Asked to put preferred pronouns on email signature

[Ermokthen]

Just had an email from team leader following a diversity workshop that she’d like us all to put our preferred pronouns on our email signatures, as this was a suggested take home action.

Other members of team already responded, some enthusiastically, others clearly not bothered and just going along with team leader.

I really don’t want to do this and have no idea how to respond without being targeted as any number of negative things. Help please...

But just so I can sense check - aibu not to want to put she/her etc after my (very feminine and not to be confused otherwise) name on my email signature?

Oh how did the workplace survive before everyone put their pronouns on their email signatures? I have worked for 25 years and never had a problem. If I was special and needed someone else to know how I preferred to be referred to when I wasn't there, then I'd let them know by choice not because I was being forced to by my newly 'educated' diversity officer.

I’ve never worked with anyone who asked to be referred as ‘they’ or anything other than their bio sex (apart from one head of sales who used to joke that at the weekend he was Nicole). That’s in 31 years of working. In fact I don’t think anyone has ever said ‘when you discuss me, please use the following words...’.

Funny that.

I also like the ‘he/hee’ pronoun!

My company is not woke thank goodness and my boss is not PC. I remember once saying to him we’d better not have unisex toilets - he was aghast and said ‘not bloody likely’ etc. But he’s not going to be there for ever.

If we had to put pronouns I’m not sure what I would do. Either ‘he/him’ , just to be obtuse, and wondering if I’d be questioned. I have an obviously female name, so ‘he/him’ Would look confusing . Or maybe I’d do Mon - she/her, Tues - he/him etc. Or I might say that I find it upsetting and triggering as it’s very personal . But I wouldn’t put (she/her) .

I’m in my fifties and fed up with all this. And angry. I wouldn’t just toe the line.

She/him - that’s going to be mine if necessary. But then it might change depending on how I feel (that’s how it’s based isn’t it?). Or I will say that I don’t wish to be referred to at all if I am not being directly addressed.

I got an email a few months back off someone I assume was signing off with pronouns. But it was kind of nonensical and no idea how to pronounce it anyway! Just had to go back into email address to even find the 'words'

Regards

Jamie XXXX (not outing for them as quite common but just incase)
Xai/Xais

One I had never heard of before and not since either!

Maybe Jamie was secretly GC and making up pronouns just to tick the box while simultaneously thumbing his/her/xais nose at the organisation!

Xaixais - a quick google informs me - are a first nations community.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kitasoo/Xaixais_First_Nation

They do appear on this website:
www.pronouny.xyz/pronouns/list/public
but I'm uncertain (Poe's law, and all) whether that website is a piss-take or not. If not, it should be!

Xai/Xais

First Nations identification? (per Google)

LOL. Everydays a schoolday on mumsnet

That pronouns site

I think I might start being awkward about pronouns, I am agender anyway so I am trans...

poison/poison/poisons/poisons/poisonself

pitter/patter/pitters/patters/pitterself

This morning, pitter went to the park.

I went with patter.

And pitter brought pitters frisbee.

At least I think it was patters.

By the end of the day, pitter started throwing the frisbee to pitterself.

My name is shortened, so I suppose I could put

X (short version)/Y (longer, correct version).

There's a thread just been bumped on FWR about the Yogyakarta Principles - international best practice for accommodating trans people apparently.

"Ensure the right of all persons ordinarily to choose when, to whom, and how to disclose information pertaining to their sexual orientation or gender identity, and protect all persons from arbitrary or unwanted disclosure, or threat of disclosure of such information from others."

Telling you to put your pronouns in your email signature is contrary to the Yogyakarta Principles.

@Ermokthen I may have missed this but your Op suggests your manager wants you to post your ‘preferred pronouns’ rather than your ‘preferred personal pronouns’. If this is the case I’d use ‘Nothing/None’ as you will have 100% complied with their request.

[quote SorryAuntLydia]@Ermokthen I may have missed this but your Op suggests your manager wants you to post your ‘preferred pronouns’ rather than your ‘preferred personal pronouns’. If this is the case I’d use ‘Nothing/None’ as you will have 100% complied with their request.
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Hopefully this would provoke the response:

Are you taking the piss ?

Well you started it ...