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Friend taking p*** or am I being over sensitive?

596 replies

democrazy · 04/08/2020 20:28

We own some land across the road from our house, invested in a small yurt and have a semi permanent type summer glamping set up, fire pit, pizza oven etc. Friend text me to ask if she can use the site to celebrate her birthday (it's a big one) with a few close friends (about 10-15), I mistook the message as inviting DH and I as well, which she replied saying she was embarrassed but really she just wanted her closest friends and I wouldn't be invited. This is fine as I wouldn't have considered myself in that circle - I'd say we're friends but not super close, but we are good friends with a number of the people who would be going. But I thought it a bit cheeky that she basically wants to use our extended garden to have a small party but not invite us. We've used the space for other friends and family celebrations, but we've always been part of them. I've said yes becuase I'd feel mean if
didn't, but equally feeling a little put out, though not sure if it's my embarassment at assuming I was invited or my feeling put out that they want to use the space without inviting us. P.s. I know this is a very first world issue and really not of great importance, just sense checking myself!

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Serialcatmum · 04/08/2020 21:24

Gobsmacked and super proud of you! I so want to know what her response is.. I have a friend that has a property like this and am desperate to message her and see if she’s actually you 😂😂😂

lunar1 · 04/08/2020 21:25

Just when you think human behaviour can't get any worse!! What is wrong with some people.

Viviennemary · 04/08/2020 21:25

I'd make something up like you've checked your insurance and sorry you won't be able to agree to this after all

RachelRosie · 04/08/2020 21:26

Even if paying its still a bit rude but for FREE blimey....
Well done OP for saying no. Cheeky mare. Stand your ground. Glad mutual friend has your back too, hopefully the CF will realise the error of her ways!

Sunrise234 · 04/08/2020 21:26

I love when there is a situation like this and the OP stands up for themselves. Well done OP! I don’t know you but I am so so proud of you!! Grin

YgritteSnow · 04/08/2020 21:26

@Campurp

Tell her that due to insurance reasons you can no longer offer the space. If she asks why say that when you usually hold events you are present, but it is a liability for you to have people on your land, using your facilities whilst you’re not present. You hope she can find another location but it leaves you wide open should an accident happen!
I would do this.
RosieLemonadeAndSugar · 04/08/2020 21:26

I'm just here now for the text back Grin

Well done OP. Can't believe some people!

user1592512579 · 04/08/2020 21:27

She is definitely taking the piss. I can't beleive nobody would have the audacity to do that.

Hobnobsandbroomstick · 04/08/2020 21:28

What a cheeky cow! Be interesting to see if she responds.

anonacatchat · 04/08/2020 21:28

So rude of her

Yetiyoga · 04/08/2020 21:29

Omg this is shocking. How rude. I bet she invites you now. Definitely don't agree.

Hubstar · 04/08/2020 21:30

Cheeky cow.

That’s not on at all!!!

domesticslattern · 04/08/2020 21:31

I can't stop thinking about the toilet issue. Who has a party with no toilet fgs? Mad woman.

Bobbybobbins · 04/08/2020 21:31

Well done OP!

Dollycarton81 · 04/08/2020 21:33

Shameless placemarking to see what the CF comes back with. Well done op, the rudeness here is staggering.

StoneofDestiny · 04/08/2020 21:33

What a truly hideous 'sort of' friend. Breathtaking cheek.

Mammyloveswine · 04/08/2020 21:33

Total cheeky sod! Love your message op!

MsEllany · 04/08/2020 21:34

I'm just placemarking OP, I read your post earlier and forgot to respond - I'm so glad your mate is backing you up. Brilliant response to the CF!

BlueBirdGreenFence · 04/08/2020 21:35

Whatna piss taker Shock

Buttercup54321 · 04/08/2020 21:35

Massively rude.
I agree with Friexene . No way would I let her use it.

silverbubbles · 04/08/2020 21:36

I can see how it might be tricky to charge her now but she is unbelievably rude.

It might be worth saying that you are now a bit concerned as someone said to you you should have insurance for this because its not your event, if there was an incident (and you don't have insurance) you could be held responsible and it's just got you thinking that its too much of a liability so she better just use her own garden......

democrazy · 04/08/2020 21:36

Wel I got a response and think you'll all be a bit disappointed, it just says 'OK'. no kisses or anything which I think is a clear sign she is annoyed but I suspect mutual friend has had words. Thanks for all the advice, it's very helpful to be able to sense check my feelings - I can be a pushover at times, but even for me this was a step too far!!

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PoodleMoth · 04/08/2020 21:39

Well done!

PhilSwagielka · 04/08/2020 21:39

Your friend is incredibly rude and entitled and you should be charging her if she's not going to invite you.

Tistheseason17 · 04/08/2020 21:40

Good outcome!

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