To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

[mediciempire]

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.

@cyclingmad maybe instead of targeting households (for which there's no proof has upped the spread), they might like to look at the city centre with pubs full to the rafters and shopping centres mobbed with people. But of course they won't. It's easier to lockdown the places that don't help the economy than target where the actual rise will have come from.

Well we are strangers on an Internet forum. Wow i actually offend you, I wouldn't let some stranger ever offend me, I only let those closest to me have an impact on me...again I have a totally different mindset and outlook on life.

Think of me what you like, I don't care what you think of me and you telling me I'm bad for the profession means absolute nothing to me, because your just a total stranger.

I dont have to give chapter and verse on chnage management like you have chosen to or quote the whole process and explain it, you wanna judge me by my comments thats okay u can do that

End of the day u can't argue that people have to eventually accept the change that is the whole premise of chnage management taking them on the journey through the curve with the end goal being they accept the new change

Thats what we do as chnage managers mange the transition of change.

In this personal situation I think 5 .onths of being told keep your distance and also local.lockdowns will happen is plenty of messages for people to start to absorb and accept this new normal...you disagree ....thats okay you can disagree..but I don't then call you a bad at your profession just because you think its something people will take longer to accept whereas I think differently

Noone dying has ever said I'm so glad I spent yesterday being upset and crying...anything to happen to us at any moment so I'd rather move on quickly and stay happy and so that is why I have said what I've said. You don't have to agree with me cos ull evidently not think this way.

Professional offence is entirely different to personal offence, I assure you.

Eid Mubarak to you OP.

I'm sorry, and seeing our children disappointed really stings.

Ps I am not going to say sorry but, then blah blah on about Christmas.

*There is overwhelmingly more sympathy on the thread re people who chose to go on holiday to Spain and now have to quarantine/lose money than there is for the OP.

If MN is representative of society as a whole, it really doesn’t take much to scratch the surface pretence of “tolerance” does it.*

This is so true. There's a very unpleasant undertone to some of the posts on here. Even though I think the decision was probably the right one, ithat doesn't stop me from feeling very sad for all the people who've had one of their biggest family and religious occasions cancelled at such short notice. It was announced far too late.

However, you're all BVU. I really fancy a biryani now!

Nothing is fair these days

Has it ever been?

My mother's response to me or my siblings wailing "It's not fair!" was always "Life isn't fair."

I guess the short notice could be because they were hoping that EID go ahead unrestricted , but things grew too quickly to allow that to happen

It was to make sure people spent the money on it as planned!!!

Hahah @Extracurricularfatigue but still I wouldnt never be professionally offended by a total stranger mkainf personal comments on social media whose experience and record I do not know about.

Jusf because I have a different outlook on life i leave that at the door when I go work.

So OP was in my professional setting my response would be different obviously but this is social media platform not a professional platform so I can speak freely and in accordance to my personal mindsef and outlook on life.

Again i don't judge you on your professional life i know nothing of it or your achievements nor do I care. You choose to let a stranger offens you professionally...OK....i choose to never let what a stranger says ever affect me...

Enjoy your professionally offended moment

My mother's response to me or my siblings wailing "It's not fair!" was always "Life isn't fair.

A wise woman, your mother.

There is no pandemic any more.
10 people died with Covid in the last week.
More people died of flu, cancer, heart failure.
Lockdowns are unnecessary.

www.spiked-online.com/2020/07/31/the-lockdown-has-caused-a-humanitarian-tragedy/

Eid Mubarak @mediciempire (although you make have left the thread)

Even if it had been reasonable to give such little notice - and I don’t think it was - it’s still really sad that your celebrations are impacted, and especially that your child is so understandably upset. to her and you.

*cyclingmad

And yet you reply at length to Extra. You’ve re explained your opinion at length to everyone on the thread. Repeatedly.

Not the actions of someone who “doesn’t let strangers on the internet bother them”.

@smileeachday just like government has to repeat things at length all the time, because people dont listen. And just because I respond to someone calling me a cunt or scum or professionally wrong doesn't mean I'm showing I'm bothered, I'm just explaining again why I disagree with their comment

I'm not the saying I'm offended or taking what other people have said personally to heaet enough to say in offended.

cyclingmad

There are definitely similarities between you and the government, you’re absolutely right.

