Would this annoy you, re. taking treats into work?

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Don't know why this annoys me but it does. Sometimes at work, usually a couple of times a week, I or someone else will bring in some cookies or sweets or something for eveyone to share.

One co-worker though when she gets her share often says 'oh I 'll take it home for my daughter'

I feel like saying 'I'm bringing in things for us to have at work not to be taken home for children, if you want her to have treats buy them yourself'

I know it's only petty but it's annoying me!

I'm not a fan of this either way OP, look after yourselves and take your own "treats" in for your own drawer.

Is there any possibility she's had weight loss surgery? I have and do this a lot! It's mostly for 2 reasons:
1 - I actually want to eat the cake/sweet/treat but am not physically capable of doing so at the moment.
2 - I realy don't want whatever it is that is being offered but i get such negative comments when i refuse that i find it's sometimes easier to just take a piece and say i'll eat it later (i usually give it to my partner or someone else, i'd never bin it).

A lot of people don't know i have undergone weight loss surgery and would probably not imagine i have.

My kids are grown now, but I used to take my portion home for the kids as we were that skint it was nice to bring them a treat and so save our money for healthy food.

I used to take it home too when I worked in an office because I've been on a very strict 1200 calorie a day diet for the last 15 years. That diet does not allow for a never-ceasing merry-go-round of one upmanship cakes, but try and tell that to the domestic gods and goddesses and they look at you like you just dropped kicked their first born.

I do this sometimes. I don't eat cakes or sweets. I will usually just decline if offered, but I will use the "taking my portion away for later / for DS" if it's something homemade and the person looks a bit crestfallen that people aren't eating it, or if I am being pressured and can't be bothered with the hassle of explaining / insisting. I'd never take more than my share and will avoid taking it at all if I can do so without causing upset / offence.

Maybe she doesn't want to eat other people's homemade cake?

When I worked retail people were always bringing cake and biscuits in and it was very rare that any of it looked even remotely appetising 🙈

But people would be mortally offended if you decided you didn't want any!

I find this a bit strange. It's not 'her share' really is it? You bring the cakes in for people you know (and presumably like) to have if they want one, not allocated cakes for each specific person. They're not dividends, they're treats. Wouldn't PP find it strange if you saw someone always going to the biscuit tin with a tuppaware tub, saying they were just taking their 'share' home for their kids? Or if they took their 'share' of teabags home for their husband? I just find it a bit odd. If you don't want the cake that has been brought in to share between work colleagues then just don't eat it!

It's not always so simple as just not eating it though.

I work in a mostly very health-conscious team (a good thing!). On the infrequent occasions someone brings in a lovely homemade cake, most people will refuse it, and they end up looking like they want to cry. People here know I don't eat sweets. So I take it, make a fuss about how gorgeous it looks and my son will love it (actually he does) and it smoothes things over.

In previous (not health conscious) teams, I'd be harangued with "oh go on, why not, you're so slim, one slice won't hurt, you deserve it, go on SPOIL yourself for once" etc etc to the point that it becomes really quite uncomfortable, so it's easier to say "oh go on then, let me wrap one up to have after dinner".

In situations where I can just say no I will.

no it wouldnt annoy me

if my dm went out for a meal she would always bring me home the chocolate!

When you bring a cake in to give away to colleagues, you do just that. Once a gift is given you don’t dictate what someone does with it. Just bad form on your part.

Office tea and coffee is for use in the office. Not for taking home. Just like the paper clips.

If an employee wants to elect herself office cake Marshall then she is the problem. The solution is that you stop with cake making. Its not the beloved activity you think it is. Especially if you are making up rules and developing a bitchy attitude about it.

Either give the cakes in good spirit or don't give the cakes. So many reasons not to have cakes at work at all. My guess is colleague is trying to polite but doesn't want to eat it.

DH's Japaneese employer has banned them at work - healthy shared treats only in the workplace, as the Japaneese employees who come over for a 2 year stint always go home obese.

You sound delightful, @Fatted.

Someone once took the half a cake home, people were not amused the next day. Same person who never contributed to collections.

Would you rather she said keep your cake, I dont want it? Or stop forcing food on me when I need to lose weight? Or maybe it is a case of I cant afford treats for my child so I'll take this home for them.

I rarely eat cake or sweets but if you brought in a carton of cherries I'd happily eat my share. Perhaps you need to be more imaginative/ considerate and bring in something everyone can share.

I think office treats are not a good idea atm anyway for hygiene reasons

Oh I hate this shared treats at work thing.

We only do it on birthdays in our office, and around xmas. Every week would be way too much for me.

Twice a week is a lot of cakes! In my office, we only get cakes on birthdays etc.

Maybeshe didn’t want to seem rude by not having some, After the trouble you had gone to make them.

@AliceinBunnyland

I think office treats are not a good idea atm anyway for hygiene reasons

i agree, i am nervous taking a biscuit from the shared biscuit tin but my colleagues think i am OTT

@GrumpyHoonMain

When a certain someone bakes at work I usually have a piece immediately, a piece after everybody else has had one, and then if there’s any left will take ‘a piece for my husband’ and scoff it on the train.

Just this

YABVU
I hate it when people insist on forcing on others their sugar laden junk food 'treats'. She does not have to to explain to nosey col/workers why she doesn't want them.

That would be me! That's because I don't want the bloody treats. I work very hard to watch my weight and turn down my absolute favourite treats, so the last thing I want is a piece of home made cake that doesn't look much appealing to me in the first place.

The problem is if I say no, I get the 'come on, a little piece won't do you harm, you're skinny anyway, I stayed up until 1am to make it and my boyfriend said it was delicious, it will be good for you', so I say that I'll take it home for my kids as this usually shuts them up. It usually ends up in the bin as my kids are not that fuss either.

If you bring things to the office, fine but don't expect people to want to eat it.

This is one of the most ridiculous posts I've ever seen.

One of my colleagues does slimming world and is very strict with her diet. If there are treats being handed round she takes one home for her son instead. Why would anyone be annoyed by that?

I’ve read this as though this woman is having her piece of cake at work, and then taking more ‘to take home’. Yes I think this is out of order and I would annoy me too. I used to work in an office where we often took in treats: a man from another dept would see them and before we knew it he would have half of them away for his own department. It might seem petty to some that we told him to stop, but it was really annoying us.

If there is anything left over which would be wasted then by all means take it home for someone else but don't take one if you're not going to eat it during the working day.