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This obsession with blue eyes! Anyone else?

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Lelophants · 13/08/2020 10:44

Honestly, I know it's a minor thing but it's really starting to annoy me! 🤣

Dh and I both have hazel eyes. We are white but more olivey skin (not that it matters!) Ds is the spitting image of me as a baby and his eyes are still that changeable very dark blue/brown colour, but looks dark in most lights. He has basically the same eyes I did as a baby and most of the time they look hazel, but I guess they haven't quite set yet. Mine didn't set until 1. He is 9 months. (Other babies we know with blue eyed parents have proper blue eyes - ds has never looked very blue!) Also neither DH or myself are blue!!

Pil are both blue and hazel eyed and mil is the blue eyed one and is obsessed that our baby will have blue eyes! Every time she visits (maybe 6 or 7 times now) it's "his eyes look blue! Are they blue?" Then looks disappointed when we say no. I'm not kidding. Every time she comes in! I actually have an intake of breath now. She then makes the odd comment of "well they look blue to me." as if I'm making it up. Confused

I actually find it quite offensive. Dark eyes are attractive you know! Her son has them! And ds has my eyes!
She even made some comment about how her other son has blue eyes and how beautiful they are.

Anyone else have people like this? Blue eyes are no nicer than dark eyes. Hazel eyes are beautiful thank you very much!

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Feralkidsatthecampsite · 13/08/2020 10:55

My first 8 dc have variations of blue eyes. All a different shade!!
When dd came along with dark chocolate eyes it was a weird thing to acknowledge that she was my dc!! New dp had brown eyes so not a surprise but at the same time it was!!

Poochnewbie · 13/08/2020 10:56

I’ve never thought of blue eyes as rare or more attractive. I have murky, weird green/grey eyes. However, since having dc who both have striking bright blue eyes, I’ve found so many people comment. They especially comment on my 3 year old ds. We have been stopped in the street more than once and told how beautiful his eyes are. When we were in Spain, people would be right in his face to look at them. I find it bizarre. I’ve always found brown eyes really stunning and more unusual than blue.

VinylDetective · 13/08/2020 10:57

@Chanjer

Although blue eyes and black hair

oof

That was my dad. Gorgeous. Unfortunately I missed out on the black hair, got the blue eyes though.
AllNaturalIngredients · 13/08/2020 10:57

My eyes have lighten as I’ve got older and now more of a gold honey colour. Peculiar

milleniumhandandprawn · 13/08/2020 10:58

I understand how annoying this would be - and that it would seem like she is criticising brown eyes.

I think though it could be something else?

Our eyes are a particularly personal part of us, probably the most definitive part of us - - and if your son has blue eyes then it will be a so exciting part of her to have been passed on. Is he the only/first grandchild?

Both dh and I have very similar hazel eyes, and our son has ended up with pure chocolate (gorgeous) brown eyes, unlike either of us.
Dd however has got the same clear greenish freckled eyes as I have.
They've really clarified this year (she's nearly 4!) and I was so excited to see she has mine! personally my eyes are my favourite feature and I am really glad one of them has inherited them!

SimonJT · 13/08/2020 10:58

For me blue is the most beautiful eye colour, my boyfriend has lovely big blue eyes. Where I’m from people only have brown or green eyes, so for me blue eyes are always special for that reason. We also all have brown/black hair, so to me blonde/red is almost exotic.

Your mother in law is probably just excited that the baby might have shared her eye colour.

It was only fairly recently I learned that most white babies are born with blue eyes.

recklessruby · 13/08/2020 10:58

I never considered them rare. I have blue eyes like most of my family.
Ds eyes are a mixture of blue and green and dd s eyes are very green.
I would love to have green eyes!

slipperywhensparticus · 13/08/2020 10:59

@ShinyMe

It's only because blue eyes are so rare.
Blue eyes arnt rare?
Jennygentle · 13/08/2020 10:59

Blue eyes are pretty rare globally speaking but certainly not in North west Europe.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 13/08/2020 11:00

People are weird. She obviously wants your ds to have her eyes. My ds is blond, no one discussed his eyes changing colour as a baby. Dd has my colouring and up until she was 13 months or so, people mentioned it all the time. I got rather sick of pointing out that with 2 blue eyed parents and 4 blue eyed Grandparents the likelihood was that she'd be blue eyed.

