyes despite both her parents being blue, so it does somethies happen). Dd2 to the point people did comment on them, but I don't recall anyone commenting over the other two.

My MIL was like that with pfgc.
I remember the time when I put a hand out to take dd1 by the hand to cross the road, and dd1 firmly put her hands behind her back.
MIL: Oh! Look, she's walking with her hands behind her back. Oh! My ds did that all the time at that age. She's just like my ds!!!
Me: (having got rather bored of having similar comments all weekend) She just didn't want me to take her by the hand. She doesn't walk round like that.
MIL: Ds did that too.

I think most people have unremarkable eye colours (sorry that sounds mean!) pleasant but not of much note. Then there are some that have piercing, bold, beautiful, mesmerising eye colour; it's often those with blue eyes imo, but not always. Mine are blue but nothing special!

My parents and me and all my siblings have blue, DHs mum had blue and his dad dark and he has hazel. DS1 has blue and DS2 are not a colour that I can describe, blue/grey/hazely green?

I don't think it matters but find genetics very interesting.

DS has a red haired gf and trying to work out probability of having red haired dc, not really that simple.

Love all eye colours but I know lots of people who do like blue. Guess because it's a lot rarer.

Blue eyes and dark hair is definitely seen as an Irish thing I think. Had that all the life about my “Irish eyes.”

I think if it’s really annoying you OP, the best thing to do is totally not react to it when she says it. Ignore, change the subject, move away so she can’t start a discussion about it. She might just get bored of mentioning it given a bit of time?

I thought blue eyes were dead common - I have blue and would give my eye teeth to have green eyes. DHs are grey, youngest son grey and eldest son brown.

I do think bright blue eyes are really beautiful though. It is not to say that other colours are not, just that bright blue eyes are very striking.

@Yesyoudoknowme

I thought blue eyes were dead common - I have blue and would give my eye teeth to have green eyes. DHs are grey, youngest son grey and eldest son brown.

I think worldwide they are rare

She's probably just desperate for him to resemble her. I have blue eyes but always wanted Hazel or brown eyes.

@MsPeachh

I do think there needs to be more love for other eye colours! I hear lots of people saying they don't like their "boring" brown eyes whereas I think it's wonderful getting lost in deep, dark brown eyes. They have a lovely warmth about them.

One step up from this: I grew up in a country where eyes any other colour than brown were vanishingly rare. I remember a new girl WITH BLUE EYES (!!) joined my class at age 10 and she really freaked me out. It was like she wasn't as solid as everyone else because her eyes weren't as distinctively there, IYSWIM. My mother had grey eyes so no idea why this scared me so much!

I now have a blue-eyed DH and DS though, so clearly got over it!

I’m mixed raced, brown eyes - my DH white, blue eyes. My DM was so disappointed when my LO was born with darker eyes! I think they’re beautiful (mix of green, hazelnut and a bit grey in some light - I know I’m biased) but all she keeps saying is its such a shame she doesn’t have blue eyes! Drives me nuts!

Meant to add that my DM was almost disappointed when DS1 had blue eyes as she'd assumed that DHs hazel would overrule. Blue being so common in our family she fancied a change! As DHs mum has blue then was a good chance either way. We all have different shades of blue, my sister had really cornflower blue and they were stunning - fade a lot as you get older though.

Mine are green (red hair)
Dad blue (red hair)
Mum brown (very dark brown hair)

DH has brown eyes and I have green eyes. We both have dark hair. Our DD has blue eyes and blond hair everyone asks if she is adopted

I am the only member of my family (me, DH and 3 D.C.) who doesn’t have blue eyes. I love them and think they look beautiful. Especially in youngest DD who has very dark hair, the others are all fairer/redder (yes, Irish background).

DD was on holiday in Spain with a mate who normally gets a lot of attention because mate is very blond with fair skin and blue eyes. She was put out that it was DD who was turning heads and DD didn’t understand it either. Eventually a waiter told them that dark hair and blue eyes is an unusual combination in Spain and considered very beautiful. It did DDs confidence a world of good!

It's only because blue eyes are so rare.

The ‘rareness’ of blue eyes depends on where you live. World wide, it’s about 8% of people. In the U.K., however, it’s about 48% of people, so not rare at all. Green eyes are the second most common in the U.K. at 30% (I think this figure includes hazel eyes), and brown eyes the rarest at 22%.

Just Googled this:

Between 8 and 10 percent of people worldwide have blue eyes.

Globally, blue eyes are very rare. I've noticed that in cultures where blue eyes are very rare, they tend to view anyone with them as beautiful. This often tends to go hand-in-hand with colourism, which I find really sad - there is often favouritism towards those with fairer complexions and eye colours other than blue. However, in this country it is not particularly rare.

I always got complimented on my 'lovely dark eyes' (I'm mixed, pale skin, but very, very dark brown eyes), but this is in Ireland - where I was living lots of people did not have brown eyes. All depends on what you are used to IMO.

Though your MIL does sound like she's looking for a connection. My aunt swears blind that her grandson looks like her father! He does not, he is the spitting image of his mother, but my aunt won't give her DIL credit for anything.

*other than brown

@Thecobwebsarewinning

I am the only member of my family (me, DH and 3 D.C.) who doesn’t have blue eyes. I love them and think they look beautiful. Especially in youngest DD who has very dark hair, the others are all fairer/redder (yes, Irish background).

DD was on holiday in Spain with a mate who normally gets a lot of attention because mate is very blond with fair skin and blue eyes. She was put out that it was DD who was turning heads and DD didn’t understand it either. Eventually a waiter told them that dark hair and blue eyes is an unusual combination in Spain and considered very beautiful. It did DDs confidence a world of good!

We all have blue eyes, but siblings range from red, strawberry blond, brown (but blond as children) to almost black in terms of hair colour. All different shades of blue though. Parents both brown haired and blue eyed.

I had this with the MIL apart from she was desperate to have dark eyes, both my husband, my FIL and SIL plus her kids alll have very blue eyes. Mine are hazel and both my girls have dark eyes. She was over the moon when their eyes went dark as they were like her (I was a bit disappointed as I wanted at least 1 of them to have blue eyes)

was brought up with family always going on about my 'beautiful blonde blue eyed' cousin. I was a brown haired brown eyed plain little girl - it still makes me sick to think about it.