Someone just congratulated me on my non existent pregnancy

[TerracottaTortoise]

God this is embarrassing. Just out for a walk (working up to couch to 5k following a severe depression that left me housebound for months and months) and a complete stranger got my attention, rubbed their belly and said "not long now" followed by a thumbs up and a rocking baby action.

I could have died on the spot.

I recently posted here about how self conscious I felt about exercising in public and was really trying to embrace the 'not giving a shit' attitude that everyone encouraged me to do.

I already feel disgusting but this has really cemented how gross I must be.

AIBU to be hurt and upset by this or am I really THAT overweight that I look like I could pop out a child imminently?!

If it makes you feel better the same has happened to me. I felt really embarrassed. But I realised that person didn't mean to offend, he just was making conversation and got it wrong!

I don't think my post came out right. You have a bit of a tum because you are a human and not a doll. I think most people have. People can be slim everywhere else and have a tum too. However, that top probably makes it look bigger than it is in real life. This could even be magnified by the mirror angle and camera. This doesn't mean it is a big tum when you put it into perspective or that you should give two hoots anyway.

Oh, Op that must have felt horrible. What idiot would say that to an even obviously pregnant woman?? Op you DON'T look 9 months pregnant nor is your tummy huge at all. However, what you're wearing is SO unflattering. Tops like that are unfortunately only flattering on the very few women out there with washboard abs. I run but have terrible trouble getting a longer length, looser fitting top. Not everyone wants to wear a clingy, skintight top. All you need to do is find a looser fitting top, even a tunic style, put that ridiculous comment behind you and get out there. Good luck👍

My ex husband once congratulated someone on their pregnancy, and unfortunately she wasn't, but longed for children.

I did explain to him that unless he'd been told explicitly about a pregnancy or could see the baby crowning, it's best to not say anything.

I've had it done to me, more than once. I just look them dead in the eye and say I'm not with a sarcastic thanks at the end.

Also, everyone telling you how unflattering it is, who cares> It's the hottest day of the year, really nobody cares. I think you look fab.

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@PurpleSproutingSomething

Also, everyone telling you how unflattering it is, who cares> It's the hottest day of the year, really nobody cares. I think you look fab.

It is a really unflattering top though...In hotter weather floaty, looser clothes are cooler than a tight, clingy vest. Of course the op didn't look at all pregnant ut she asked for advice, which was given. Nobody criticised her body because the cause of the issue was not the op herself but the top. The op wants to feel more confident when she goes out to exercise so a more flattering top will help her confidence.

It's the top! A vest that stopped at the top of your hips, rather than going down do far would completely change the way the outfit looks.
Lots of empire waist top and dresses and high rise jeans here! My belly is a fucking state

It is a really unflattering top though...In hotter weather floaty, looser clothes are cooler than a tight, clingy vest

I don't bother with 'floaty' clothes because I find baggy stuff that wafts around, really irritating and impractical for when I' m moving about. I'm overweight and wearing an 'unflattering' top right now. Quite frankly I couldn't care less if someone looks at me and thinks that I'm a fashion disaster

There is no way that you pregnant at all, never mind ready to drop!! You have less of a belly than me or my 19 year old dd and we go out walking / pretending to do couch to 5k so don't let him put you off

*look

Another one saying it’s the top - I would have thought that as well, but sorry OP - it’s really the top that does you no favours.

This happened to me a few years ago, I was asked "whens it due?" by a woman who was sitting down serving me at a stall. I was so taken aback that I replied "oh not for a while yet" just as she looked up at my 55-year-old face! Needless to say I changed my mind about buying her homemade crap. I threw away the jumper I was wearing as soon as I got home.

OP I've also suffered with depression and I know how much a random comment from a stranger can knock you back. However you're doing great getting out and exercising. Put that idiot out of your mind and focus on your goals. And wear whatever the hell feels comfortable

Oh gosh OP my belly is much bigger than yours
All my extra weight is in my belly and some days I actually could pass for being 8m+ pregnant!
Try to let it get to you, that guy was an asshole for even commenting to a complete stranger like that. Sadly it happened to once of my old colleagues, we worked in a nursery shop and she was told “oh you’re working in the right place” with a reference to her bloated (non pregnant) belly

Oh OP I massively sympathise! This has happened to me more than once actually as I carry weight around my middle (have PCOS) but am not overweight overall. Im always astounded people mention it unless they are sure- I like the maxim of don’t assume pregnancy unless you can see the baby’s head emerging ! once a rather bitchy girl ‘congratulated’ me at a wedding and I was so upset the whole day. At the moment I AM actually pregnant with my second and it’s such a relief to not have to worry about how my belly looks to others. Your belly in the pics totally doesn’t look like you are in advanced pregnancy, and you should be able to wear whatever top you want to exercise of course. the first time I was asked if I was pregnant I was polite so they didn’t feel awkward but now I just make them feel awkward in the hope they won’t be so presumptuous as to ask someone else!

Wear a regular tee that isn't form fitting. You can do this!

People are soooooo rude. Ignore OP you look great.

Some people are just idiots. A colleague of mine is very athletic and slim. When she was nine months pregnant and skinny all over except for the bump and walking down the street, a man approached her and asked if she'd ever considered joining a gym and losing weight! I'm a size 8 and even I can get bloat and have the same sticking out stomach. It's really rude for anybody to comment and it shows he is the one with the problem.

I wouldn't say over weight as such. Your legs look lovely. I think it's more core exercises needed to streghten the abdominal muscles.

Mate these comments about your belly and your top are insane. You have a great figure and the top is fine - as long as it’s comfy and practical for what you needed it for. The stranger was so rude.