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Friend taking p*** or am I being over sensitive?

596 replies

democrazy · 04/08/2020 20:28

We own some land across the road from our house, invested in a small yurt and have a semi permanent type summer glamping set up, fire pit, pizza oven etc. Friend text me to ask if she can use the site to celebrate her birthday (it's a big one) with a few close friends (about 10-15), I mistook the message as inviting DH and I as well, which she replied saying she was embarrassed but really she just wanted her closest friends and I wouldn't be invited. This is fine as I wouldn't have considered myself in that circle - I'd say we're friends but not super close, but we are good friends with a number of the people who would be going. But I thought it a bit cheeky that she basically wants to use our extended garden to have a small party but not invite us. We've used the space for other friends and family celebrations, but we've always been part of them. I've said yes becuase I'd feel mean if
didn't, but equally feeling a little put out, though not sure if it's my embarassment at assuming I was invited or my feeling put out that they want to use the space without inviting us. P.s. I know this is a very first world issue and really not of great importance, just sense checking myself!

OP posts:
Goodgollymiss · 04/08/2020 20:54

Well done... what a difficult position she put you in! I can not believe the cheek

StatementKnickers · 04/08/2020 20:54

YANBU and have handled this very well. Unbelievably rude of this "friend"! Reminds me of the thread where the poor OP had been roped into basically setting up some CF bride's entire wedding (decorations etc) but wasn't actually invited.

MrsSchadenfreude · 04/08/2020 20:54

That’s a good text. She is a grade A CF.

FilthyforFirth · 04/08/2020 20:54

Well done OP. I bet you're invited now. Dont fall for it! What a dreadful 'friend'

HermioneKipper · 04/08/2020 20:55

Cheeky cow! Can’t believe the brass neck on her. Tell her to get stuffed, I can’t believe anyone would be this cheeky! I wouldn’t be sorry to lose her “friendship” either

BurnIt · 04/08/2020 20:55

Ha ha well done OP! That's some brass neck

1Morewineplease · 04/08/2020 20:55

Well done OP.

Trouble is , I’m a bit nosey and I’d love an update on her response!

101namesforme · 04/08/2020 20:55

What a CF!

Good text! Will be interesting to see what reply you get.

BearFoxBear · 04/08/2020 20:56

Well done, what a cheeky bitch!

Gemma2019 · 04/08/2020 20:56

Well done OP - I can't believe the cheek of her. You had to say no.

livefornaps · 04/08/2020 20:56

Yaaaaasssss!!!! The twat got her just desserts. TWAT.

Cheeseandlobster · 04/08/2020 20:56

Well done op. That's a perfect response. Do you think she will reply or will there be radio silence? Either way she was incredibly rude so good for you

Yellowfeather · 04/08/2020 20:56

Well done. When she invites you now, say you already have plans that weekend.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 04/08/2020 20:57

Well done OP!

livefornaps · 04/08/2020 20:57

Also yes, gunning for an update here

LagunaBubbles · 04/08/2020 20:57

Can't believe she had the brass neck! Well on reflection I can, some people are just awful.

ThickFast · 04/08/2020 20:57

That’s a great text. Accurate and not making excuses.

Couchbettato · 04/08/2020 20:58

"hi (not so close) friend. I've thought about the logistics and I'm just not sure how this is going to work. I expect you and your party will need to use the facilities but DH and I are not able to let people in to use ours, and we aren't comfortable with the idea some may just use the land. For this reason we don't think it's a good idea to let you host the party on our land."

"Also you're a cheeky bastard, don't talk to me again".

Gobbycop · 04/08/2020 20:58

I think that's taking the piss.

Fair enough you're not a close friend but still, I'd have assumed an invite too to be honest.

That's proper cheeky in her part.

mnahmnah · 04/08/2020 20:58

I hope she’s gracious in her response. But she probably won’t be. Please let us know what she replies with!

AntiAuntieAnty · 04/08/2020 20:58

I will put money on the CF going for the gaslight response; "what?! You thought I meant YOU weren't invited? Oh no, you've got the wrong end of the stick entirely".

HardAsSnails · 04/08/2020 20:58

Well done OP 💪🏼

Giraffey1 · 04/08/2020 20:58

She wants to be friendly enough with you to party on your property but she doesn’t want to invite you? That is so rude! I would rescind the invitation, or charge her for the pleasure.

jillandhersprite · 04/08/2020 20:58

Result! Asked advice, got some good options on messages and a good text to the cf friend... Wish a lot more cf threads were like this!!!!

SavageBeauty73 · 04/08/2020 20:59

Great text! That's almost as rude as the bride who wanted to the poster to decorate the hall but wasn't invited to the wedding.