AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

[NotOdd]

Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

My mum always used to cook a sunday dinner when i lived at home.. it was tradition and my friends thought it was weird... but yeah too early for christmas lol! Especially with whats going on in the world at the moment unfortunately. Who knows, maybe another lockdown 😫 sorry to be a negative ninny x

Forgot to mention that we have ours at dinner time, not lunch, so we can still go out and do something in the morning if we want. I must be old fashioned though, because I often don't want to do much with friends etc on a Sunday as I see it as rest and family time before the week starts. Grandparents and I think my mum still does, have it in the middle of the day though.

We have regular Sunday roasts. Come to think of it we have roast dinners on other days too if we fancy one. We also have pancakes and hot cross buns all year round too.

As for Xmas - while a bit of me envies the people that are so organised they have all their gifts wrapped by this time of year and plans in place, orders placed for meat, gifts etc there is nothing that could persuade me to actually do this. December is the earliest I will give it any thought. I have crap health now but when I was healthy and working there were a few years when I rushed out and did all the presents and food shopping Christmas Eve - most of our team had families, many of the opposite ends of this country or abroad, so more often than not me and one other team member would work those days (Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Boxing Day, most of that week then New Year's Eve and New Year - our clients were highly vulnerable and without us would have nowhere to turn at what is a difficult time of year for many...just for the record we did not have to do this as the agency was officially closed - we just provided some cover)

It might be OK for your boyfriend to disagree about roast dinners and Xmas plans, but calling you odd, not normal and from a “backward” part of the country is not OK, it is bloody rude and insulting.

We have Sunday dinner almost every week. We have it around 6pm as our DS works Sundays. I dont understand why it takes people all day to make it though? We tend to have it because it's easy to do (not lots of stirring every 5 mins etc). I'm following slimming world, so cook from scratch a lot, so there doesnt seem to be any more work with the veg than making a curry/cottage pie or whatever. I dont think folk are weird if they don't though.....it's none of my business what other folk do

I don’t think you’re odd or backward in any way at all.

I as a child growing up had Sunday roasts most Sunday’s, my parents still do most Sunday. Maybe not through summer or hot days though. We don’t have one religiously in my house but my kids do love a Sunday roast. If we don’t have one on a Sunday I will usually do one in the week for them. It’s just all the washing up I can’t stand .

As for Christmas, just no for me. Again, my daughter will start thinking about it early as she loves it all. But the planning and Christmas music will usually start In September for her. She’s a nutter lol.

But as a pp has previously said it’s just your way. We all do things differently. God how boring would life be if we were all the same.
Tell the bf to get a grip. Don’t let him change you.

We have a Sunday roast. My husband does a corner.

Earliest I think of Christmas is November.

Nope - Sunday roast not a routine (the very idea of having an oven on for hours in this recent heatwave baffles me).
Christmas - nothing to discuss in July

We have a Sunday roast. My husband does a corner.

How do you do a corner of a roast? Do you cut it off so he can cook it in a separate oven?

I had to eat roasts every Sunday as a child, and they were vile. Dry meat & overcooked vegetables and a mountain of washing-up for my brother & me. They were part of the misery of Sundays in the seventies.

Although I will occasionally have a roast now (I'm not much of a cook but I'm a hundred times better than my mother), I wouldn't regard them as an exclusively Sunday thing. The thought of having the same meal on the same day every week makes me shudder.

I refuse to think about Christmas before November.

We generally have something with gravy on a Sunday, not always a roast though. Sometimes it’s steak pie, sometimes cottage pie.

I’ve started Christmas planning for present ideas for my kids.

I like to be organised 🤷🏻‍♀️

Corner, not corner.

CORKER,

I always had a roast dinner on a Sunday growing up in the 80s but don't know anyone who does it weekly now so it's something I would consider old fashioned.

Christmas plans should not be considered until November. Maybe October if people need to make travel plans. It's one day - it does not take six months of prep.

