Friend taking p*** or am I being over sensitive?

[democrazy]

We own some land across the road from our house, invested in a small yurt and have a semi permanent type summer glamping set up, fire pit, pizza oven etc. Friend text me to ask if she can use the site to celebrate her birthday (it's a big one) with a few close friends (about 10-15), I mistook the message as inviting DH and I as well, which she replied saying she was embarrassed but really she just wanted her closest friends and I wouldn't be invited. This is fine as I wouldn't have considered myself in that circle - I'd say we're friends but not super close, but we are good friends with a number of the people who would be going. But I thought it a bit cheeky that she basically wants to use our extended garden to have a small party but not invite us. We've used the space for other friends and family celebrations, but we've always been part of them. I've said yes becuase I'd feel mean if
didn't, but equally feeling a little put out, though not sure if it's my embarassment at assuming I was invited or my feeling put out that they want to use the space without inviting us. P.s. I know this is a very first world issue and really not of great importance, just sense checking myself!

You’re not being sensitive she is being a user and a cheeky cow. Can’t believe someone would have the ‘neck’ to do that. I would be expecting at the very least that you were invited as you’re friends.

I think it’s lovely of you to continue to let her use it and if nothing else it makes her look awful, especially as you know people going who are likely to ask - why aren’t you there... tell them the truth if they do ask you and make her look to be the user that she is. I really hope she reads your post and the responses.

God that’s so so rude, I can’t believe she would try to use your land and actively tell you you’re not invited. What harm would it have done for you to be there. Honestly you did the right thing, what a horrible thing she did.

You have GOT to charge her. Be brave and say ‘I’m really sorry, but there’s been a misunderstanding. The space is for hire and it’s £150 with a £500 refundable deposit for any damage. It’s okay if that means you don’t want to now use it. There’s also a list of rules. Sorry if it sounds draconian, but that’s the way it is’. Which is FAIR ENOUGH!! Don’t be a walk over my lovely. Be strong!

She's a CF and to just put 'OK' is rude - if she texts again I'd ignore her, she doesn't sound much of a friend.

Never mind brass neck, she's got a 24 carat gold neck. What a bloody nerve!

This is outrageously rude. Of course she should've invited you! I can't get over the nerve of her rocking up to what is essentially your garden and then telling you you're not allowed.

Am I missing something here?
You can read the OP’s updates by clicking on ‘see all’ at the bottom of her very first post
Why are people still coming on to the thread to advise what she should say/do?

I think it's really rude of her, do you have liability insurance on the land? You could say that it is as condition of the insurance the the owner be on thd land when anyone is using it.

Wow if only there was a handy way to read the OPs updates without wading in !

Please guys use the funnel button at the top to at least read all the OPs posts.

I did read I just needed to rant.

Can't quite believe her gall - she clearly doesn''t have an issue with 'using' her 'friends!'... I think I'd turn the tables tbh and next time she mentions it say that she's lucky - as you almost 'double-booked' when another friend asked to 'hire' the space ... then present her with a substantial invoice and ask her for the deposit. Don't feel badly - she'd be hiring a venue and it's not as if you're benefiting!

Some people are seriously rude!

First thought that springs to mind is to tell her her go and do one! What a horrible thoughtless person she is! More diplomatically though, just let them know that you have seen what you think are a couple of adders and there might be a nest somewhere ?

How cool is the 'all op's posts' tab

That made me laugh soooo much ,what a fantastic reply too right ,l totally agree with you ,just wush l had thought of it first 🤣😂🤣

Wow that is rude. I'd just be upfront with her though and say you were giving it to her free of charge thinking you and DH would be coming & if not you'll have to treat it like a business transaction. Why not be honest, will make you feel better saying it & sure your mutual friends can only agree with you!

I can't see the all posts tab?
Well done though OP massively cheeky of her

Wow! It honestly baffles me as to how some people are so shameless!

@managedmis

How cool is the 'all op's posts' tab

Yes, but it is STILL SO MUCH effort to click on it and then having to READ the OP's posts.....oh it's so much easier just to post crap what has been posted 100s of times

mummyof4kids

Right at the bottom of the Op’s opening question ;

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Tell her you’ll invoice her! Cheeky cow! 🤬

I would honestly say that you don’t have the insurance to cover it in case anything happened to one of them and if anyone else asked firmly tell them no

Yes, absolute total p* taking. She should have asked if you rent it out at least, and offered to pay, not just assumed that she could use it for free for her party! She doesn't even know you that well, but even if she did, she would still have been a CF in this situation. I'd tell her that you also meant to mention there will be a small charge for using the space for a party. If she gets shirty, just say it isn't a free public space and that you are surprised that she thought that this was the case. Then give her the phone number of the nearest pub which has a function room for hire.

Tell her to pee off. Also, should she be socialising like this?

Nanasueathome, because we want to, it makes us happy and it's no skin off your nose if we do.

Id either leave a bill for her to pick it up when she arrives or withdraw offer because of insurance implications of loanong it out to people when.ur not there to supervise.
I cant believe the brassneck of someone asking to use your facilities but dont want you ti be part of it!! That is just plain rude!