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To worry when 10yr DD went for an early run alone

574 replies

BelleBoyd · 27/07/2020 08:02

My DD woke me early this morning saying she was going for a run and left. She kept to our road and was back in half hour. Is this ok? Just seems unusual behaviour? She hasn’t done this before and doesn’t run usually as a sport.

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Toomuchtrouble4me · 29/07/2020 12:12

I can’t see a problem really - so long as she’s dressed appropriately. Kids get whims, mine are suddenly into badminton. Encourage it - great todos morning run, esp if she can do 15 mins before school - great for the brain. She sounds like a great independent kid.
She’ll be at secondary school next year and all over the place alone.

isabellerossignol · 29/07/2020 12:12

I don't know whether to laugh or cry at this thread, and the world has gone so mad that I no longer know if people are taking the piss or not.

Toomuchtrouble4me · 29/07/2020 12:21

Vinomummyinlockdown

You were half asleep?! ...... she’s 10! Who is the parent?! Sometimes i wonder on MN!!!

I’m often up after mine during holidays - in fact I LOVED it when they first started getting cereal and putting TV on for themselves on a Saturday - blissful lie in. If they need me they’ll wake me!
Sleeping until you wake naturally is divine - Although by your name I guess you have other ways of coping!

honeybee88 · 29/07/2020 14:20

How do a young person collect their daily drug 'dose'? They need an excuse to go out to pick it up from their dealer. Sorry but this is 2020 and things are not what they used to be.

Susan1961 · 29/07/2020 14:23

My friend's daughter used to, probably still does, like going out for early morning walks, she's an artist and appreciates nature.

Nicknacky · 29/07/2020 15:37

honeybee88 Haha you nearly had me going for a minute!

PablosHoney · 29/07/2020 16:56

Wtf 😂😂😂

SisterAgatha · 29/07/2020 16:58

I know this sounds out of the blue but I did think when I was 10. I left my mum a note explaining and when I got back she was still asleep and had rolled over on to it so it was all crumpled.

Not good.

anon5000 · 29/07/2020 17:03

@honeybee88

How do a young person collect their daily drug 'dose'? They need an excuse to go out to pick it up from their dealer. Sorry but this is 2020 and things are not what they used to be.
😂😂
MsTSwift · 29/07/2020 17:05

Is that drug dealer message a joke do you think?!

anon5000 · 29/07/2020 17:07

@MsTSwift

Is that drug dealer message a joke do you think?!
I bloody hope so.
MsTSwift · 29/07/2020 17:10

Me too or that poster is actually insane. Have they ever met a 10 year old?!

anon5000 · 29/07/2020 17:11

Well tbf most of this thread is insane.

Lifeisabeach09 · 29/07/2020 17:21

A 10 year old should not just decide she is going out, out of the blue, and then just disappear out the door.

Agree with this-I'd be having serious words with my DD (same age) if she did this. But as for it being random-my DD gets it into her head to try new things out of blue-usually inspired by YouTube.
I would not have a problem with my DD going for a run solo but I'd need notice and to be able to watch her from a window, at the very least.

SisterAgatha · 29/07/2020 17:56

Should also qualify that I grew up during the time of just calling “I’m playing out” and you’d go out and either come home for dinner or call from whoever’s house you were playing at that their mum was doing you dinner.

I’m 39 so I suppose those days are passed and they probably weren’t very PC back then either:

I went out for a run because mr motivator had been on or something.

waterlego · 29/07/2020 18:09

How do a young person collect their daily drug 'dose'? They need an excuse to go out to pick it up from their dealer. Sorry but this is 2020 and things are not what they used to be.

This is absurd. Everyone knows dealers don’t start trading until at least midday.

jessstan2 · 29/07/2020 18:19

@avamiah

Pandacub7 I agree with you 100 percent . I was a only child and my mother never let me breath when I was growing up, she read my diary and even followed me when I was 16 and I couldn’t wait to leave home. These memories always stay with you. I’m 48 now with a daughter of 10 and I speak openly to her and she tells me everything, so I hope this continues .
Did we have the same mum?

I couldn't wait to leave home too!

jessstan2 · 29/07/2020 18:27

@Duemarch2021

Also... everyone saying she was just in her Street. No she wasnt. The OP said she stuck to the road and was back in 30 mins... she must have ran far to be back in 30 mins
Depends how long the road is and how fast she runs.

My road is approximately 2.4 miles, it goes from one borough to another and has traffic lights in the middle with five roads interconnecting.

ghostmous3 · 29/07/2020 21:37

I'm laughing at the 7.30 am call social services poster

I dont go to sleep until 12 or 1 am, always been the same. Normally awake at half 7 is but omg shoot me I didnt wake up until 9am the other day. I'm not working at the moment, dont start my new job till end aug so I'm going to enjoy my time in bed
Dd is 10 but isnt awake until 8 ish herself
Dd2 is 13, maybe I need to hold her hand in the mornings, shes awake around 7

You do read some crap on mumsnet

But I must admit I would feel a bit uneasy about dd10 going out so early..she just watches a bit of telly if shes up early

terrimom · 30/07/2020 01:54

I'm torn on your question and surprised so many on mn think she was up to something/meeting someone. It's been a few years since I had a 10 year old so maybe I'm used to older kids coming and going at will. Do you check who she is is contact with online? That would be my biggest concern (that someone older could be coaxing her to meet up without parental knowledge). Or that she has joined an extreme diet group that encourages drastic weight loss (anorexia groups that encourage not eating /extreme exercise are all over the internet). Keep communication open with her and set up some rules about going out / asking permission, etc that would apply across a variety of circumstances. Good luck the teen years are not far off!

CouldBeOuting · 30/07/2020 08:26

@Bateshotel I’m amazed at your rules!

At 13 I had a paper round before school, at 16 had a Saturday job, At 17 I had a full time job and commuted into London. At 19 I had a house and a mortgage!

At 16 our DD went on holiday, by coach, with friends the same age, to Scotland, at 18 she inter railed around Europe before moving away for university.

DS has SEN and part of his “therapy” involved actively encouraging him to leave the house alone from 11 (he would have been allowed before but didn’t), to go to shops on his own etc. his specialist doctor described these sorts of things as “essential life skills”.

@BelleBoyd. OP I think it’s great that your daughter went for a run, the only issue was that she didn’t wait when you told her to but I would have encouraged the running!

mikulkin · 30/07/2020 23:42

This thread is insane but my favourite part was when OP was judged for being fast asleep at 7:30 on a weekday. I work full time and given that I have to do it from home now due to COVID I take advantage and wake up at 8:45 to start at 9... I am more than fast asleep at 7:30 - it is practically still night for me...

MitziK · 31/07/2020 00:30

I had similar rules to Bates' kids.

Got together with the first boy who liked me at college, largely because he had a car and that was my ticket to freedom.

The day I turned 18, I moved out to live with him. Shit idea, but it was that or go back to house arrest.

BadLad · 31/07/2020 08:29

Bloody hell, the Mumsnet overreactors got their teeth into this thread.

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