Page 6 | Headbands and Bows on bald baby heads,

PasstheBucket89 · 2020-08-13T09:31:04+00:00

Why do people do that to bald babies, when i see photos of tiny baby girls with this stuff i think god that must be so irratating [sad], i feel sorry for them, i mean as hair gets thicker, etc not as bad, but am i being unreasonable in thinking wtf do people do this it looks so uncomfortable???

Ironmanrocks · 13/08/2020 12:54

I thought it was to make your baby look like an Easter egg??? No other reason for them in my opinion. Hideous.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 13/08/2020 12:56

In the winter it can help keep their head warm

Surely only one narrow strip of it? Wouldn't a hat be more ideal for that purpose?

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 13/08/2020 12:56

I had a definite idea of how I planned to dress my daughter. I wanted her in ditsy tea dresses and tights and little cardigans with plaits etc.
She’s three now and hates wearing dresses because they get caught under her knees when she’s climbing so now she lives in leggings and hoodies which keep her warm, comfy and active. The future mum in me would have despaired but she’s so much happier in those kind of clothes than she would be “looking nice”.
It’s unreasonable to make children uncomfortable all day just so you think they look nice.

hargainbunt · 13/08/2020 12:58

Well I think they look lovely so I often put one on my dd. She obviously doesn't sleep in one or is left alone wearing one. They come with most dresses nowadays and make the cutest outfits. My dd isn't at all bothered wearing one and doesn't ever try to take it off. She's a very happy little girl. I get compliments on how gorgeous she is all the time and she's have never been mistaken for a boy. You might think I'm common as muck, so be it maybe I am! I don't care, I'll continue to put her in a bow until she refuses (hope she doesn't though)

mrsmuddlepies · 13/08/2020 12:59

@BorderlineBob . It was with reference to a poster excusing it by saying that it may happen for cultural reasons. There are class/culture issues here,
Lots of things happen to girls for cultural reasons. It doesn't make them right.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 13/08/2020 12:59

Are we talking Alice bands and the like, by the way, or full-on deeley boppers?

I suppose the latter could double up as an interesting ersatz mobile to entertain the baby, but not a lot of use where the baby can't actually see it.

RedRumTheHorse · 13/08/2020 13:01

@hargainbunt

Well I think they look lovely so I often put one on my dd. She obviously doesn't sleep in one or is left alone wearing one. They come with most dresses nowadays and make the cutest outfits. My dd isn't at all bothered wearing one and doesn't ever try to take it off. She's a very happy little girl. I get compliments on how gorgeous she is all the time and she's have never been mistaken for a boy. You might think I'm common as muck, so be it maybe I am! I don't care, I'll continue to put her in a bow until she refuses (hope she doesn't though)

I get compliments on how gorgeous my daughter is all the time from when she was a tiny baby.

She doesn't wear bows. She hasn't got her ears pierced. Sometimes she wears clothes from the boys section of shops.

Point is if you have a sweet-looking child you will get compliments regardless of what they are wearing.

areallthenamesusedup · 13/08/2020 13:04

@Ironmanrocks

I thought it was to make your baby look like an Easter egg??? No other reason for them in my opinion. Hideous.

Anordinarymum · 13/08/2020 13:06

Baby girls are not supposed to look like toilet roll holders :)

exiledfromcornwall · 13/08/2020 13:08

Glad I'm not the only one who thinks these headbands and bows look naff on babies. BTW is this yet another import from America? It seems to be particularly prevalent over there from various photos I've seen on social media etc.

gingganggooleywotsit · 13/08/2020 13:09

I agree i hate the bows and headbands! Mothers that use them seem so desperate for their baby to look "pretty". Leave the poor child alone ffs

TableFlowerss · 13/08/2020 13:13

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

In the winter it can help keep their head warm

Surely only one narrow strip of it? Wouldn't a hat be more ideal for that purpose?

A hat could blow off

LivingoffCoffee · 13/08/2020 13:15

Such judgement! Jeez
It's one thing to comment on the dangers of babies/children being left to sleep in headbands. As long as they're taken off when sleeping/not left alone with them, what's the problem? Most are now made of soft jersey fabric, so not at all uncomfortable.

I only have a DS, but I choose my his clothes because I think they're cute. It's not a "conditioning girls they're only value is their looks" or whatever other naff comments have been made here. Its because parents dress their child in clothes the parents like, until the child is old enough to voice their opinion on their clothes.