The issue here is your boyfriend's an arse.

But yes I do neither of those things.

I have a roast dinner once a year, at Christmas. The thought of eating one weekly makes me want to lie down and die of boredom and despair. No Christmas plans made yet – generally don't think about it until October ish, but especially this year, how can anyone make a plan?

Doesn't make you odd, though, just different. I had a boyfriend once who thought everything my family and I did was "odd" – not having the TV on during meals, sitting down to eat even when it wasn't a cooked dinner but picnicy foods, literally everything, I was the "odd" one. For my final oddity, I dumped him.

I probably have roast twice a year. Sundays are for going out or being lazy at home. Definitely not for slaving in the kitchen.

Christmas has been vaguely discussed as I have to fly to see my family.

Each to their own. We do Sunday lunch sometimes and if I’m visiting parents we definitely do a big Sunday lunch.... but Sunday lunch aside.... unless this is in jest (if so not very funny) calling your home region backwards, calling you odd and not like most people is rather rude, beside does he know everyone to make sweeping comments like ‘most people’

I think that Christmas plans aren’t really that wild considering the amount of people who request leave over that period. If you waited until December to book and organise leave and have some form of plan in place with family - everyone would’ve probably already organised their plans. If you want to go away over Christmas you need to book months in advance for example. It’s hardly like you’re decking the halls
As for the roast - it’s traditional for many people but kind of dwindling due to the modern family dynamic of people not spending much time together. I think it’s great that you have something regular that you like to do every week. It’s not ‘odd’ at all.

I think that a lot of people don't have regular Sunday roasts anymore.
But my family always arrange Christmas well in advance. It is usually agreed who will host the next Christmas at the one before. So a year in advance.

we have a sunday roast most sundays

But its a cheat one - breaded chicken piece and then rest is frozen (yorkshires/parsnips/potatoes) add gravy and peas. takes not much time as all just in oven together.

Xmas, we may make plans around now, work out with my parents who they are seeing out of me or my sister. no more planning than that.

Sunday roast is a staple in our house with the exception of summer and we are already discussing Christmas plans both at home and at work.

(We live in a town 40 mins outside London so not a back water.)

Usually I start looking at Christmas party venues for work at this time because if you've not booked by September all the best options are gone. I also organise our Halloween and bonfire night plans by the end of September.

I organise my entire (packed) social calendar well in advance so it's affordable: Valentine's Day is booked beginning of Jan as is our Wedding Anniversary in March and so it goes on.

My DD is 15 in October and that is already booked and organised and we've already decided we're not entertaining in our usual fashion over Christmas if Covid is in full swing but my work party will be at mine.... I'm not concerned about social distancing for that as we all share an office and we're all screened weekly.

It's not about being backwards, it's about being organised and how you are raised. It seems to me there is an element of jealousy there, either way he is being rude so tell him to pack it in and get some manners.

burnoutbabe: I don't think many people on here would describe breaded chicken in the oven as a roast, even a cheat one, just because you put some frozen roast potatoes with it and some instant gravy. So no wonder it doesnt take any time or effort, it's virtually the same as putting a frozen pizza in in terms of effort.

Love how so many of us on this thread seems to be obsessed wtih roast dinners, even though we all deny having them regularly.

Half of the roast dinners on this thread aren’t roast dinners. Lasagne, not a roast dinner, fajitas, not a roast dinner, breaded chicken, not a roast dinner. The concept of sitting together as a family and eating is the same, but they’re not roast dinners!

A roast dinner must have roasted meat (joint or portions or a chicken), roast spuds and various vegetables. Anything less is not a roast dinner.

@maddiemookins16mum

A roast dinner must have roasted meat (joint or portions or a chicken), roast spuds and various vegetables. Anything less is not a roast dinner.

And Yorkshire's

We sorted out Christmas the minute our guests left last year. They weren’t very nice so we won’t be having them again this year.