AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

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Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

We have a roast most Sundays but not every Sunday.

I start saving for xmas in January and making plans for who is coming around now so I can budget for how much I need to spend on food - for us Christmas doesn’t happen overnight (although I’m sure hubby thinks santa literally sorts it all out xmas Eve)

So no you are not odd

We have a roast every Sunday. DH works all week , and misses the DC, they will normally be asleep when he gets back. Sunday lunch is our time to sit around the table and catch up. We all look forward to it. I start thinking about Christmas in November.

I'm with you OP - I have roast on Sundays, cold on Mondays.

We have more roasts dinners in the winter (on a Sunday) and yes we would invite mum and weather permitting have a bbq instead and would invite friends/family.

We have discussed Christmas between us but not asked anyone yet, we’ll wait until at least August! 😂
My sister in law will not discuss Christmas this earlier because she hasn’t had her birthday and then when we do discuss it she’s fully booked! 🤨 they’re clearly from a ‘backward part of the world!’ 😂

But with covid19 goodness know what we’ll be doing!

Definitely strange. I'm guessing you're from Norfolk?

Ex mil was like that too.

How random that someone who said they live in scotland had never heard of a sunday roast till they moved to england. Im also from scotland(near edinburgh) and have literally had a roast every sunday growing up, even though now i have my own place i dont have one often but i think people are weird for saying that its strange that people have them, everyone is different.

I love a roast but my teenagers (grown ups officially) pretty much grabbed their food and ran so I gave up. I know lots of people who do though.
And I Asked teens already to spend Christmas with me this year as grandparents and family gatherings will most likely be out the window this Christmas so I want their company. So I don’t think you’re strange at all.

We often have a roast for evening meal on Sunday so we can do our days out or whatever and still have a roast.
I’d live to have one every Sunday lunchtime but I also (especially in warmer months) like going out for family days. Our way you get both!

Sunday roast is great. Could be lunch or dinner though. Not odd.

Organising Christmas now is reasonable if there is international travel, but over the top if you’re all relatively local. Not odd for international, bit odd for local family.

I would have thought risky organising international travel for 5 months time seeing what has happened in Spain.

We never have a roast on a Sunday & whilst I start shopping for Xmas presents early, no arrangements will be made till early to mid December

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I would have thought risky organising international travel for 5 months time seeing what has happened in Spain.

Yes it’s risky, but some are prepared to take a risk. My in laws live in Spain and were due to visit next week, but obviously can’t now. They’ve rearranged for October half term, and have also booked (today!) to come over at Christmas. If they can’t come for whatever reason, they’ll rearrange again.

I wouldn't say odd. We don't have a roast every sunday but I would say maybe once a month. My in laws have a roast every sunday though.

I started making Christmas plans a few weeks ago. This is partly because this is the first time I won't be going to my mum's house in 35 years, so I wanted to get her used to the idea early. Also I want to start shopping soon, partly in case there's another lockdown and partly to spread the cost. I have booked tickets for a Christmas event at a local NT place, which was nearly sold out so clearly we're not the only ones thinking about Christmas!

We have a roast every Sunday though I haven't started thinking about Christmas, have booked a few days away for NYE if that counts...
I'm Welsh so perhaps from what your cosmopolitan bf would describe as from a 'backwards' area op!

I haven't read the whole thread as it's too long but I'm assuming by backwards part of the country you mean here in the west.
I do occasionally have a roast on Sunday (usually pub) but Christmas in July? Nooo Christmas shopping starts in December in this house and I don't give it any thought until then.

I’ve never done Sunday roast or a fancy meal on a Sunday. It’s just another day for us. We have however thought about Christmas as there is 14 of us for Christmas this year we need to book something pronto. Will be booking Christmas meal in the next few weeks. We always book Christmas in July/August

We have a roast most sundays as sometimes it’s the only proper time to all eat and be together. Bit early to be thinking about Christmas though

I have a Sunday dinner every week - or I did pre covid where we’d eat at my grandparents and the whole family went - not always a roast though!

No to Christmas though!

Ha... everyone seems odd to other people in some way... no I wouldn’t do either of these things but have friends who do... those choices would probably be the least odd things we’d see in each other ....

Not odd at all IMO.
We have Sunday lunch every week, again give or take days out etc. It’s not even discussed, when I sort the weekly meal plan it’s just a given that that’s what we are having.

Christmas.... again, not odd at all. I’ve always been super organised with it and it absolutely pays off. We have already sorted what we doing/who we are seeing on and around Christmas, I have started buying for DS and have a list on the go for others so I have months to listen out for hints or things they like etc. My shopping will be done and wrapped by end of November then it means I get a stress free December full of Christmassy days out and no hustle and bustle in stores!

Tell your BF it’s called ‘organised’ not ‘odd’

We live in quite a tourist-y place and far away from family so have started thinking about Christmas in terms of visitors who need to book accommodation, and which days that will leave to go and visit other relatives.

Roast dinners are an any day event here, usually every week but necessarily a Sunday

Yank here. We celebrate Thanksgiving & Christmas (& Easter of course) together as an extended family.
For Thanksgiving, we have roast turkey. For Christmas, we have roast prime rib (rib of beef to you in the UK perhaps?).
It’s not something we think about in July because it’s tradition - just something we do every year, and something we look forward to.
Closer to the event, we’re more concerned about the number of people attending.

I start Christmas planning January 1st ...🤷🏼‍♀️

Why?

Op if making a roast every Sunday makes you happy then it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Especially if it helps you feel more connected with your Mum.

My Dad used to do the best roasts. Mine (and anybody else’s) could never meet up to his standard imo. So I don’t bother. Plus I’m veggie these days. I do have lovely memories of sitting round a table all together enjoying his amazing cooking though.