LouiseTrees · 13/08/2020 13:16

@PasstheBucket89

Yep ive noticed that, im expecting no. 3, i love pastel yellow baby stuff ,i noticed its next to non existant now

,,. Idont have any thing against baby jeans aslong as they aren't tight.

Go with cream, gold, beige or grey or white then. Yellow I’m not so keen on. But I totally agree with you on those bows, they are dangerous.

peonyblossom · 13/08/2020 13:17

They're grim. Tacky and naff.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 13/08/2020 13:18

A hat could blow off

How childish am I that I sniggered at that?!

BorderlineBob · 13/08/2020 13:18

I don't love the look of kids in football shirts or jeans or with animal pictures on their clothes but you know what I do if I see them, I smile and get on with my day. Not my kid, not my business.
Christ, live and let live.

Pandamumium · 13/08/2020 13:24

My ndn gave me a lovely headband for my second daughter, who was completely bald.
I tried it on her and she looked like a rugby prop forward!

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 13/08/2020 13:24

Saying all that, I’d never put my baby daughter in a headband. It’s really tacky. Sorry to all the headband mums 🙈

Merename · 13/08/2020 13:31

[quote mrsmuddlepies]**@BorderlineBob* . It was with reference to a poster excusing it by saying that it may happen for cultural reasons. There are class/culture issues here,*
Lots of things happen to girls for cultural reasons. It doesn't make them right.[/quote]
I was that pp, it’s not about ‘excusing’ the hairbands- as I said, I’m not keen either - but highlighting that if we really actually care about the babies here as opposed to looking down on others to make us feel better about ourselves, we can think about culture/ class issues and how to help people be reflective and child centred in their choices. Judging people is a sure- fire way to get their back up and entrench them more in their views.

As for the FGM comment - that is a cultural norm, and yes I believe that the majority of parents who do it love their children and believe it is the best thing. They are, in many cultures’ view, incredibly misguided and as such we have legislation and policy to protect children. Campaigners in this field have dialogue and attempt to educate, not sneer at people for being chavs. I agree tho with PP that this is an extreme comparison with hairbands; ear piercing would have been a better choice as I think the cultural norm to do this is one that we could debate whether very young children should be protected from.

HopelessSemantics · 13/08/2020 13:35

everyone thinks my baby is a girl but he's a boy. I have drawn a cock and balls on his forehead in permanent marker to stop this happening.

burritofan · 13/08/2020 13:35

It can also help ‘well wishers’ identify the sex of the baby.
Why on earth do they need to know? You can wish a stranger’s baby well or call it a snuggly-puggly squishy-cheeked bundle of delight (for instance) without knowing girl or boy.

As for putting bows on female babies = compliments on how gorgeous she is, is there a parent alive who hasn’t been complimented on their gorgeous baby? It has nothing to do with them wearing a bow or band. A woman leaned out of her car the other day to call DD “exceptionally cute” (no head band or bow, just peanut butter in her hair), I’m under no illusion that that means she’s the cutest, it’s just the natural response to a baby. (Except the really plug-ugly battery-chicken-looking ones, who are usually the ones adorned in bows, poor sods.)

PhilSwagielka · 13/08/2020 13:35

I hate how gendered clothes are these days. All that pink and blue shit and 'boys wear this, girls wear that'. Both my brother and I had similar clothes, like dungarees and Mickey Mouse sweaters - this was the '80s and we're in our thirties now - and I wasn't into pink at all, never have been. But now it's all pink this and pink that and some girls' clothes are so impractical. Where are the pockets?

MissDollyMix · 13/08/2020 13:36

I'll say it. I voted YABU because, as long as there's no choking risk, I really can't get het up and judgemental about how other people dress their babies. DD had a few soft hair bands as a baby. I thought she looked cute in them. End of story really. I wasn't in the slightest bit bothered if people thought she was a boy, sometimes I'd dress her in her brothers old dungarees and dinosaur tops, I thought those were cute too. DD is 7 now, unstrangled and untraumatised by her baby hair-bands. She has hair down to her bum so quite honestly I'm done with hair accessories now and would quite like to chop the lot off but she won't have it. Her hair, her choice.
To be honest, I think part of the reason I put the bows on her was because I know how pearl-clutchy and judgemental some people are and quite liked the shock factor. It's a good way of weeding out pretentious, affected snobs who judge people based on appearance.

HopelessSemantics · 13/08/2020 13:36

also agree with jeans and we were given so many pairs of them. They are tacky af. And trying to get jeans onto a baby? Are you kidding me? Like trying to nail jelly to a snake.