This obsession with blue eyes! Anyone else?

[Lelophants]

Honestly, I know it's a minor thing but it's really starting to annoy me! 🤣

Dh and I both have hazel eyes. We are white but more olivey skin (not that it matters!) Ds is the spitting image of me as a baby and his eyes are still that changeable very dark blue/brown colour, but looks dark in most lights. He has basically the same eyes I did as a baby and most of the time they look hazel, but I guess they haven't quite set yet. Mine didn't set until 1. He is 9 months. (Other babies we know with blue eyed parents have proper blue eyes - ds has never looked very blue!) Also neither DH or myself are blue!!

Pil are both blue and hazel eyed and mil is the blue eyed one and is obsessed that our baby will have blue eyes! Every time she visits (maybe 6 or 7 times now) it's "his eyes look blue! Are they blue?" Then looks disappointed when we say no. I'm not kidding. Every time she comes in! I actually have an intake of breath now. She then makes the odd comment of "well they look blue to me." as if I'm making it up.

I actually find it quite offensive. Dark eyes are attractive you know! Her son has them! And ds has my eyes!
She even made some comment about how her other son has blue eyes and how beautiful they are.

Anyone else have people like this? Blue eyes are no nicer than dark eyes. Hazel eyes are beautiful thank you very much!

I think people don't have much to say about babies other than their looks. Hopefully Mil will move on soon. My older has brown eyes and really long lashes. I didn't hear the end of it from people until he turned 2 and it's much less frequent now.
His baby brother has blue eyes and again everyone has to comment on it. One person said he's 'freaky'. When probed he explained it's because DS2 is mixed race and should have brown eyes. Something 'went wrong there'.

I think I would get a little bit excited about blue eyes because I hardly know anyone with blue eyes. I am really surprised to hear they are common. I have hazel eyes myself and feel like they are a bit common place. Obviously I am sure your child is gorgeous and eye colour doesn’t matter one bit but blue and green eyes seem good to me because they are unusual (where I live anyway).

@SerenityNowwwww

Of course not. In our family there are a few red haired siblings with one blonde and one black haired parent. Oh the jokes...🙄

Genetics can be weird like that. I know more than one man who’s got brown / black / blonde hair - and has a bright ginger beard to go with it.

They’re clearly carrying red hair genes, but I have no idea why their red hair has come out in their beards but not on their heads.

I have two sons; one blonde and blue eyed like his dad and one dark hair and brown eyed like me.

Blue eyed DS ALWAYS gets comments on his beautiful eyes (they are beautiful) but I feel sad for brown eyed DS. And my MiL also made the same comments. DS1 is the dark one so she wasn't happy until DS2 came along and every time we see her she mentions his eyes. I'd try and let it go though OP. If you ignore she might stop!

Live abroad and I can categorically say that here blue eyes are rare and we get comments all the time on the kids' eyes. Not many blondes and not many blue eyes

Hahaha wow this has made me feel better about myself.

I have blue eyes, growing up I always wanted my dad's dark brown eyes as I thought they suit me so much better. I have pale skin, dark hair, so always thought my blue eyes made me look even more washed out iyswim?

I still think I would look better with brown eyes, and I'm so jealous of brunette ladies who have them.

I have blue eyes, as do most of my family, but my husband has "cowpat" eyes (hazel), like my son

^^

My partner's family are all blonde and blue eyes, whereas my family are all brown haired and eyed. Our baby has brown hair (and blue eyes) and my PIL always comment on her brown hair saying they have never seen a baby with brown hair, they aren't used to brown hair in their family, etc. There is almost a tone that they don't think the baby is their son's because she is not blonde like him and his family!

@thecatsthecats

There are beautiful and bland eyes of every colour. My eyes can vary between dishwater blue and a bright blue, and a cornflower blue according to what colour I've dyed my hair.

Come to think of it, I can't think of any animal species that have brown eyes.

(My favourite eye colour is gold, which you see in cats.)

My dog has brown eyes. She is a black dog. I think a lot of black dogs have brown eyes.

70-90% of the world's population has brown eyes, 8% of the the population has blue...so maybe its just she thinks brown eyes are boring? Though a child with olive skin and blue eyes... The eye colour with that skin colour makes someone look striking... As the colour stands out. So maybe she was thinking that?

I have a similar experience. I am blue-eyed and find dark eyes more attractive. My husband and mother in law are more brown-eyed and like blue eyes. I found it so odd when my MIL always expressed the hope that DD's eyes would stay blue. They did not; they turned a beautiful shade of hazel, but MIL is still hoping they'll turn blue again. Of course they won't. I guess peple are attracted to looks different from their own.

I am olive skinned, dark hair and dark eyes. My OH is very pale with blue eyes and light brownish hair. Our dd is pale with blonde curly hair and blue eyes. The amount of people including family that have said to me that they can't believe she didn't take after me with my dark features, its crazy. And she's 2, its still going on 🤨

Eye colour is a thing?

@ShinyMe

It's only because blue eyes are so rare.

Really??

🔥

So blue eyes aren't necessarily inherited because of Scandanavian ancestry. Some Scandanavians don't have blue eyes.

I have a PhD in Biochemistry, I understand the genetics and know the mutation didn't originate in the far north. However, ~80-90% of Scandinavians have blue eyes and my ancestors were Vikings and so the origin of the mutation 10,000 years ago is irrelevant really. The blue eye gene is dominant only in the most northerly European countries.

I think it's quite normal to want your children (or grandchildren) to look like you. My niece has my grandmother's eyes and there's something quite amazing about looking into a child's eyes and seeing the eyes of a relative long dead. Like looking at photos of an ancestor and realising how like your sister they look. My brother looks nothing like my grandmother as well so it's all recessive genes.

Maybe she just wants her grandchild to have something from her...

I know a family where one parent is half indian and the other blond/blue eyed. One DC is dark haired/olive skinned/dark eyes and the other blond fair and blue eyed. very similar facial features though. It is facinating.

Blue eyes and brown hair are apparently quite rare. I only know myself and my sister with it. Maybe she's just a bit obsessed about it?

Half my family have blue eyes and brown hair (including me..)

Brown eyes are better at dealing with the sun. I have blue eyes and apparently scarring from sun damage on retinas. I always wear sunglasses. 😳 All colours of eyes are cool btw.

So with numbers this low, could redheads with blue eyes actually go extinct?
I've heard this a few times from friends as both DD and I are red/strawberry blonde haired with very blue eyes. Interestingly DP has very dark brown hair and grey/blue eyes so was lucky DD got my recessive hair colour.
Included a pic for interest. Not photoshopped, this is my natural eye colour (people assume I wear coloured contacts) I've been sleep deprived lately so please excuse the dark shadows!

My MIL is the same, she transparently appropriates all the positive characteristics of all 3 ds's and attributes them to her family. My family get all the shit characteristics, including personality flaws, according to her! But it's all her fantasy, I just laugh when she does it.😂 By the way mine and DH/DC's eyes are all bog standard blue, and I much prefer brown, hazel or green. And unfortunately blue eyes, especially from southern hemisphere, fade with age and exposure to the sun. Aren't blue eyes meant to be a faulty mutation originally?? 😉

Lovely13 I have sun damaged blue eyes too, the colour in the iris(?) is flaking off and can lead to a thing called pigment glaucoma, apparently. I just hope ALL the colour doesn't flake off 😉

Blue eyes aren't rare both my little ones have hazel / light brown eyes and I LOVE them. Much prefer them over my blue eyes