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To worry when 10yr DD went for an early run alone

574 replies

BelleBoyd · 27/07/2020 08:02

My DD woke me early this morning saying she was going for a run and left. She kept to our road and was back in half hour. Is this ok? Just seems unusual behaviour? She hasn’t done this before and doesn’t run usually as a sport.

OP posts:
PablosHoney · 28/07/2020 21:31

Like the Fritzls 😉

SignOnTheWindow · 28/07/2020 21:31

@Rhine

Still fast asleep at 7.30am OP, really? That’s late for most people on a weekday.

Seems a pretty lame excuse for not getting up to see what she was doing.

FFS. Yes - some people are still fast asleep at 7.30am. Why the hell shouldn't they be?
Nicknacky · 28/07/2020 21:33

midnightstar66 To be fair, she didn’t say her kids could definitely go at age 17/18, just that’s when she would consider it ok!

midnightstar66 · 28/07/2020 21:40

@Nicknacky and she also said 'post' so potentially that could be 25. Oh and after being kept awake through the night by wind I woke at 10.30 today. Both dc had got up and got breakfast!

PablosHoney · 28/07/2020 21:41

😂😂 Good kids 👍

Deadposhtory · 28/07/2020 21:46

How I'd love my 10 year old dd to get up early and go for a runWink

HalfTermHalfTerm · 28/07/2020 21:50

You were half asleep?! ...... she’s 10! Who is the parent?! Sometimes i wonder on MN!!!

Do you have some sort of spidey sense that means you automatically wake up before your children do? Confused

The average 10 year old should be perfectly capable of entertaining themselves for a bit if they happen to wake up before their parents.

Pandacub7 · 28/07/2020 22:48

@Bateshotel be careful with strict parenting. I was allowed to go to gigs in Manchester and Liverpool with friends (no adults) from the age of 14. We travelled by train. Also allowed to go to parties. Parents trusted me and my friends.

Those with strict parents? They rebelled and were so secretive. I never felt the need to go to sketchy areas and do drugs, but these kids did. They didn’t have the best relationship with their parents and never felt like they could tell them anything.

I can’t believe you won’t let your children go out with friends until they’re 17!

Busymum45 · 28/07/2020 23:02

Very odd, you just went back to sleep?!

DownstairsMixUp · 28/07/2020 23:20

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WhenCoronaWasALager · 28/07/2020 23:28

Is she anxious about Covid? There's lots in the news atm about losing weight and cycling etc. Maybe have a chat about how unlikely it is at her age to be badly affected by it. I'd also be a bit worried about whether it is part of a diet.

jessstan2 · 28/07/2020 23:32

[quote midnightstar66]@PablosHoney I can only imagine that's what it would feel like when being kept home in the garden for years 😆[/quote]
Yeah, I'd be bitten and end up looking like a gnome.

Canihaveafairygodmotherpls · 29/07/2020 00:02

I was wondering about whether she has any body image anxieties and if it could possibly be linked to that. I think going for a run is a perfectly reasonable thing for a child her age to want to do. It's the impulsiveness and irregular behaviour that made me wonder.

avamiah · 29/07/2020 00:09

Pandacub7
I agree with you 100 percent .
I was a only child and my mother never let me breath when I was growing up, she read my diary and even followed me when I was 16 and I couldn’t wait to leave home.
These memories always stay with you.
I’m 48 now with a daughter of 10 and I speak openly to her and she tells me everything, so I hope this continues .

caringcarer · 29/07/2020 00:26

7.30am is not late to be sleeping in school holidays. Unless small children would not not be up until 8.30am myself. Running up and down the street is fine but she should ask permission not tell you her plans and just go. My 14 year old goes for a run but would not get up this early to go and always asks if it is ok to go for a run around lake. It is a couple of miles and he is back in 12 or 13 mins.

Frokni · 29/07/2020 07:30

Maybe she has gone to help out a friend who was up to something? Might not just be her going to meet a stranger but is still dangerous I'd say.

MsTSwift · 29/07/2020 07:36

Drug running
Grooming gangs
Eating disorders

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Or active 10 year old inspired by couch to 5k (know my year sixer was doing this at school pre lockdown)

Turquoise123 · 29/07/2020 08:22

Lots of 10 year olds run and 7.30 not really early for a run. If it’s a safe area good for her - maybe try to find her a running buddy ?

Michellelovesizzy · 29/07/2020 08:23

If u saw her running up and down ur street then its fine.... kids do odd things and we r in odd times. X

loungewearisthewaytogo · 29/07/2020 08:29

@Rhine

Still fast asleep at 7.30am OP, really? That’s late for most people on a weekday.

Seems a pretty lame excuse for not getting up to see what she was doing.

🙄 I was still fast asleep at 7.30am, good on OP is what I say, take the lie in's when you can get them.

As far as DD goes - if you could see her running up and down then I don't see a problem, I'd just want to keep an eye on her while she did it, which it sounds like you did X

Kimbob33 · 29/07/2020 10:47

Has nobody been watching the news lately? The Boris making Britain fit thing??? Maybe she has and decided to crack on with it.

Honestly, has this pandemic created a nation of idiots or were they always here!

I say good for her. I wish my kids were up at that time, doing something constructive.

Oh and I was up at 6.30am. So does that make me a better parent? Ridiculous comment that was! I’m staggered by the idiocy of some of these brainless comments!!!!

Teddybear27 · 29/07/2020 11:10

I would be suspicious..... what if she went out the door and you never saw her again? 🤷🏻‍♀️

honeybee88 · 29/07/2020 11:34

I would not let a 10 year old out of my sight! This is how a friends child got into drugs. Got lured into taking it to start with then went out for jogs to collect daily 'dose'. At 12 years old! Sorry but as long as children live at home, they should adhere to the rules you lay down. You could of course offer to go for run with her. I am not saying there is anything wrong here but straightaway my alarmbells were ringing cos of my friend. Could be perfectly innocent but you should have your' eyes wide open. '

Ihaventgottimeforthis · 29/07/2020 11:46

Jogging is a gateway drug?!

I'm loving this thread.

TheOrigBrave · 29/07/2020 12:01

@Ihaventgottimeforthis

Jogging is a gateway drug?!

I'm loving this thread.

Ha ha, it's true! When our club runs around town we can often smell weed.

So, we all run back, smoke a few spliffs, next thing you know we're shooting heroin.