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problem neighbours

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Hamilton18 · 24/07/2020 21:49

I thought i would write on here as i feel so wound up and frustrated by my neighbours. First, I bought a really lovely 3 bed semi in a nice area but due to builders having to make 10% of estate social housing, i live next door on one side to social housing house. Also, backing onto my garden is a social housing block of six flats. Now I am not a snob or look down on people on benefits but i have had arguments with some of them as my house adjoins like 5 houses. sadly, the flats have two floors and the upper flats have a juliette balcony where the occupants lean out smoking and looking into my garden watching me like all day as they always seem to be home.

The woman behind me has attached loads of climbing plants and such to my fence( Ive checked my deeds so it is my responsibility) and has broken one of the slats. When i went around to talk to her about it and suggested that she should not attach anymore as the weight was too heavy and it was my fence, she became abusive shouting and swearing at me. So now I am trying to get a gardener in to fix it and i have to pay. Secondly, the man next door to her besides blasting music in his garden with speakers over 5 ft that he put outside in the garden, painted his side of my fence and dripped paint all over my newly over fence. I was so angry that i said very loudly and not politely how i felt. Then i awakened next morning to find the fence lifted up and stuck in the air and him just sitting there looking at me through my window. I went out to ask and he said he was trying to paint his shed so he had to lift the fence but would be done soon. i said ok and was reasonable even though i did mention about the paint. He apologised and i left at that.

Now my next door neighbour is a single mum that does not work and is always home with her 11 year old son. i get on with her but he kicks a football against my fence everyday and despite the force cracking the strengthening rod, footballs coming over everyday and the noise, i never complained. i have stopped sitting in the garden as you can't enjoy it with constant thud against the fence and being watched. well today i felt like i had enough and i was hanging out washing when he his football hit the fence so hard and i shouted for him to stop. His mum came out and we had a very loud shouting argument and i'm ashamed to say that i told her to f-off too. We have both apologised and have tried to sort it but i just feel like because i have neighbours that dont work or own their house they dont care about others. I just want some peace and quiet at times in garden and it annoys me that they have damaged my fence and act like i dont have a right to say anything. i have thought it was a mistake to live here and also i hate the lack of privacy. I work really long hours and i just want a nice garden to relax in when i can.

i have called an estate agent to put my house up for sale but my ex thinks i'm overeacting and i care too much about the garden. I'm in need of advice of what to do as i'm so unhappy here.

OP posts:
Freeasabird76 · 05/07/2022 17:40

I know it's unfair but to get peace I would move.

ThreeKneeRepeater · 05/07/2022 17:46

Zombie thread.
Your advice now is probably no use to the OP.

Trinity65 · 05/07/2022 17:49

WooleyJ123 · 24/07/2020 23:36

You're not a snob

Of course in MN land those in social housing and on benefits are lovely people, all would work if they could and none commit acts of anti-social behavior Wink and ooh their kids are totally not feral.

But we all know it's not true. In my area you can tell which homes are housing association or social housing and those who are unfortunately living near or next to them in privately owned homes are the ones who tend to suffer. I would move if I were you, I myself would never willing live next door to HA or social housing tenants because the issues you're facing aren't uncommon

Really ?

Well in MY road my Private Renting Neighbour is the worst of all . In our Council Estate Street !!

925XX · 05/07/2022 18:17

It sound like hell! YANBU. This sort of stress can make you ill, reduce hard men to tiers and cause marriage problems. You are just asking for a bit of privacy and peace. I hope you get it soon.

925XX · 05/07/2022 18:18

tears

Georgyporky · 05/07/2022 18:25

Well, in the last 2 YEARS, perhaps OP has moved.

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