Would this annoy you, re. taking treats into work?

[Wecangosomewhere]

Don't know why this annoys me but it does. Sometimes at work, usually a couple of times a week, I or someone else will bring in some cookies or sweets or something for eveyone to share.

One co-worker though when she gets her share often says 'oh I 'll take it home for my daughter'

I feel like saying 'I'm bringing in things for us to have at work not to be taken home for children, if you want her to have treats buy them yourself'

I know it's only petty but it's annoying me!

Maybe she doesn't want to have it but doesn't want to offend you. I absolutely hate being force fed cakes etc that other colleagues have baked and brought in. My old job was like bloody bake off and they were all morally offended if I didn't eat their really manky looking cheesecake. So I started saying I was taking it home for DH and chucking it in the bin on the way home.

I don't really understand the problem as long as she isn't taking more than her fair share.

Of someone brings cakes or whatever in to work (pre apocalypse) I would bring 'mine' home for my kids because I'm vegan and can rarely eat whatever is brought. I take my own snacks to team meetings etc if I know someone has made cakes.

Could be any number of reasons why she doesn't want to eat treat foods several times a week - trying to lose weight, allergies, just doesn't like them and she might not want to explain herself every time. It does sound a bit petty to begrudge her taking it home for her child.

Oh dear..I do that. because I think it woukd be rude to say no but I am trying to lose weight.

My old job was like bloody bake off and they were all morally offended if I didn't eat their really manky looking cheesecake

Does this particular co worker bring in treats to share sometimes? If she does she's entitled to her share of everyone else's and if she doesn't want to eat them, why not take them home for her daughter.

I sometimes used to put my share in my lunchbox and take it home to share with DP. Some of the cakes were just so nice I felt I had to share them with him!

Does this particular co worker bring in treats to share sometimes? If she does she's entitled to her share of everyone else's and if she doesn't want to eat them, why not take them home for her daughter.

I sometimes used to put my share in my lunchbox and take it home to share with DP. Some of the cakes were just so nice I felt I had to share them with him!

We used to have this. But now our COVID rules means we can't bring food in to share. I'm hoping to lose three stone.

Yes, you're being very petty. I have no idea why it bothers you - do you feel she's not being grateful enough? Are you slighted by her mild indifference? I once had a colleague who took umbrage over the strangest things - counting out sweets to make sure everyone has an equal amount and that they ate them within an allotted time, sighing when people didn't adhere to her made up bun/cake rota.

Yea I wouldn’t be sharing homemade food with others in an office right now!

And no she is probably being polite and binning it!

I am the Queen of Petty Rule Driveness and even I would struggle to get worked up about this.

Don't you remember being a kid, OP? Wouldn't you have been touched/pleased if your mum had saved you her portion of something nice from work?

I’m going to be contrary, I do think it is a bit cheeky, it’s for sharing in work not ‘reserving’ your own portion.

She sounds like a right greedy cow.. bet she doesn't even have a daughter at home

@Butchyrestingface

I am the Queen of Petty Rule Driveness and even I would struggle to get worked up about this.

Don't you remember being a kid, OP? Wouldn't you have been touched/pleased if your mum had saved you her portion of something nice from work?

My mum used to do this for me, I loved it.

It made me feel almost included in her work day, and that she was still thinking of me.

@Butchyrestingface

I am the Queen of Petty Rule Driveness and even I would struggle to get worked up about this.

Don't you remember being a kid, OP? Wouldn't you have been touched/pleased if your mum had saved you her portion of something nice from work?

My mum used to do this for me, I loved it.

It made me feel almost included in her work day, and that she was still thinking of me.

Why does it make a difference whether the portion is eaten at work by colleague or at home by colleague's child?
How is taking her fair share 'cheeky'?

I think it's a bit weird to police what people do with their own portion of food.

We used to have a woman who would eat hers then go up and say ‘oh I’m taking some home for ‘spoiled child*’ I had to say one day that there was only enough for each person and she had her share! It might be even have been nice to ask the word on who brought it in if she could take extra home.

Stop forcing food on people then - one of the pre-Covid things I don’t miss is the succession of cakes etc brought in which you feel obliged to eat so as not to offend the office domestic goddesses, maybe your colleague feels the same.

YANBU, this would annoy me too! Part of the point is the shared experience.

This wouldn't bother me at all.

YANBU, this would annoy me too! Part of the point is the shared experience

I second this!

I couldn't be bothered getting wound up about it, but do see your point. As a pp said, part of the point is the shared experience - and I think it is ridiculous when someone has to share everything with their children, when said children aren't actually there.

I think it's weird. People used to bring treats to my work a lot. If you want it, you take it and eat it. If you don't want it let someone else have it. If you want thirds or fourths go wild but go quickly as it's normally gone by lunchtime. People taking it to bin on the way home is rude and wasteful.

It's hers so she can do what she likes with it.

The things people get het up about on MN, I wouldn't even give this a second thought.