This obsession with blue eyes! Anyone else?

[Lelophants]

Honestly, I know it's a minor thing but it's really starting to annoy me! 🤣

Dh and I both have hazel eyes. We are white but more olivey skin (not that it matters!) Ds is the spitting image of me as a baby and his eyes are still that changeable very dark blue/brown colour, but looks dark in most lights. He has basically the same eyes I did as a baby and most of the time they look hazel, but I guess they haven't quite set yet. Mine didn't set until 1. He is 9 months. (Other babies we know with blue eyed parents have proper blue eyes - ds has never looked very blue!) Also neither DH or myself are blue!!

Pil are both blue and hazel eyed and mil is the blue eyed one and is obsessed that our baby will have blue eyes! Every time she visits (maybe 6 or 7 times now) it's "his eyes look blue! Are they blue?" Then looks disappointed when we say no. I'm not kidding. Every time she comes in! I actually have an intake of breath now. She then makes the odd comment of "well they look blue to me." as if I'm making it up.

I actually find it quite offensive. Dark eyes are attractive you know! Her son has them! And ds has my eyes!
She even made some comment about how her other son has blue eyes and how beautiful they are.

Anyone else have people like this? Blue eyes are no nicer than dark eyes. Hazel eyes are beautiful thank you very much!

And when you meet a red head with blue eyes, you are looking at the rarest colour combination of all for human beings. Around 17 per cent of people have blue eyes, and when combined with 1-2 per cent having red hair, the odds of having both traits are around 0.17 per cent. That's 13 million people, out of the 7.6 billion on Earth. So with numbers this low, could redheads with blue eyes actually go extinct?

Clear misuse of stats there, redheads are not evenly distributed throughout the world. As it's fairly common in Scotland / Ireland and also in some Jewish communities.

So you have areas where there is a 'pool' of red head genes and if people procreate with people from that pool then red hair is not going to die.

Then you get families like mine, we have a scattering of redheads but the redhead parents don't have redhead children, and vica versa.

Haha- i have my own personal preference. Beautiful dark brown eyes, on lovely tan skin...Polynesian guys, Maoris..hmmmm gorgeous brown eyes and beautiful dark eyelashes..sorry to disrupt they babyeyes thread
but blue eyes dont do it for me at all.

*Although blue eyes and black hair

oof*

Oof? What do you mean?

Oof as in that looks gorgeous/hot. I assume?

We're an blue eyed family. Mine and the kids are very bright. Dh a bit merky.

Some people do seem to act like it's somthing to be pleased about. But then I think it's just somthing to complement when you can't think of anything else. Ds was unusual looking as a baby and he used to get a lot of compliments on his blue eyes. Like sorry he's weird looking but at least he's got blue eyes. I've noticed this with other blue eyed kids that are a bit odd looking, I've found myself doing it to.

Dd has always been a very
beautiful baby/toddler and she doesn't get comments on her blue eyes. Just that they are the same as mine. People compliment her looks overall.

Although op it sounds like in your example your mil just wants to think she's past somthing on.

Reminds me of the mother of a friend of mine.
Saw my friend and her mother when out with new born dd. Her rude mother commented "Oh your baby is huge, unlike my granddaughter who is so tiny and petite." Strange thing to say considering my friend is tall and slim. She also kept bleeting on to my friend about how much she wanted a blue eyed grandchild as all her grandkids had brown eyes.

So with numbers this low, could redheads with blue eyes actually go extinct?

But can't one blonde parent and one dark parent make a redhead. That's what my mum always said.

Apparently people with blue eyes will dissappear in couple of 100 years or somthing, unless we make a concerted effort to only breed with each other.

Everyone in my family has blue eyes. My DD was born and her eyes were blue, my MIL has brown eyes and my husband hazel/green. My MIL said oh DDs eyes are blue like my grandfather ... literally my parents, me, brother, grandparents on both sides have blue, but no, it was after HER grandfather ... I suspect it's the same thing, she wants her own genes to be visual - 'blue eyes like grandma' 🙄

Dd age 4 has long white blonde hair and pale blue eyes and we live in a place where everyone has black hair and brown eyes. She literally can't walk down a street without a well intentioned grandma or grandad stopping to tell her how beautiful she is and how they have never seen hair like that, and she pretty much growls at them, she hates the attention, hates being called beautiful. I do understand people just comment on unusual things they see but her reaction seems crazy without the context that this happens multiple times a day and makes her feel like a freak show!
Hers is also a very recessive gene (we can't even find the person with blue eyes, we think perhaps a great grandma).

