Headbands and Bows on bald baby heads,

[PasstheBucket89]

Why do people do that to bald babies, when i see photos of tiny baby girls with this stuff i think god that must be so irratating , i feel sorry for them, i mean as hair gets thicker, etc not as bad, but am i being unreasonable in thinking wtf do people do this it looks so uncomfortable???

@nasiisthebest

Gosh I never judged parents for how they dressed their kids. The suffocation risk would be a reason not to do it but other than that I really don't care what they wear. I wear a headband myself and don't find it uncomfortable at all so those remarks surprise me.

You don’t find them uncomfortable because you are a grown adult and not an infant.

YANBU. It looks tacky and ridiculous.

I voted yabu, Not to my taste but hardly worth getting so pearl clutching about.

YANBU looks crap aswell. Not to mention uncomfortable. Chavtastic.

I don’t agree that they are just like a hat. They are much tighter.
A hat is to keep them warm while they struggle to regulate their own temp. Bows are just to make little girls into a decorative object.

When my DC were babies I put them in whatever babygro, trousers etc that easily came to hand. That meant that DD wore an awful lot of DS1's old blue, grey and brown babygros, pyjamas and trousers, whilst DS2 had practically nothing new and wore DS2's old stuff plus plenty of the pink stuff we were given for DD. They were regularly mistaken for the wrong sex, but I can't say I cared a jot.

Alright, I’ll be the lone voice that says they think some bands, with some outfits, can look cute. IF used safely and they fit properly.

The replies on here are so judgemental and bitchy.

I personally like pink, frills and bows. My taste doesn’t quite run to “my big fat gypsy wedding” over the top, but still. I’ve also dressed my girls in blue. Who really cares ? They are both intelligent, sporty, amazing girls. Wearing dresses and an occasional bow has not harmed them one bit.

I loathe them, they look absurd.
My boy was always being mistaken for a girl because he had an abundance of golden curls and baby blue eyes with a little pink rosebud mouth, probably also because many of his clothes were pink - my mum wasn't taking any chances and gave me loads of both because I didn't want to know the sex beforehand. It seemed a shame to waste them.
Now he is 36 and looks like a lumberjack, massive great bloke with a big bushy beard. And not the Monty Python type of lumberjack either

I'd rather that than pierced ears

Those baby headband and bows things look totally silly, and the poor babies can't object to them!

Goodness, no, you mustn't ever put a headband on your baby - it doesn't matter if your baby girl is mistaken for a boy, but put a headband on her and she might be mistaken for ... a working class baby!

I find it really weird. I remember a cousin doing that and the poor child constantly pulling them off because they were so uncomfortable.
Can we not just give baby girls 5 minutes of life before we start treating them like ornamental dolls? Please?

They look absolutely ridiculous. One of the school mums posts multiple times a day photos of her baby with headbands on. The flowers are massive. I don't think they ever look nice.

I put my little one in headbands occasionally. She’s 8 months next week and bald. I love them. They make me smile, and on nights where I’ve been up frequently, or mornings where I’ve done a lot of calming a grumpy baby, it honestly changes my mood with her, when I glance at her and see her “all dressed up”. I don’t think she looks “too girly” as usually she’ll be in dungarees. Most of mine are flowery rather than pink. She is well able to pull them off at this stage if she wanted (she will always remove her sun hat) but seems to not mind them. They are cotton. What’s the problem?

I’ve no difficulty with her being taken for a boy! But nor am I being cruel to my little one by dressing her up some days.

She’ll have years enough to tell me “I’m not wearing that” and chose herself.

The glue mentioned here is different. Honestly, I wish we could be more supportive and accepting of all mothers choices. There is a lot of judgement (and presumption) on this thread so far. If they don’t hurt, what’s the harm?

What about Josie Duggar, poor little bald baby who wore this headband ALL the time!

They are awful and look so uncomfortable especially on tiny babies along with tiny trainers and denim jeans on new borns. Not sure what people are thinking of. All a baby needs is to be comfortable in a baby gro.

YANBU. I always think they must give the poor kids a headache that they won’t be able to articulate. DD was born with a full head of curls rather than the standard potato appearance but I still wouldn’t put a hairband on her; so unnecessary. (Not that she would have tolerated it for a moment anyway.)

@MissingCoffeeandWine, I think the problem is that (a) they look silly on a child who clearly doesn't need anything to keep her hair back, and (b) they're dangerous.

@Pelleas

I agree that bows shouldn't be tight enough to be uncomfortable or big enough to suffocate, but other than that I think they're fine, and in some cases really cute.

They're no worse than any other gender-signifier such as a dress or a pink bodysuit, & I bet almost all mums of girls own some of those (& I bet very few mums of boys do).

If you want to raise your kids gender-neutral then I have no issues with that either, but I do respect people's values a lot more when they're consistent. Bows=bad, dresses=good is not that.

This thread is really harsh and judgemental.

Providing that the baby isn’t sleeping unsupervised with the bow on and it fits properly I don’t see the issue.

DD has one outfit that came with a bow and looks lovely in it. She is a gorgeous wee baldy and I wouldn’t give a hoot if she was mistaken for a boy. She’s not a fan of her sun hat but doesn’t even react when the bow is put on. So I doubt it’s uncomfortable for her.

YANBU. I didn't put things like that on my son so I won't be doing it for my daughter either. I like to dress both of them in things that are colourful and easy for them to move around in, so that means soft joggers/shirts and tshirts. I've been given a few dresses for my daughter but there just always feels like so much unnecessary fabric when I'm moving her around so I tend not to go for them.

@Babyroobs I agree, I hate jeans on little babies.

Not what I like.
Also, do not leave a young baby alone with a headband on. I read of an instance when the band worked down over the face, and baby suffocated.

The risks on them should be clearer, like not letting a baby sleep in one and especially not unattended and I can't imagine that glue or those shoes do any good, but otherwise it's a drop in the ocean that I haven't paid much attention to.

I have many photos of my younger daughter as a baby with a very odd hair pattern - she was born with a full head, but lost it in chunks when she was about 4 months old - or of her in a pink cat-earred soft knit hat. No idea what other people thought, but she seemed to like her hat (an early start to her love of cats) and it eased my concerns about her scratching her ears (she had eczema on her ears from days old, never seen anything like it before on such a small baby).