People still assume my eyes and dd's must be brown because we have olive skin and very dark brown hair.

Gunpowder · 13/08/2020 11:00

Agree it’s a PIL thing. Three of my kids look like DH and have his eyes but DS is just like me and has my eyes. MIL is always trying to work out who he could possibly look like and sending me ancient photos of her distant family. I don’t think it occurs to her one of the grandchildren could look like their mother.

AriesTheRam · 13/08/2020 11:03

Oh god mil was a bit like this
Her and dh sisters all have blue eyes.Ds was born a mixture of my dark brown and dh green.

SengaStrawberry · 13/08/2020 11:03

I have (well before I went blonde) very dark brown hair and blue eyes. The only kind of comments I got from a few people was that I looked like a Catholic?! I’m not and not that there would be anything wrong if I was, but I never thought that colour combo was particularly associated with Catholicism!

I don’t find any colour of eyes any more desirable than any another tbh. My youngest son and I have bright blue eyes and my husband and oldest son have brown eyes.

butterflyonmywall · 13/08/2020 11:03

My MIL is like this, my DD has a big gap between her front teeth and not a visit goes by when she doesn't refer to it as her "maiden name gap".

Ya know, the one that caused her son to need braces and have teeth removed.

Fgs

Gobbycop · 13/08/2020 11:03

I get weary comments from my mil.

Oh he gets his appetite from his mum (i like my food)
Oh he gets his blue eyes from mum (my eyes are blue)
We don't do ugly babies on our side,,,,,,,

Blah blah blah.

Yeah I appreciate my part was easy but ffs shut the fuck up. Half of him is me.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/08/2020 11:04

I’ve just googled it. Blue is definitely the most recessive eye colour but is quite common to see in this part of the world (UK and Western Europe). Both green and brown will dominate the blue gene if they are there.

Chanjer · 13/08/2020 11:06

have (well before I went blonde) very dark brown hair and blue eyes. The only kind of comments I got from a few people was that I looked like a Catholic?! I’m not and not that there would be anything wrong if I was, but I never thought that colour combo was particularly associated with Catholicism!

Wouldn't have thought of Catholic but might have thought of Irish

SengaStrawberry · 13/08/2020 11:06

My eldest is very olive skinned as well and before his eyes changed to brown they were very dark blue, like navy blue. My other son’s eyes were much lighter blue

UnfinishedSymphon · 13/08/2020 11:07

Blue eyes aren't rare, I have them, DP has them, mum and brother, stepkids, and lots of friends colleagues have blue eyes

Chanjer · 13/08/2020 11:08

I’ve just googled it. Blue is definitely the most recessive eye colour but is quite common to see in this part of the world (UK and Western Europe). Both green and brown will dominate the blue gene if they are there.

8pc blue, 2pc green

SarahAndQuack · 13/08/2020 11:11

People are odd about inherited traits.

My DP is ginger. Since before DD was born DP kept hoping she'd be ginger. When she was born with a head of dark hair she was delighted there were ginger lights in it. Now DD is three with perfectly lovely, but not gingery, mid-brown hair. DP still keeps saying hopefully 'you know, I think it's looking a bit ginger'.

DD in all other respects is the dead spit of DP, so why this one thing is so important, I've no idea. I just smile and nod.

frogswimming · 13/08/2020 11:11

What are you on about?

Brown eyed girl by van morrison

Puppy dog eyes - they're brown

I think there's lots of love for all eye colours

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 13/08/2020 11:11

Both green and brown will dominate the blue gene if they are there.

It's fascinating I think. My maternal Grandparents both had brown eyes. They produced 1 brown eyed child, 1 blue eyed child and one with 1 blue eye and 1 hazel eye.

speakout · 13/08/2020 11:12

Blue eyes are the most common in the UK

Globally 8% of people in the world have blue eyes- in the UK it is 48%

While blue eyes used to be the least common colour and were seen as a rarity, 48% of the British population now have blue eyes. This is followed by green eyes at 30%, with a mere 22% of the British population having brown eyes.

I always see brown eyes as exotic.

PhilSwagielka · 13/08/2020 11:15

I have hazel eyes and my mum calls them 'chocolate button eyes'. They're like my dad's. They're a bit wonky, they're different shapes, but I like them.

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