This obsession with blue eyes! Anyone else?

[Lelophants]

Honestly, I know it's a minor thing but it's really starting to annoy me! 🤣

Dh and I both have hazel eyes. We are white but more olivey skin (not that it matters!) Ds is the spitting image of me as a baby and his eyes are still that changeable very dark blue/brown colour, but looks dark in most lights. He has basically the same eyes I did as a baby and most of the time they look hazel, but I guess they haven't quite set yet. Mine didn't set until 1. He is 9 months. (Other babies we know with blue eyed parents have proper blue eyes - ds has never looked very blue!) Also neither DH or myself are blue!!

Pil are both blue and hazel eyed and mil is the blue eyed one and is obsessed that our baby will have blue eyes! Every time she visits (maybe 6 or 7 times now) it's "his eyes look blue! Are they blue?" Then looks disappointed when we say no. I'm not kidding. Every time she comes in! I actually have an intake of breath now. She then makes the odd comment of "well they look blue to me." as if I'm making it up.

I actually find it quite offensive. Dark eyes are attractive you know! Her son has them! And ds has my eyes!
She even made some comment about how her other son has blue eyes and how beautiful they are.

Anyone else have people like this? Blue eyes are no nicer than dark eyes. Hazel eyes are beautiful thank you very much!

I have central heterochromia

Amber surrounded by green

No pics :p

I don't think it's that she thinks farm eyes are ugly, just that she's going the baby had something from her

I think it's just you mils way of trying to get some sort of claim over your baby, my ex mil used to do this 'oh ds looks like my brother and my nephew' he didnt and still doesnt look like them, they are half Irish black hair blue eyes sharp features, while my son has dark brown eyes and light brown hair with olive skin and looks like a mixed asian child.

@SleepingStandingUp

I know that's a typo, but 'farm eyes' really made me laugh!!

My four kids look much more like my DH than me. I'm fair and blue eyed and he is Mediterranean looking and all four kids are brown eyed, dark brown hair and olive skin. Also because we lived overseas a lot they have a different accent to me. I used to wonder if people thought I was their nanny

It annoyed me when my MIL went on about how much they looked like my DH when they were babies. Not as annoying as her being right though.

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I kind of get the point when it is a particularly unusual or striking or attractive feature that hasn't been passed down and how slightly disappointing that is.

I have friends and the DH has really piercing pale blue eyes, he's an only child. Their only child is a beautiful woman and has lovely brown eyes as does her DH. It would be lovely for those piercing blue eyes to reappear and I wouldn't care if i was the mil or whatever in that situation, i'd just be happy that something so striking had reappeared and I think if I had been the mother of the son with the blue eyes, I may have felt a vague sense of disappointment that the granddaughter didn't have them. Not in the granddaughter herself or her own beautiful features, just that something so striking was gone.

'Hi MIL, how are you? Lovely to see you, no his eyes still aren't blue, would you like a cup of tea?'

This as an opener next time she visits.

Trying to explain to my son that the chances of having a red haired child with his red haired gf are not 50/50. They are 50/50 if he's a carrier but the chances of that are (I think) one in 4 but only if I'm a carrier. And my chances of being a carrier are 50/50. My DHs are zero. My head then started to overheat so I left it that his chances are either zero or 50/50.

Blue eyes are recessive , but it is possible for two brown eyed parents to produce blue eyed children, but usually blue eyes are blue at birth.

Bb Mum x Bb Dad

will give BB , Bb, Bb, and bb {3 brown eyed, one blue eyed baby...so basically a 25% chance of having a blue eyed baby .

If Mum is BB and Dad BB = All offspring will be BB brown eyes.

Blue eyed parents bb x bb can only have blue eyed offspring.

BB and bb =all offspring will be brown eyed.

Don't know why MIL is obsessing about blue eyes?

What is extremely sad is the amount of Brown eyed people in some Countries who are damaging their sight by having ''eye colour surgery''...It is ghastly.
{look on you tube if you dare}

But the comments are from people saying ''Brown eyes are not as attractive as blue''...
WRONG! Brown eyes are beautiful.
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I never understood why Frank Sinatra was known as 'Ol' Blue Eyes'. Fair enough if he'd been from Nigeria or Japan, but surely blue eyes aren't that unique in North America, are they?

Mind, he wasn't a very pleasant man, by all accounts, so maybe that was the only neutral thing they could find to describe him by....

I have never heard of anyone getting so preoccupied by eye colour's before.. Best to ignore the mil comments.

I had the opposite both my sons have blue eyes but I and their father have dark brown eyes. Everyone even my own mother tried to make out they couldn't be their fathers as they had blue eyes 🙄

Blue eyes are not rare in uk or a Ireland. I’ve never heard of them being favoured over brown hazel or green.

was sinatra not Italian? Blue eyes more unusual then? I think they were maybe particularly piercing though.

I think Frank Sinatra’s eyes bring blue was a thing was because he was a Italian.

I have blue eyes and thick black curly hair. I often get asked if I am irish. Although my favourite was once I was asked why I was a white person with a black persons hair. Nice.

Ha cross post!

My MIL used to be determined that my daughter looks like my husband, her son, i.e. their side of the family. It was hilarious because she is my double in every way except eye colour. Mine are light blue, husband's are hazel, daughter's are beautiful dark chocolatey brown and we have no idea where they came from, but certainly not his side of the family.

I’ve Definitely encountered this. My own mum admitted that she was “disappointed” when my brothers eyes turned to hazel. Both she and my dad have blue eyes. Mine are green, sisters blue, her brothers hazel.
A friend of mine with a 3 month old who has brown eyes herself keeps saying “I really hope dd’s eyes stay blue!”

@thesedaysarescary

I had the opposite both my sons have blue eyes but I and their father have dark brown eyes. Everyone even my own mother tried to make out they couldn't be their fathers as they had blue eyes 🙄

Most people don't know they carry any recessive genes until they have children or grandchildren.

oakleaffy not true ! Both my parents have bright blue eyes. Only 1/3 offspring do. I’m green, brother hazel, sister is blue.

I do admit with my niece, whose a redhead, I was quietly hoping her eyes would stay blue or turn to a greeny colour only because the red hair blue eye combo is so rare.

Most of my family has blue or gray eyes, I'm very jealous of my brothers very pretty green eyes with flecks of yellow!

Nobody was surprised my children have blue eyes, me and my partner do, but my mum has always been obsessed with their hair colour! My family all have very dark hair and my partner has mousy brown hair. Daughters hair was blonde when she was a baby and sons was very dark, which got my mum very excited! However the older they got both of their hair turned mousy brown like their dads, my mum is always watching for signs it might be getting darker!

I’m green, Parents both blue.Paternal GM had green. DH blue, both DC green now but we’re blue when under 5.

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