Friend taking p*** or am I being over sensitive?

[democrazy]

We own some land across the road from our house, invested in a small yurt and have a semi permanent type summer glamping set up, fire pit, pizza oven etc. Friend text me to ask if she can use the site to celebrate her birthday (it's a big one) with a few close friends (about 10-15), I mistook the message as inviting DH and I as well, which she replied saying she was embarrassed but really she just wanted her closest friends and I wouldn't be invited. This is fine as I wouldn't have considered myself in that circle - I'd say we're friends but not super close, but we are good friends with a number of the people who would be going. But I thought it a bit cheeky that she basically wants to use our extended garden to have a small party but not invite us. We've used the space for other friends and family celebrations, but we've always been part of them. I've said yes becuase I'd feel mean if
didn't, but equally feeling a little put out, though not sure if it's my embarassment at assuming I was invited or my feeling put out that they want to use the space without inviting us. P.s. I know this is a very first world issue and really not of great importance, just sense checking myself!

Can we call her YurtZilla? 😁

Send her the invoice BEFORE the party explains that you’ve knocked a bit off for mates rates (if you feel the need) but yes she is a massively CF

Ahhhh the passive-aggressive ‘ok’ response!! Dodged a bullet there me thinks

You've done the right thing to tell her no, OP.
Especially in Covid-times, imagine if people got sick.
That she has just text "OK" is a total victory tbh
Her request is literally the equivalent of saying "can I have a party in your living room please, and can you go out whilst its on?" absolute pisstake

Not being too sensitive at all she’s a CF! Absolutely savage to say no, soz. I didn’t mean YOU owner of the land/items/everything aren’t included how silly of you to presume. FO!

So, 14 pages after the OP told CF friend she couldn’t use the space for her party, people are STILL advising her on what to say to her

FFS you don't even have to trawl through the thread anymore to read the OPs posts
RTFT people

I think it's very insensitive of her, some people are just like that and I would just let it go. You have better things to do than go to someone like that's party 👍🏻

Oops, didn't read all the messages, well there were a lot!

Hahahahhahaha! Reading the last 3-4 pages were a complete waste of time. Read the thread people! You look like fools.

You rock, OP.

Blumming ummer!!! Its traditional where I live to invite next door neighbours if we are having a big shindig even if they've only just moved in, let alone if you are using their garden.,more neck than a giraffe! I haven't read the whole thread but I would be thinking wife swapping or significant drug use...rig up those dinky cameras...hahahah

You sound a really lovely person and this is just so wrong on every level! Tell her you’ve had a paid booking and she can’t have it! Honestly, the cheek of some people!

oh pity you've cancelled

Reminds me of when I worked for a food supply company and my brother asked me to get a list of products for a celebration for my nephew, using my staff discount if course. Once I contacted him to let him know I had everything he told me that they had to restrict numbers as they where tight for space and I wasn't invited!

Tell her you’ve had a paid booking and she can’t have it!

If only the OP had already thought to tell the CF she can’t have it ... 🧐

arggghhh!! The thread police got me!!!!

@vinnygal

Reminds me of when I worked for a food supply company and my brother asked me to get a list of products for a celebration for my nephew, using my staff discount if course. Once I contacted him to let him know I had everything he told me that they had to restrict numbers as they where tight for space and I wasn't invited!

To which I would have said ”I wasn't able to use the discount as it wasn't for my personal use so you've got to pay full whack”

It’s rude, crude and socially unacceptable.

She’s NO friend of yours.

I can't believe the brass neck of some people!

So glad you told her no, although I would have said a lot worse to the cheeky cow.

She has used you... Do not feel embarrassed, she is the one who should be embarrassed. Just learn from this, get the invite upfront if they want to use your land!

Bit cheeky, if you realised that you weren't included then I'd say yes mate's rates..but it was an easy assumption to make....
Bit cheeky in future put off everyone by saying got to check the diary see if it's booked....might give you thinking space to check if you want to or not.
Agree too late this time

It's unbelievable that someone would ask for a big freebie like this. You need to decline this, and exclude her from your friendship. You don't want to be left with a damaged garden/equipment, or having to tidy up afterwards. Some people have thick skins, they only want to use you and not even try to pretend to be your friend. I made friends with this type people before, and was taken advantage of. Once I realise who they really were and what they were really after, I said no to them, and guess what happened? They just disappeared. They couldn't get freebies from me anymore so they went off to suck blood elsewhere.

I would text her and say unfortunately it’s no longer available due to noise complaints at the last BIG party you had ( which she wasn’t invited to ) so you’ve had no choice but just to restrict it now to close Frlends and family x

Hah! Yeah that's really rude. It sounds like she thinks you're a pushover if she thinks she can do that.

You can't do much now but be a bit cold really.

@user1490954378

Nanasueathome, because we want to, it makes us happy and it's no skin off your nose if we do.

Lovely