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To worry when 10yr DD went for an early run alone

574 replies

BelleBoyd · 27/07/2020 08:02

My DD woke me early this morning saying she was going for a run and left. She kept to our road and was back in half hour. Is this ok? Just seems unusual behaviour? She hasn’t done this before and doesn’t run usually as a sport.

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MahaMoon · 27/07/2020 09:21

@ArriettyJones

The number of posters who have gone immediately to insisting the DD is being “coached to say X” or “groomed” or is obviously being “deceitful”...Dear god.

Agreed. Says more about them really. Shockingly even kids say they’re doing something and then actually do it!

vitals · 27/07/2020 09:25

The OP said:

I got up obs though and saw her running back down the street.

So, she didn't see which way she went when she left the house, and her DD didn't tell anyone which way she was going or for how long.

For me, that's a big problem with a 10 year old.

AudacityOfHope · 27/07/2020 09:25

@Rhine

Still fast asleep at 7.30am OP, really? That’s late for most people on a weekday.

Seems a pretty lame excuse for not getting up to see what she was doing.

What sanctimonious bollocks. It's the summer holidays you misery.

RiftGibbon · 27/07/2020 09:26

My 9.5 is quite impulsive and would say something like this our of the blue - but, if I said 'no', or 'wait' then that would have curtailed any going off alone.

MMN123 · 27/07/2020 09:26

Maybe she’s gained a little weight in lockdown and wants to shift it. Ten doesn’t seem too young to run up and down the street outside your own house! Maybe she was feeling bad last night or this morning and resolved to get going - hence the early morning enthusiasm. I really don’t see anything sinister here.

SauvignonBlanketyBlank · 27/07/2020 09:31

I think its great she can be bothered to move before 8am let alone run.Good for her.

Frazzled2207 · 27/07/2020 09:31

If she really is running I’d encourage but tell her she needs to ask not tell in advance and be clear about exactly where she is going. Offer to get her some proper “Kit” if she keeps it up.

To the poster that thought 7.30 is late for a weekday. Kids are off school (obviously) and I’m a sahm, dh wfh- sorry to tell you that nobody was awake before 8.30 in this house this morning.

museumum · 27/07/2020 09:32

I think it’s good tbh but I’d open an ongoing dialogue about it now just to check that it’s a healthy coping strategy and doesn’t become obsessive or compulsive.
I’d chat about how she felt before and after. Hopefully she was antsy before and calmer after. If you get any sense she’s running to punish herself or out of a feeling she “must” for any reason then I’d worry.
Also obviously talk about routes and geographic boundaries but it sounds like she was sensible staying in the street.

BertiesLanding · 27/07/2020 09:32

Personally, I think it sounds absolutely fine.

Thesearmsofmine · 27/07/2020 09:33

I think if you can see her going up and down the street that’s fine but I would say to her about letting you know in a better way instead of waking you up and bolting like that.

I would keep an eye on her in general if it is very out of character just incase it is a symptom of something else.

Also 7.30 is not particularly late to get up, we have young dc and were up at 9 today, one dc is still fast asleep.

museumum · 27/07/2020 09:33

This might be an interesting link to an organisation teaching children to use movement for positive mental health www.stormbreak.org.uk/

Iwalkinmyclothing · 27/07/2020 09:33

I'd be miffed she hadn't talked to me about it beforehand simply because I prefer to know what a 10 year old is up to with more warning than an early morning "I'm off for a run see ya". But unless there were other worries in my head about her body image etc overall I'd be quite pleased and would hope the motivation to get up early and exercise would rub off on me :)

Cheeseybites · 27/07/2020 09:36

@Rhine
I have 2 young dc and I'm just waking up now.. how does that make you feel???

user1487194234 · 27/07/2020 09:37

Seems fine to me
She's 10 not 2

GabriellaMontez · 27/07/2020 09:38

Just woken up. Still in bed. Kids asleep. Judge me. @Rhine

BlingLoving · 27/07/2020 09:39

I think the 7 am running our of the blue is weird, but the fact that shew as doing it up and down your street leads me to think this really is just her trying to burn off some energy. Maybe she watched a youtube video or something about running?

Certainly, I'd let DS go for a run if he asked. But I would expect some notice and there'd be clear guidelines about how long he can go for, where he can go etc.

NC4Now · 27/07/2020 09:39

Is she missing Joe Wicks?
Best thing is to ask her if she felt better for her run. She might tell you then if she has built up nervous energy or whatever.
I wouldn’t stop her though. At 10 she just needs to know the boundaries (eg no further than the corner shop) and to tell you where she’s going and when she’ll be back.

xolotltezcatlopoca · 27/07/2020 09:41

My dc is an early riser, I used to be too, but getting a bit slack.
He became slightly chubby during lock down, and one day demanded me to get up to go for run in the park with him 7 in the morning. I'd rather wanted him to go on his own. Only lasted few days though.

ILikeGinAndCake · 27/07/2020 09:43

I’d chat about how she felt before and after. Hopefully she was antsy before and calmer after. If you get any sense she’s running to punish herself or out of a feeling she “must” for any reason then I’d worry.

This thread is bizarre, does no one on here exercise? If my mum wanted to discuss my feelings before and after going for a run I'd have laughed her out the door. Is doing a bit of exercise so off the wall that people must assume there is an issue? It really is bizarre. Child wants to exercise "omg drugs" "compulsive behaviour" "grooming" stop her!!!

Rather than "great my child is taking an interest in exercise, let's encourage it".

Jeremyironsnothing · 27/07/2020 09:45

I've only just woken up too. Shame on me

pandafunfactory · 27/07/2020 09:45

The op could see the kid running up and down the street. I think this is an example of a child wanting to be grown up and doing what grown ups do. I think it's rather sweet. She was back in 1/2 hour,clearly being an adult wasn't that much fun
Yes we should keep an eye on behaviour and on over exercising in particular but this sounds very innocent.

moveandmove · 27/07/2020 09:46

No way would I allow this. I ran competitively for years and would always tell someone my planned route. I know a lot of runners that have been hit by cars, fallen over, got injured, felt ill etc so to me it's very important that someone always knows where a runner is going so you can go and collect them if needed.

strawberrymilkshakemonkey · 27/07/2020 09:48

honestly i don't see the issue at all, why are people so flabberghasted at a sporty girl going on an early run??? loads of adult runners go out before work at 6am or earlier. clearly she is running not doing anything suspicious, as OP saw her running up the street. 10 is not too young to be going out on your own for a 30 minute period, especially if it's a safe area without too much traffic or dangerous areas. clearly she just fancied some exercise and wanted to get going quickly. i really don't see the issue at all .

xolotltezcatlopoca · 27/07/2020 09:49

moveandmove, the op's dd is running up and down the street they live in, and op can see her.

PamDenick · 27/07/2020 09:49

Good for her!
Sounds a great idea.

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