@Pluckedpencil - your not from the village of the damed are you?

@alabamawhirly1 ahahah I have not seen that film but looking at the images, her hair is worryingly similar, and we do live in a tiny remote village.....I am not watching that film!

Agree with PPs saying that this seems a classic example of “DC looks like me/my son/daughter/‘our’ side of the family”.

Although it seems a natural drive to want to pass on genes etc, and to THINK this stuff in passing, but find it uncomfortable and poor social skills when people reveal their bias so explicitly/nakedly. My mother did it, as did one of DH’s siblings.

I have blue eyes my mum has brown eyes and I’ve always wished I had inherited that from her!! Husband has blue eyes nd so do my kids, but the odd thing is that all of us have very different kinds of blue. It’s very strange.

Anyways, it’s like curly hair or skin colour...you always wish you had something else to what nature has landed you with. Your MIL is just being rude.

I agree this is MIL making this about herself and passing on her genes. It's boring. I mean, she knows it's her grandchild, she doesn't need it written on their foreheads. Some people need to work on knowing when to not express their inner monologue.

Me and my daughters dad both have dark brown eyes and she has blue eyes. I was over the moon ! However my 2nd daughter has the most lovely brown eyes and I realised I was being unreasonable!

I have blue eyes and black hair, and one child with blue eyes brown here, and one blue eyed blonde hair. We're a right bunch 😂

I think it is annoying but would let it go as I don't think she is being malicious. My ds was born with grey eyes which didn't settle till he was 9 months old. They are hazel now, a very light brown with some green around the pupils. Some days they look very hazel, other times more green. My mum always used to ask what colour his eyes were and would get disappointed if I said they looked more brown than grey. We are asian and both her and my dad have brown eyes, albeit my dad's are lighter. I have very dark hair and eyes however my dh has hazel eyes, which appear to change colour when he is tired etc. My fil had green eyes and I have a few cousins on my dad's side with green, hazel and blue eyes.

I would answer that my boy's eyes were beautiful no matter what the colour and told my mum to stop being obsessive.

Not a fan - they can look very ‘cold’. I love green.

My husband and I have brown eyes. Our son has blue eyes!

Yeah I have light blue eyes and dark hair and I'm pale, people have often asked me if I'm irish? I used to hate my blue eyes when I was younger as I thought they clashed with my red lipstick so took to wearing brown contacts for nights out (I didn't buy them, i worked in an opticians and used samples) out of three dc two have brown, one has blue. Dp is brown eyed.

Yeah I have light blue eyes and dark hair and I'm pale, people have often asked me if I'm irish? I used to hate my blue eyes when I was younger as I thought they clashed with my red lipstick

Clash? More like very Liz Taylor

Mine were very dark brown when I was small - at some point they turned green. They still do change from a hazel to a moss green depending on my health/if I’m really tired etc. One sister is the same. Our other siblings have dark brown and blue eyes.

I'm very pale with black hair and blue eyes. One DC is a red head with green eyes, and the other blond with blue eyes.

Genetics, eh?

I grew up in the north of Scotland where thanks to the Scandinavian genes the vast majority of people had blue eyes whatever their hair colour so it's funny seeing red hair and blue eyes or black hair and blue eyes being described as rare. In a majority blue eyed population they aren't.

I married a man with brown eyes and black hair and then panicked that I wouldn't have any children that looked like me. It was a very strange response. Thankfully my eldest has blue eyes and blond hair. FIL kept going on about how she had his mother's nose and what a shame it was to the extent that I eventually told him all contributions towards a nose job would be gratefully received. He stopped then (DD1 actually has a lovely nose, as did FIL's mother). When DD2 was born MIL told me 'we don't recognise her'. She is the most like my side of the family so MIL was right but as a new Mum it was a strange thing to be told (MIL is lovely but English is her second language so I suspect it was a lost in translation situation). DS is very like MIL and was the first precious grandson so all was well there. I suspect it's PIL situation, they want to see that a child is related to them but express it badly to their (hormonal and sleep deprived) DIL.

Thanks @LioneIRichTea! If it's good enough for Liz, it's good enough for me! I don't mind anymore tbh, although I sometimes think when I'm an old lady they're going to look really rheumy and watery