@RabbityMcRabbit, I don't have an issue with Eid, Easter, the Tooth Fairy or any of it.

I muse on the massive increase in commercialism around these festivities. What was once , until recently ,a measured and largely somber and contemplative time ( Easter) is now a fun filled time for one and all.

Gosh, terrible to think today the vanquishing of death should be a time for fun and celebration.

@Bravefarts

Gosh, terrible to think today the vanquishing of death should be a time for fun and celebration.

Well I don’t really understand the post above yours

Easter sunday has always been a Day of celebration in my house

We had a nice high tea (still do) easter eggs AND an easter present (a book)

[quote randomer]@RabbityMcRabbit, I don't have an issue with Eid, Easter, the Tooth Fairy or any of it.

I muse on the massive increase in commercialism around these festivities. What was once , until recently ,a measured and largely somber and contemplative time ( Easter) is now a fun filled time for one and all.[/quote]
Well then don't join in but stop preaching to everyone else!

cyclingmad you framed your post from your professional viewpoint which is why I picked up on it. You seem rather defensive. Perhaps you’re aware that you’ve not offered the best side of yourself in your professional capacity?

While I would agree that ultimately change management is getting people to accept change, I think we differ enormously on the way to get there. I invest a huge amount, and ensure that my team do also, in people-centred change, which offers benefits for both my organisation and the staff within it. My professional success has been due to the importance I place on this, plus CPD on the latest thinking, and links within the professional change community, which is also strongly people-centred. I take enormous pride in the way I work and the value that it brings.

I offered my opinion on the Government’s Comms approach because I disagree entirely with your view that a clear, consistent message has been provided.

I wouldn’t say by the way that I’ve quoted ‘chapter and verse’ and I’m amused that you said that. I referred to one extremely well known change theory and explained some basics of communication. I wouldn’t see that as a particularly academic or thorough representation of change management knowledge.

How horrible you are, I'm not preaching. I am sharing my thoughts which I feel are just as valid as anybody elses.

I think festivals which were simple and meaningful have turned into something else for some people I think we should be mindful of our consumption.

@randomer

How horrible you are, I'm not preaching. I am sharing my thoughts which I feel are just as valid as anybody elses.

I think festivals which were simple and meaningful have turned into something else for some people I think we should be mindful of our consumption.

You're not just sharing your thoughts you're presenting them as fact.

If you want to think about your consumption then fine, perhaps "we" don't want to!

@Lunar567 where did you get that figure and what area does it relate please?

There is no pandemic any more.
10 people died with Covid in the last week.
More people died of flu, cancer, heart failure.

Today

@Extracurricularfatigue hah you make me laugh, its really amusing.

I've never framed my posts from a professional capacity, I never started my posts say heg I'm a chnage manager and I think op your being unreasonable...nope, instead I've said she is placing blame in the wrong place, cases increasing amfoe qeeks yet lefs blame government. People need to accept that life has changed etc. That plentg of messages been given.

You think it's wrong they gave only hours notice, i say well its common sense that when cases have been rising and plentg of media messages for week that local lockdowns will happen doesnt take a genius to work out that a sudden restriction is fonna be in place. And how much notice is enough really? 6hrs? 24hrs? Days? Op would have still been pisssd off.

I'm not the one spouting my change mangement experience like you are. Your making it about a professional context hut this is a social media platform.about personal stuff ..this isn't a thread about change mangement where chnage professionals are coming on to discuss

And I'm far from defensive but hey you keep saying what you like and assuming I'm this that and other, as i said your a total strnager to me im not gonna care what u say nor waste time being defensive

Bet u feel good though throwing your profession weight around..look at me how experienced I am over you lol its pathetic esp on a thread topic that isn't about change management in a professional context

Enjoy your evening feeling empowered for displaying such professional machismo on how great you are...to total stranger who doesn't even care esp when on the Internet anyone can say anything and pretend to be anything

I haven't read past the first page of replies.

I think it's scary how quickly the rules changed OP and feel for you. I wouldnt want it to happento our family even on a normal day so it's harder on Eid.

I think you have every right to be sad. But at the same time it is what it is. I hope you had a lovely day and your dd is feeling a bit better? I think we have more of this to come. Hopefully when things ease up make the most of those moments as who knows when this happen again.