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Headbands and Bows on bald baby heads,

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PasstheBucket89 · 13/08/2020 10:31

Why do people do that to bald babies, when i see photos of tiny baby girls with this stuff i think god that must be so irratating Sad, i feel sorry for them, i mean as hair gets thicker, etc not as bad, but am i being unreasonable in thinking wtf do people do this it looks so uncomfortable???

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lockeddownandcrazy · 15/08/2020 12:59

Far worse is designer clothes that are all about looking good not being comfy for a child - or even worse shoes on babies. Non compares to babies ears pierced though - that is abuse.

Middersweekly · 15/08/2020 13:17

I agree that babies head bands look uncomfortable. They weren’t really something kids wore back in the day so none of my DD’s wore one. If their hats, gloves and socks were anything to go by they would be off as quick as lightning anyway. We used to just dress babies in sleep suits until they were around 3-6 months I think then maybe the odd dress on a summers day or a short romper suit.

MsMonkey · 19/08/2020 14:50

Yeah they're hideous. I'm also not a fan of dressing baby boys in uncomfortable little old man outfits, or jeans for babies.

I really couldn't give a shite if anyone mistakes my baby's gender, not sure why people care so much they go out of their way to dress the baby so everyone can tell.

Heartofglass12345 · 19/08/2020 15:57

I hate them and they are dangerous. I also hate seeing dummy clips with beads on them, and pram charms, why?? Why would you have beads/ stones on a string dangling above your babies head??

Heartofglass12345 · 19/08/2020 15:59

For people struggling to keep socks on babies, look for sock-ons, they're great as the baby can't get them off! They go over their socks

IlanaWexler · 19/08/2020 16:09

@Heartofglass12345 Yeah sock-ons are great!

Heartofglass12345 · 19/08/2020 16:15

They are aren't they! Whoever invented them is a genius

JBFletcherstypewriter · 20/08/2020 10:31

My husband sent me this a few months whilst I was pregnant because we laugh about the giant bows that some little babies are made to wear... we didn’t know what we were having (twins) but already have a DD and she never wore bows or even a hair clip until she had hair, which was well past her first birthday. She was as bald as a coot! A friend of mine puts her 7 week old in them almost everyday and to me they just look stupid because her daughter is completely bald too... but that’s up to her, it’s the safety and comfort aspect I’d be more worried about. Another friend of mine kept dressing her baby son in shirts and braces, again, so uncomfortable for a baby who is on his back the majority of the time!! As far as I’m concerned as long as babies are kept warm, comfortable and fed then you can’t go far wrong.... they are not accessories and besides a Halloween costume and some christmas pj’s or baby gros then they shouldn’t be dressed up as such. They are only that small for a short amount of time, that’s when it’s all about the cuddles ☺️

Headbands and Bows on bald baby heads,
inappropriateraspberry · 20/08/2020 16:37

I hate any inappropriate or pointless clothing on babies. Like heavy denim jeans on a tiny baby that can't even sit up - how are they supposed to move their legs? I've even seen a baby in a denim jacket 🙄 Plus unnecessarily frilly dresses. A faff to keep nice and just gets in baby's face.

ChickenFriedFudge · 20/08/2020 18:06

My 3 year old has earrings and has worn bows since she was a few weeks old.
Am I bothered by this post? Absolutely not
Each to their own. But a lot of posters here sound very judgemental

See I don't get this. The people I know who always harp on about 'Don't judge' are by all accounts the judgiest people I know. We DO judge. Whether we mean to or not, it is human nature. We're not all going up to the parents of bow wearers and saying how tacky it is. The OP started a thread, people have answered with their honest opinions that in the real world they keep to themselves. But of course people judge. As do you judging people as judgemental.

nildesparandum · 21/08/2020 20:41

inappropiateraspberry
My grandson was brought home from hospital at two days old wearing tiny denim jeans and matching jacket.I had to keep biting my tongue .
I have learnt do do this often over the years.

aijaine · 21/08/2020 20:56

😂😂 why are most of you so triggered over a little headband on a baby, what a bunch of wierdos must be bored or something, I'm sure mums don't care what you think of their baby or if you point out it's a girl or boy, surely they just think that would be a pretty outfit, some of these questions are ridiculous

Floatyboat · 21/08/2020 21:18

Is it a class think? Round here I think it would be considered quite "common."

doityourselfnow · 21/08/2020 21:20

They look hideous without exception!

ChickenFriedFudge · 21/08/2020 21:37

@aijaine I don't think having genuine concerns about a child suffocating to death is being 'triggered' ffs

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PasstheBucket89 · 21/08/2020 21:58

i dont really have an issue with jeans on babies as long as they fit, jeans can kill you whilst napping.

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Pheasantplucker2 · 21/08/2020 23:41

There's an insta family my daughter likes called the Chatwin family. They had triplets and the babies were in NICU. The 2 girls had 2 tiny bows glued to their head. I couldn't think how they did it, but now know about girlie glue Grin. I was surprised the hospital allowed it tbh.

Feelingconfused2020 · 21/08/2020 23:48

There are 14 pages and I should rtft but I can't be bothered..fuck off with your judgement. You don't like it, don't do it. The baby will be just fine, even if it wears a fucking headband.

I come from a culture where babies wear headbands for special occasions. I have two daughters. They are not babies anymore. They are absolutely fine and well rounded and strong and independent. They did wear headbands as babies.

Worry about the babies who are neglected, mistreated and exposed to drugs, nicotine and alcohol, don't waste your energy on those whose parents make what you perceive to be unfortunate fashion choices.

I'll feel differently.if you produce the scientific evidence that wearing a headband as a child causes psychological trauma and/or prevents a girl from becoming an independent woman with her own mind.

Namechange8471 · 21/08/2020 23:50

I had a lovely pink pram for dd, she was dressed in a red Christmas onesie and some old lady was convinced she was a boy because she didn’t have a bow or a pink onesie/dummy 😂😂

Feelingconfused2020 · 21/08/2020 23:54

My grandson was brought home from hospital at two days old wearing tiny denim jeans and matching jacket.I had to keep biting my tongue .
I have learnt do do this often over the years.

If I have learnt anything from threads like this it's that people love to see themselves as somehow better than others... Even their own children!

What a child wears is just down to taste and opinion. There isn't a "how good a parent you are" monitor that scores you on the items you dress your baby in. Do you think Boden have a direct line to social services so that they can tick off parents who buy what's considered appropriate babyware by the middle classes.

"I was worried about that family because the child is constantly.swearing and beating up his peers but his clothes are from John Lewis so clearly it's fine"

Feelingconfused2020 · 22/08/2020 00:03

jeans can kill you whilst napping

So I'm assuming you meant "can't"

If you objected to headbands because they could harm a baby while it sleeps (who leaves headwear on a child while it sleeps anyway?) Then you wouldn't have specified "bald" baby heads in your OP.

Don't try and dress this up as anything other than judgey snobbery.

Feelingconfused2020 · 22/08/2020 00:04

If mini.boden started stocking headbands then all of a sudden the middle.classes would be all for it!

DancingCatGif · 22/08/2020 00:47

@Feelingconfused2020 I don't live in the UK and headbands are middle class af here. Still think they look shit and cringe.

People judge, people think certain things look crap, yes, people are snobby about certain items of clothing. You'll probably be happier in life if you just accept this.

goldopals · 22/08/2020 00:51

YABU. I don't like the glue but I think it's cute. It's a bit of fun and there's other things to worry about

ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN · 22/08/2020 00:51

We know what this is about

It looks so common it looks so chavvy don’t you agree ladies

Unless a child looks uncared for why would you care Hmm